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Meg_Foster

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Topic Suggestion - Male Students
« on: 12 October 2011, 06:27:03 am »
I would just love to read this article: How are heterosexual male students getting by without sex work? How do they perceive the rampant sexism barring entry into the sex industry?

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Re: Topic Suggestion - Male Students
« Reply #1 on: 12 October 2011, 08:35:07 am »
I would just love to read this article: How are heterosexual male students getting by without sex work? How do they perceive the rampant sexism barring entry into the sex industry?

And How are they managing to fund their way through uni without being involved in the female-dominated  sex industry?

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Re: Topic Suggestion - Male Students
« Reply #2 on: 12 October 2011, 02:29:49 pm »
I would just love to read this article: How are heterosexual male students getting by without sex work? How do they perceive the rampant sexism barring entry into the sex industry?

And How are they managing to fund their way through uni without being involved in the female-dominated  sex industry?

By getting their mothers/girlfriends to do it! lol

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Re: Topic Suggestion - Male Students
« Reply #3 on: 12 October 2011, 02:35:53 pm »
Bearing in mind this is a sex workers only forum and populated in the main by women, I suggest the best place to find out what male heterosexual students who are not involved with the sex industry in any way are doing for money might be to join one of their forums and ask them, rather than speculate about it here. There isn't anybody here who can answer.

Who is the 'topic suggestion' aimed at, when the group which is under discussion has no way whatsoever of participating?

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Re: Topic Suggestion - Male Students
« Reply #4 on: 12 October 2011, 04:07:02 pm »
I think this topic was started as a light hearted response to the many questions about female students  funding their student fees though sex work and what do male students do? How do they cope with the exclusion?Well that's the way I read it anyway.


If we can't laugh and have a joke then we may as well be crying. Lots of stuff that is talked about on here is not responded to by the people we talk about.people say things about clients; it is not as if they can come on here and defend themselves is it?

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Re: Topic Suggestion - Male Students
« Reply #5 on: 12 October 2011, 04:18:29 pm »
What I meant was we can share work stuff with each other here including stuff relating to clients (and things that happen with them which affect us all) as well as asking punters in person, but a discussion thread about people who have no involvement with the industry, no likelihood of ever doing so and are therefore not represented on the forum seems a little pointless.

I know this is the Off Topic section, but it's still supposed to have at least some tenuous connection with working in the sex industry or we might as well talk about what sort of mileage plumbers normally get in their vans, or which is the best grade of safety boot to wear in an oil refinery. Which we can, of course, but since few if any of us have any way of gaining any sort of proper insight, most people would probably think that better places to do this would be plumbers/oil workers forums.

I'm trying to explain, but I'm worn out. If anybody still genuinely can't understand what I mean, please PM me and I'll answer as soon as I've finished banging my head against the wall.
« Last Edit: 12 October 2011, 04:20:45 pm by amy »

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Re: Topic Suggestion - Male Students
« Reply #6 on: 12 October 2011, 04:48:06 pm »
I think it kind of is related.
My youngest son 21, knows what I do, he knows i do it to support the family, yet he doesn't deal with it well.
I've suggested many times if he got a job...or at least signed on, I might not HAVE to do it.

So it wouldn't surprise me if there are mothers and girlfriends escorting to get their sons/boyfriends through uni.

Then again....not many as bloody stupid as me so probably not!!!

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Re: Topic Suggestion - Male Students
« Reply #7 on: 12 October 2011, 04:56:03 pm »
I think it kind of is related.
My youngest son 21, knows what I do, he knows i do it to support the family, yet he doesn't deal with it well.
I've suggested many times if he got a job...or at least signed on, I might not HAVE to do it.

So it wouldn't surprise me if there are mothers and girlfriends escorting to get their sons/boyfriends through uni.

Then again....not many as bloody stupid as me so probably not!!!

Coty, the topic of mothers and girlfriends working as prostitutes to support men, irrespective of why they cannot support themselves, is not the topic of this thread - apart from anything else it is a very appropriate subject for this forum and I daresay many would welcome it being discussed.

