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Author Topic: Cancelled an overnight, should I refund deposit (and a rant belch)  (Read 1948 times)

tigerlily

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Ahhh, should have posted this in clients who txt too much or some other thread but kind of went off my head and had to rant for a minute.

Just cancelled a booking because a guy who'd been txting me constantly since he made it, was suddenly silent the day of the booking when I asked him to confirm. It was supposed to be an overnight too and he'd made a deposit, and I'd met him and all that jazz. Obviously the guy was kind of on uppers, but I figured I could get through it. But it really pissed me off today when he didn't respond to my morning message asking if the booking was confirmed, and then contacted after our date was supposed to have begun telling me to come around as planned, that he fell asleep and hadn't checked his phone, and then asking why I hadn't just showed up. To which I had to say, no way, not coming if you're going to just treat my time as a game and not respect that I may have a f*cking life. Or something like that :)

Will teach me to mess with a guy who's probably on drugs. Should have just cancelled when he started txting me ALL THE TIME, but figured I could work through it, my mistake.

But what do you do about a deposit? I mean, technically he called up after the date started, and he had his fun with all the txts. Plus I wouldn't know how to get it back to him anyway. Would you return it? I just fear the repercussions of someone who's high and has too much time on his hands...

Also I feel like he's jerking me around, so he had his fun and took up a lot of my time, and I'm happy I got compensated something for it. Grrrr.
« Last Edit: 30 October 2014, 09:26:47 pm by tigerLily »
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Reni

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Re: Cancelled an overnight, should I refund deposit (and a rant belch)
« Reply #1 on: 30 October 2014, 09:54:09 pm »
It's a tough one.
Firstly if I suspect someone on drugs I don't see them as they are more likely to be unpredictable so once I realised I would have cancelled and refunded the deposit.
He paid the deposit to guarantee you will see him. If he did fall asleep but still contacted you during the time of overnight allowances need to be made. If it was the next day then no. But you did also miss out on other potential bookings.
You spent time on texts which I personally do not do, (text or email ping ponging) but at the same time if clients have genuine queries or request they will be answered.
In this case looking on as an outsider, I would refund especially as you are scared of repercussion of a suspected drug addict.
You might note how he wasted your time and hopefully learn how to handle similar situations in the future?

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Re: Cancelled an overnight, should I refund deposit (and a rant belch)
« Reply #2 on: 30 October 2014, 10:14:24 pm »
I would refund it, will save you from future drama, even though this was his fault.  Just say you have refunded him back as a good will gesture but very politely won't take future booking from him.

tigerlily

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Re: Cancelled an overnight, should I refund deposit (and a rant belch)
« Reply #3 on: 30 October 2014, 11:01:11 pm »
Well I offered to refund and he just declined, so I guess I can absolve myself. I suppose maybe I thought because I've been around people who are high before I could handle it, but a completely different thing when it's a stranger who wants sex in his home! Plus always a slight fear he might try to drug me, and a concern that it would just go on and on and on with no end. So maybe I was dragging my feet and didn't handle the situation most professionally. Thanks for the support guys, it helped me calm down and at least try to settle the dust.

I dunno. Would any of you have gone over there after he called late? But yeah, many lessons learned. Don't get too greedy with job, don't let it consume you, don't agree to things you are already on the fence about. Bad me.
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Re: Cancelled an overnight, should I refund deposit (and a rant belch)
« Reply #4 on: 31 October 2014, 09:24:48 am »
I thought the point of taking a deposit was to avoid being fucked over by exactly this sort of situation. However, if I thought they were going to kick off it's easier to just refund.


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Re: Cancelled an overnight, should I refund deposit (and a rant belch)
« Reply #5 on: 31 October 2014, 05:55:44 pm »
I thought the point of taking a deposit was to avoid being fucked over by exactly this sort of situation. However, if I thought they were going to kick off it's easier to just refund.



My sentiments exactly.