I don't think enough clients realise how much abuse some of us receive on a daily basis, I get it all the time. I know for a fact I have had a bad day of abuse/stalking and have found it difficult talking to client on the phone where my patience is low which then looks like I have a bad attitude when I don't, escort or not we're only human and some of us aren't great at brushing these things off. Some people would say take the day off if your feeling low but if I was to take a day off every time I was upset be a complete looser then I'd hardly ever be at work and I don't see why I should let these guys affect my income along with my happiness. I still get very upset when people are mean to me, don't know why I haven't learnt to deal with it.
I always have guys text me saying that my parents must be so proud of me which does really upset me cause it makes me feel guilty as I know my parents never brought me up to be a prostitute and if they ever found out it would destroy them and they would blame themselves thinking they had done something wrong along the way but the fact is my parents are very proud of me, the think I can look after myself, provide a decent lifestyle for myself, I am very generous and caring and I do everything I can to help them with financial difficulties they have at times. I treat them with respect and I show my love for them so much that they are forever telling me that I am a wonderful daughter.
These guys give me abuse usually for hanging up on them but I only hand up when something doesn't seem right or sound right, I don't see why I should entertain their call so when they realise I have hung up the abuse and threats just roll in which just confirms to me that I was correct to hang up on them so being able to tell that someone is a complete idiot/arsehole after speaking to them for a matter of seconds on the phone actually tells me that their parents must be proud of them since their bad manners and disrespect for other people/women rips right through them which say's a lot more about them as a person than me.
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I had a good laugh at Hollyoaks man's voicemail - he sounded harmless, but oh the comedy value
If I don't like the sound of someone I just say I'm busy today, sorry or "something's came up, I won't be available until later today" - I remain quite pleasant and neutral to them, so they've got no reason to kick off (of course, some of them do anyway, because they're fuckwits). If they get pushy for a time I ask them to call back about X time. I then hang up, store their number as something like "do not answer" and if I have gotten the unpleasant vibe, I block immediately. If they do kick off despite my being pleasant with them, I don't react - the reaction is what they want, ultimately, and I'm not prepared to hand it to them. If they are asking for things I won't cater to - MMF or whatever stupid shit they've dreamt up today in my eyes - again I just say "sorry its not something I enjoy or offer". I don't hang up straight away because I think it may be a genuine request (I've had clients ask during bookings if I would ever consider two men) as some women do offer the things I wouldn't touch (MMF, orgies and what not)
or its someone being a dick trying to get a rise out of Ze Prostitute - to me, personally, giving it 5 seconds in my head is not handing over power to them, whereas an instant click does. If its the latter, he's gotten a rise out of me, so he will then take it upon himself to troll me (for the lulz) via text and phone call. If its the former, then they're generally okay about it and hang up themselves.
Often I find the 'kill em with kindness' approach does work - if they know they're not getting a rise out of you, it bores the wind up merchants and they hang up. I don't like being hung up on myself, it infuriates me as I find it so rude so I figure that it must piss off other people too. However some people who call
do deserve to be hung up on and those ones I usually try and delay their abusive text message by seeming completely nonchalant about the crap they've came out with. Sometimes seeming completely blase about hearing "I really want to fuck you up the arse with my mate" surprises them.
At the end of the day though your parents are
right to be proud of you - you made the decision to do something that could easily set you up for life, to go far, to be financially stable and to achieve something in this life. If that is via escorting then fuck it, it still has the same end goal. I have a friend who knows what I do, who has a lot of financial worries and she said to me once "I wish I could do what you do, I would be comfortable financially for once". I know it would kill my family if they knew what I did too, but equally it would upset them if I was doing nothing with my life either. Sarcastic little comments like "your parents must be so proud of you" reflect more on the person making them - not you. xx