The topic the OP posted related to the male students themselves who are not working as prostitutes, not what their nearest and dearest are up to and was originally posted in the Politics and Media section, likely as an attempt to respond to the many enquiries we get about female students. It was moved here because it was and is completely off topic - 'joke' threads do not belong in that section, and the OP had already been asked once to try and stay on topic which she was clearly unable to do. And I have another booking to get ready for.

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Re: Topic Suggestion - Male Students
« Reply #8 on: 12 October 2011, 06:16:22 pm »
Right.

Apologies.

I will keep light-hearted jokes about media depictions of prostitution to myself (or to a personal blog) in the future?

And no - as 'benefiting off the sex work profits of others' is an answer to the question "How do they get by" appreciate responses.

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Re: Topic Suggestion - Male Students
« Reply #9 on: 12 October 2011, 06:46:48 pm »
Yeah, duh! I already pointed out that this topic was most likely started as a light hearted jokey response in light of  the many enquiries regarding students/ sex workers that  keep springing up.


   If this is  the off topic section then clearly the OP is doing nothing wrong with posting here . I don't see what is so wrong with having a laugh and a joke. It is not hurting anyone; I am sorry you don't like it just because it is  hypothetical and does not have a definitive answer.

I am so sorry that you Amy dislike this post, but as this person is writing about something that is off topic and is in the Off topic section then I don't see what is the big deal.


Okay, you do not  have to like it, but surely if you do not like others having a laugh  then it would be best to say nothing ?


For your information, I did not choose to post because I do not understand   what you are trying to say. I posted as I have a difference  of opinion and have a right to defend that opinion.


It seems to me that many posts and things  that people say continually get shot down in flames. Not everyone can  be so eloquent in their writing  and perhaps not all  ladies on here are so well educated at you as you are. Maybe some people really do struggle with forums such as these and how they work.




You  are banging your head against a brick wall? Yes, join the club.


« Last Edit: 12 October 2011, 07:16:16 pm by Lorissa Charles »

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Re: Topic Suggestion - Male Students
« Reply #10 on: 12 October 2011, 06:54:04 pm »
P.S .There isn't anywhere else off topic  to go to where people can talk about such things collectively.
« Last Edit: 12 October 2011, 07:16:55 pm by Lorissa Charles »

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Re: Topic Suggestion - Male Students
« Reply #11 on: 12 October 2011, 09:36:43 pm »
The main issue here, I think, is that moderaters need to read every post in this forum to check that the content isn't unacceptable (i.e. that nobody's account was hacked, or that the newest member isn't just a spambot, or that nobody has said anything wildly offensive that will turn a thread into a massive argument, etc). We have to check every single post otherwise something would slip through here, and something would slip through there, and before you know it, the whole forum becomes an unusable mess that drives off all the good posters (not to mention deterring potentially vulnerable newbies from posting). Maintaining an online 'social' space is really difficult and takes a lot of work, particularly when that online space has an important goal and purpose.

Therefore when things are posted that are more like off-hand comments you might just say to a mate, rather than Things The Sex Worker Community Need To Discuss, it can be a bit frustrating. We all like funny links and jokes and random topics of conversation about anything and everything! But they are best put into emails, texts, phone conversations or chats over (some/many) glasses of wine. More casual situations than a safety and support forum.

P.S .There isn't anywhere else off topic  to go to where people can talk about such things collectively.

I know there may be personal or other sorts of reasons why a sex worker may choose not to make friends within the industry in real life, but... well, I'm not really sure what they would be. Especially if you're looking for people to have casual jokey chats with about things that you don't need mods stressing over! :) Perhaps swap numbers with some fellow escorts and text each other when something funny pops into your head? Or start a really, really general discussion forum where people can chat about anything if you do prefer to be online? I know this is boring because I repeat it so much but SAAFE is for helping people who are potentially vulnerable or scared or otherwise in need. That's why we have such intensive moderation - to keep the focus above all, always, on helping posters who are in need of answers so that they can stay safe and sound. If you'd like to create a place, online or IRL, that's just about general chatting then I'm pretty sure we'd all be really positive about that idea and interested to check it out as long as you aren't too furious with us lot moderating this place. ;)
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