What would you describe as "A burn out" exactly?

[kinkyboots]

Hello all,

A very quick general question

A term i've seen a lot lately when reading through industry related forums, and also blogs, is "having a burn out".

I was just curious as to what it actually means? If anybody would care to share their definition/perception of the word i'd be grateful

Many thanks 

[happyhappyjoyjoy]

A burn out to me can happen in whatever industry you choose. Basically I feel it means that you've worked so hard, so much until you mentally or physically cannot work anymore. I've had this in past job and it resulted in panic attacks and extreme anxiety (never again will I work in the corporate world!) others it could be feeling run down, boredom of the job, losing all joy of the job, not being able to sleep, being snappy and horrible to clients.

I've learnt no matter how desperate I am for money I will always make sure I am able to switch off from work. I only check emails twice a day. I turn off my phone after 10 pm and I make sure I plan things with friends and family so I don't have a choice about working.

[Richard]

It's sex work depression. There's a good leaflet with things to watch out for at

respectqld.org.au/flyers-and-photos/sex%20work%20and%20burnout/view

I knew I had a problem when I only wanted to see one of the previous dozen or so clients ever again, and not that one for the near future.

The classic flyer is

anniesprinkle.org/how-to-cure-sex-worker-burnout

[MiaSg]

I think I suffer from this. ..
I started out when I was 18(I'm now 20 years old) and everything was sooo fun, exciting and ego boosting. I was making very good money each week and now sex work seems to have lost its magic. I get sad when I come across timewasters or clients who turned out to be douche bags.
I don't know why I feel like this.

[kinkyboots]

I can relate to that Mia, I'm also 20 and began sex work when i was 18

I often have days where i feel totally "meh" but i do enjoy myself the majority of the time when clients are decent

Thanks for your replies ladies, i get what it means now 

[Wife4rent]

I can relate to that Mia, I'm also 20 and began sex work when i was 18

Oh dear, I can see that there may be a shortage of "MILF" in the next decade or so....

Having worked since "before" you were in nappies, I do wonder about how things have now changed, gone are the days of placing an ad in the local paper and taking what comes to your door, not knowing who it will be or if they are a "good" punter or not, relying just on how the guy sounds on the phone and learning a lot from that. Not knowing what others were doing in your own area, let alone across the whole country.

it would make for an interesting debate, the good and the bad over the last decade or so.

Sarah x x x

[Cheryl87]

I think for the first "honeymoon period" you feel invincible, and you don't notice the sneaky ways that a lot of clients will use to try and get one over on you, or the disrespectful ways don't bother you as much, because you don't yet know their game . Nowadays I can read them from the minute they come in the door, or even on the phone, I can predict the behaviour to a tee, even the phrases they will use  Also the money seems never-ending and you adjust your lifestyle to fit that and all of a sudden you find yourself burnt out but with huge rent etc and a designer lifestyle.

I've been working for years and years and I find I really need to keep a check on it, or else I do get burn out quite easily. I find having the attitude of 'I will give as good a service as I can but I will not be affected by ANYTHING clients say about me - bad or good, and I will keep my feet firmly grounded in real life' helps immensely. As does a "purpose" for the money rather than just frittering it all away.

I can tell I'm in burn out when I feel a horrible anger feeling rising up at even the slightest of bad client behaviour and the thought of another client makes me feel serious dread. Also I just want to wear "non-sexy" clothes like big sweaters and not deal with men in general at all, except a very chosen few non-client men lol. I just need to take a day off or a couple of days off when that happens, regroup and refocus on my plans for the money then get back into action. I find the phone has to remain totally off for 1-2 days and all work related websites cannot be visited! 

[MM3]

I think I've burn out in general.
I have a massive essay to hand in (due in early May) and I've  not written a single word: not that I've not done my research, just have nothing to say. Wish I was as wordy in my dissertation as I am on these forums.
In terms of work: can't be bothered, cancelled a few hours booking on Sunday for no good reason (with plenty of notice, off course) because didn't feel like it.
I arrange a booking  all seems good etc, and on the day just don't feel like doing it, does it happen to somebody else?

[Sassy Slapper]

When you simply cannot suffer the idiots any longer and tell them how they are being idiotic, also when in doggy you are rolling your eyeballs and thinking hurry the fuck up and are happy to drop the cock the second the time is up when they are taking the P a bit. I still had patience with the nice guys but I lost ALL patience with the twonks, thats when I knew I had to do something else for a while so I did. It took 4 years of working 5 days a week to get to that point though for me personally.

[Cheryl87]

also when in doggy you are rolling your eyeballs and thinking hurry the fuck up and are happy to drop the cock the second the time is up when they are taking the P a bit. I still had patience with the nice guys but I lost ALL patience with the twonks

  exactly this!!!!!! Or making faces at the pushy and irritating ones in the mirror/behind their backs !

[Wife4rent]

I have a massive essay to hand in (due in early May) and I've  not written a single word: not that I've not done my research, just have nothing to say. Wish I was as wordy in my dissertation as I am on these forums.

Having other important issues to resolve can create stress and lack of concentration on other matters, even resentment of how you are spending that time.

People do not understand how mentally draining being an escort can be and I found many girls that I met years ago were not really cut out for it. they saw it as easy money but let far too many little things get them down or irritate them.

Stay calm and conquer....

Sarah x x x

[happyhappyjoyjoy]

I have found something recently that really helps out with burn out and stress. Meditation. Ommmm!