relationships with former punters.

[LucyA]

Exactly as said before, he knows you work and its his problem that he`s insecure. I know plenty of escorts that have boyf/ husbands who fully accept and support their woman. On the other hand, I worked with a lady who gave up escorting for a guy who promised her the earth, had a goood job and seemed perfect on paper. Three years later, shes a bored housewife working part time and wondering why he`s working overtime when he dosent seem to be getting paid for it??? Go figure lol!!!!

My ex was jealous of my escorting jobs and decided that it was tit for tat, I was earning the money paying the bills, etc, while he was spending it on other girls and phonesex. When caught, he tried to blame me for his actions!!!! This guy sounds similiar to be honest.

I see this relationship starting out on rocky ground, lose him honey, you`re worth more.

[ana30]

Also- prob such a naive thing to say but, once in a relations hip id like to assume he wouldnt seek services of another wg whereas il be shagging strangers daily.

Why are you assuming this?

 He has already proved himself having a double morality ("hon, it's OK If do payed sex but it's not OK if you do it, ok?") A double morality that proves pretty chauvinistic so -even if- you guys have talked monogamy he's not going to follow the rules as he seems to have his "own agenda".

[BBW_Cora]

The former punter i was with for 3 years was still using other girls services. I had told him I didn't mind if he did so long as he told me and was honest about it. He didn't tell me, he lied about it for a long time. Maybe the naughtiness of doing it behind my back was what excited him, who knows 

[EmilyJones]

The former punter i was with for 3 years was still using other girls services. I had told him I didn't mind if he did so long as he told me and was honest about it. He didn't tell me, he lied about it for a long time. Maybe the naughtiness of doing it behind my back was what excited him, who knows 

Sometimes I think it is the case that people prefer the lying and cheating aspect, and even if they had genuine free reign from their other half would still prefer to be secretive. As a person who finds honesty and trust more of a turn-on in relationships, it's a mystery to me why someone would go through all the stress of lying on purpose - maybe the rest of their lives are not very exciting?! Ah, who knows. People are odd.

[ana30]

I had told him I didn't mind if he did so long as he told me and was honest about it. He didn't tell me, he lied about it for a long time. Maybe the naughtiness of doing it behind my back was what excited him

I never really understood why some grow up men will act like 8 year olds. I guess it's a form of  childish"power trip". A reminiscence from their childhood when "mummy would tell them "not to go there " and they would go just because mummy had order not to so it made the trip "exciting". I'm not saying all men are like that, there some grown up men but quite a few are pretty inmature (to say the least). I always found this childish behaviour a total turn-off.

[curvygrace]

yes totally. its a done and dusted situtation. its not gonna happen. it is double standards and yes he would use it as future ammunition.

but i do wonder if il ever find a nice man friend :-( iv been single for a good year now.

[Meg_Foster]

Curvygrace: What has worked best for me in the past is to simply say "I was single when I met you. I had an emotional need that was unfilled, and thus I was open to a romantic relationship with you, a client, who I really liked. The same goes for any classmates, friends, whatever. If I'm single, I have an unfilled emotional need and will be open to a romantic relationship. If I'm in a healthy relationship with someone I have chemistry with, I will not have an emotional need. Thus, I will no longer be open to romantic or emotionally involved relationships with clients, colleagues, classmates, friends or strangers."

Makes sense, no?