Found out by my partner last night...

[Helen4444]

Hi my partner found my profile last night and now we are over. I've been escorting before I met him tried to stop but just couldn't..we have been together 11months and he won't. See past it..I feel terrible but can't help thinking
thinking that it's still what I want to do..I knew it would only be a matter of time and I was right..this has taught me that you can't have your cake and eat it..

[meetingdiversity]

Hi my partner found my profile last night and now we are over. I've been escorting before I met him tried to stop but just couldn't..we have been together 11months and he won't. See past it..I feel terrible but can't help thinking
thinking that it's still what I want to do..I knew it would only be a matter of time and I was right..this has taught me that you can't have your cake and eat it..

Sorry to hear but deciet can come at a price like that especially with the 9-5 jobs. Prostitution isn't looked upon lighty in society.  This is why in my experience it is better to be single while doing this. Yes it can get isolating at times but this part of prozzing is like that.

[Pink~Princess]

They always find out in the end, truth always comes out and that's why I haven't so much as been on a date since I started escorting until very recently (just before Christmas) but only cause he knew what I did, in the end he couldn't handle it so its best I stay on my own till I am done with this line of work.

Just out of curiosity, how did he find your profile? What was he doing on AW?

xx

[Hadley]

I'm really sorry to hear that Bex and hope you are OK. How did he find out?

[roseanna]

Just out of curiosity, how did he find your profile? What was he doing on AW?

xx

Exactly my thoughts.

[Helen4444]

He found it on my new phone that I'd been playing about with..I love him but I love escorting too I'm torn :-(
.he wants to meet up on weds to talk

[scottishmilf]

Im doing the thing you shouldn't do.. my bf found out told me not to but im doing it anyway. the way im justifying it is its only a month until we move and we could really use the money.

Do what you want to do but maybe unlike me be honest theres a really good blog from a mans point of view you could always show to him http://    christianbvega.     blogspot.com.au/    2013/04/how-to-date-sex-worker.html

(dont know if SAAFE has a problem with me putting the link straight up so i put some spaces in between it just take them out to have a look)

Anyway you might be surprised if you talk to him explain how much you like him and also how much the work means to you.

Best of luck if you would like to have someone to talk to feel free to PM me xoxoxo

[Helen4444]

Hi!He doesn't understand he just thinks I'm a slut and he's not budging he's took his stuff and everything..I'll give hin ages days then hope he calms down about it enough to talk

[KimberlyC]

That blog article was wonderful! Absolutely spot-on and perfect.

OP, you can't change a lifetime of cultural conditioning to view women's sexuality in the way that the majority of people do. Most people will assume bizarre, lurid things about prostitutes and it's the minority who can actually understand that we're ordinary people who just don't mind having sex with strangers. Try to remember that when this guy is unable to see past his prejudices and look at the real person you are. It's nothing to do with who you really are, or how good you are. It's all him.

[roseanna]

That blog article was wonderful! Absolutely spot-on and perfect.

OP, you can't change a lifetime of cultural conditioning to view women's sexuality in the way that the majority of people do. Most people will assume bizarre, lurid things about prostitutes and it's the minority who can actually understand that we're ordinary people who just don't mind having sex with strangers. Try to remember that when this guy is unable to see past his prejudices and look at the real person you are. It's nothing to do with who you really are, or how good you are. It's all him.

Maybe. But I think the guys that are capable of that level of acceptance are very few and far between. Which is ironic when you consider the crap that many of them expect us to put up with.

[Helen4444]

Thanks kimberley that's a good quote..it's definitely over now and I just have to move on with things I'm not gonna stop escorting I love it too much..just a shame he couldn't see past it

[River]

Hey Bex
If that's the end all you can do is move on and avoid this happening again.
I've always told my partners that I escort, always before anything long term.
A first or second date, though mostly before a first date.
That way if it's a deal breaker no one gets hurt.
And if we do date and it goes further, then they are going in with some awareness.
Though of course you still need understanding later on.
Coz it's not a society norm and is a lot for a partner to deal with.

I hope things work out for you.

[Helen4444]

Thanks jodie we are still texting and wants to meet on friday but don't know if anything will change..I don't know if I love him enough to give up escorting it's hard :-(  don't know what to do

[IllusiveLady]

Hiya Bex,

Sorry to hear about your predicament. I would like to bring a little happiness to the situation though! I personally have done the same as Jodie and been upfront from the start. My current partner took about 6 months to accept what I do. Now we have a fantastic relationship because he understands it's just my job. Although he doesn't like to hear about it in any detail whatsoever (understandable) I'm not hiding anything.

Of course not all men will be so accepting and if I'm honest I couldn't handle dating someone who did the same job. I know that makes me a huge hypocrite but it's also down to... jealousy! Evil thing that it is.

Anyway good luck and if it doesn't work out with this guy don't write off dating altogether because it can work out with the right person xx

[Helen4444]

Thanks we met last night but he's not understanding at all so there's the difference of opinions..at least I can carry on with it now without having to worry about him!