Do you kiss clients? Is it possible to offer GFE excluding kissing?

[ladyinred]

Hi, I used to be ok with kissing clients but I can't take it anymore. I have a partner now and it just seems ... wrong. I hate when they are kissing me, and they are expecting me to be passionate when doing it so... I don't like the whole saliva exchange and kissing with fat, ugly strangers etc....
Does any of you offer GFE without kissing?

[wishlist]

iv only ever done 1 meet where the client wanted NO kissing, it felt too clinical for me

[ladyinred]

I don't mind if it's clinical ...

[Jill]

I can only say how I feel about this but carrying out a session with a client without kissing or at least being willing to kiss is just not something I would do.  Excluding those who prefer not to kiss and there are a very few, and those who don't deserve our kisses because of bad oral hygiene then full kissing is a part of what we/I do.

I do not necessarily enjoy kissing all my clients, not every man kisses to my liking and those who just let the saliva pour get politely told to reign it in a bit but an initial kissing and a few more interspersed with the other "doings" is what I get paid a lot of money for.

As long as it is made plain on your adverts that you prefer not to kiss then the men have a choice to see you or not.

[newbieNW]

This is more like an issue when you are in love with someone (esp, early, "in love" stage) you may find escorting harder.  It's fairly common.  I know there are enlightened escorts who are in LTR where their man won't have issues with.  Personally, I'm not sure if I could juggle LTR & escorting myself.  I get what you mean totally.     

[Beff]

  It's not just you, I'm in a Long Term Relationship and every other guy just seems like such a gross kisser. If I had a quid for every time someone tried to jam their tongue down my throat I'd be rich! I think it's one of those things you have to offer though, so I carry on!

[TrashAzn]

It doesn't bother me that much kissing clients bad breath aside etc. I just go into work mode and give them a more personal feeling from my service because it tends to make them feel good about it and want more. I have a boyfriend and of course kissing him feels very different I just see kissing clients as part of the job. As far as GFE and what it includes the interpretation of that seems to vary a bit so maybe you could say you offer that and not kiss but a lot of punters seem to expect it if you do. When they don't want to kiss or anything it feels kind of cold. I don't think I'd want to be in the job if I just felt like a blow up doll they come to pop in and leave.

[MissDee]

It's not just you, I'm in a Long Term Relationship and every other guy just seems like such a gross kisser. If I had a quid for every time someone tried to jam their tongue down my throat I'd be rich! I think it's one of those things you have to offer though, so I carry on!

Lol surely you get more than a quid every time some one attempts this (sorry it tickled me    )

[Miranda111]

Hi, I used to be ok with kissing clients but I can't take it anymore. I have a partner now and it just seems ... wrong. I hate when they are kissing me, and they are expecting me to be passionate when doing it so... I don't like the whole saliva exchange and kissing with fat, ugly strangers etc....
Does any of you offer GFE without kissing?

There should be no pressure to kiss clients if you are not comfortable with this. But I don't think you can still call it GFE, as kissing is essentially a central part of the 'girlfriend experience'.

Miranda x

[amy]

There should be no pressure to kiss clients if you are not comfortable with this. But I don't think you can still call it GFE, as kissing is essentially a central part of the 'girlfriend experience'.

I've been told at one time or another (and usually in an extremely patronising way) that GFE 'has' to include everything from OWO to bareback (presumably because lots of people don't use condoms when having sex with their girlfriend). A popular one for the mansplainers is reverse oral which I don't offer, and usually because they didn't bother reading my ad properly and want to make it my fault .

I do think most will expect kissing if you advertise GFE but provided you make it clear it's not on offer, it's not cast in stone - you could also stick to closed mouth kissing as a compromise? I've had punters over the years who didn't want kissing on the mouth and the bookings were still very much GFE in type - I don't think it's as simple as a list of services you tick off one at a time and in my experience it's far more to do with being warm, friendly and affectionate in your approach rather than all the porno type moaning and pulling faces and stuff .

[Kendra]

There should be no pressure to kiss clients if you are not comfortable with this. But I don't think you can still call it GFE, as kissing is essentially a central part of the 'girlfriend experience'.

I've been told at one time or another (and usually in an extremely patronising way) that GFE 'has' to include everything from OWO to bareback (presumably because lots of people don't use condoms when having sex with their girlfriend). A popular one for the mansplainers is reverse oral which I don't offer, and usually because they didn't bother reading my ad properly and want to make it my fault .

I do think most will expect kissing if you advertise GFE but provided you make it clear it's not on offer, it's not cast in stone - you could also stick to closed mouth kissing as a compromise? I've had punters over the years who didn't want kissing on the mouth and the bookings were still very much GFE in type - I don't think it's as simple as a list of services you tick off one at a time and in my experience it's far more to do with being warm, friendly and affectionate in your approach rather than all the porno type moaning and pulling faces and stuff .

Totally agree, I've had the bareback pushers try to tell me that a GFE should mean exactly what  a girlfriend would do 

End of the day, you list the services you're comfortable doing, it's up to the client to decide on whether or not that suits him.

[Kay]

I'd say the vast majority of men booking a GFE would expect to kiss: it's very important to a lot of men. It's fine not to do it, so long as you're clear about that on your ads, but I don't think it would be appropriate to market yourself as offering a GFE if you did.

[The_Lynx]

I do kiss, and that's despite being in a LTR. Incidentally, as a result I don't mind clients with bad oral hygiene, because my partner's mouth is a total trainwreck.

[Sophie4u]

I very rarely kiss during a booking! Sometimes make me chuckle that I'd rather suck cock than kiss!
I do miss out on bookings because of this! I'm very honest when I get requests for 'lots of dfk'. I just don't like it and won't do it anymore! But I'm still busy, so no you don't have to kiss xxx

[ladyinred]

Sophie, thanks. I will refuse doing dfk.
Kissing an escort is clinical and a bit stupid itself, in my opinion.
They know well there is no passion.....