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No matter how
much fun escorting can be, for some it can become tiresome and a
chore. Others find love and want to give escorting up in favour of a
new relationship. Some only enter the profession for a short time in
order to pay off debts whilst others come to the decision to return
to a ‘normal’ life free of the potential accompanying social stigma
and daily deceit to fellow mums at the school gate and/or loved ones
over ones chosen job.
Whatever the
reason, ladies should consider their longer term life goals beyond
escorting before starting out as it can affect how the business
should be run. For example, if you want to show your face as it is a
good selling point, then what happens when you want to move on to a
high profile career or if you already have one and escorting is a
bit on the side? You need to be ready for any backlash as the media
and general society tend to not look too kindly on ex sex workers.
Once a hooker always a hooker in some peoples eyes, just ask poor
Heather Mills McCartney whose alleged high class call girl past was
belittled by all the tabloids helping earn her the gold digger
image. Far smaller celebrities like Big Brothers 7’s Nikki Grahame
also found her alleged call girl past on the front page of the
newspapers. Sure, it can fast become yesterday’s news but if you
have loved ones who could suffer (there are many accounts of ladies’
children being picked on horribly at school because people found out
of what mum did) then do think carefully about your privacy whilst
doing the job – Do you show your face? Do you tell your favourite
clients and/or other ladies your real name? Do you work from home?
Do you use the same phone number for business and pleasure or buy a
separate phone? Do you register your website’s domain in your own
name? Do you see clients from your home town?
Scaremongering
aside…..escorting can be a difficult job to leave thanks to the
relatively few hours one has to work to earn a decent salary.
However it is the sort of job which one should leave if it begins to
affect them mentally. No-one likes doing a job they hate and when
its such a personal job, as escorting is, then it must be doubly
difficult to handle mentally.
So again, even when
you are just starting out, think about what you want to do after. As
we have already pointed out, you can work relatively few hours for a
good salary, which can mean you have the time to study (full
time/part time/distance learning) for a new career or do some
volunteer work to gain experience in a chosen field or even take the
time to do some networking within the industry you want to move
into. Some useful sites:
Volunteering England
Volunteering with the
Citizens Advice Bureau
Hot Courses
Learn Direct
The Open University
Careers advice from
Monster
If debt is your
motivator for escorting and you want to clear it as quickly as
possible, then work out a plan to get it paid off in the most
appropriate way, don’t just trundle along throwing money at bills as
they come in and not opening envelopes. There are many debt
advisory programmes (some free, some with a charge) but if you do
not want to share your income details then draw up a plan yourself –
the Citizens Advice Bureau have really useful debt advisory booklets
with template letter for sending to your creditors and lots of
useful advice – or join and digest the abundance of brilliant advice
and information at:
Money Saving Expert
Of course many of
you will earn enough in a few years to clear your mortgage and do
something even less conventional with your life. Many girls have
bought properties abroad on their earnings and retired early. Others
prefer to live for now and buy designer clothes and enjoy a more,
shall we say, hedonistic lifestyle.
Whatever your
motivation, remember that escorting can be a real life enabler if
you manage the job and don’t let it manage you. |
