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mollymoppet

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Can I really become an escort without having sex with them???
« on: 07 September 2008, 11:04:45 pm »
Hi, I'm sure this is just too good to be true....
I rang an ad in the paper re Escorts, was told that I will earn ?120.00 an hour, min of 3 hours a time, just to go out with a man and be wined and dined by him, no sex needed.

To join the agency I need to pay ?550.00 for the year, I said I didn't have the cash, so they told me I could pay ?100.00 tomorrow which will get me 4 'dates' this will then give me and and the agency a chance to see if its for me.

I'm a large woman, a size 20, I asked if this wouldn't be a problem? the lady assured me that its all down to personality (does make me wonder why I'm still single lol) however did ask for my personal details, hair, eyes etc, then suggested I send a pic in to add to my details on their web site.

The company is unique121, if anyone can help me at all I would be so grateful......


Moll


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« Reply #1 on: 07 September 2008, 11:29:41 pm »
You should never have to pay any money upfront. The rate she quotes is the sort of rate a 'full' sexual escort charges. If it's so good then ask them to deduct the money from the first job you get. Shouldn't be a problem if they are bona fide - which is very doubtful.

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« Reply #2 on: 07 September 2008, 11:35:54 pm »
It's a scam, no doubt about it. Read about it here:

http://www.saafe.info/main/index.php?topic=385.0

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« Reply #3 on: 07 September 2008, 11:36:30 pm »
Yes it is a scam!!! Seriously social escorting is not a demanding market in other words theres not much interest. Most clients expect sex or some sort of sexual interaction whether thats a BJ or a wank its still sexual.

I don't suppose its about your size as different men like different things alot of more curvy escorts do fine. However social escorting is hard to make money from I used to think I could do sicial escorting but its just not the case. Give an take there may be rare occasions but nothing to make you super dollars.

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« Reply #4 on: 08 September 2008, 10:54:17 am »
Thanks, after posting I did read through some of the help topics. It was interesting to say the least lol. I decided not to go with them.

However, you guys seem the ones to ask....Should i just give prostitution a try anyway??

I've often considered it, I have a very 'male' attitude towards sex, I often use a good BJ to get me what I want anyway. :D

I guess my main reasons for not doing anything about it so far are the practicalities, where would I see the client? not at home!!!! I'm worried about violence, and the thing I'm worried about most, is if it all came out, would they consider me an unfit mother for earning my living this way? any help would be great....

PS just had the agency on the phone, trying to talk me round. I suggested that they take the fee out of my first earnings. She said couldn't do that as I needed to show commitment. So I again said no thankyou, she then got very rude! Thanks for saving me my cash...xx

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« Reply #5 on: 08 September 2008, 11:34:03 am »
Hi,

Whether you escort is down to you - I haven't told anyone apart from my x who btw werent very happy. Sometimes its best to keep it too yourself.

Some show pics without there face and you need an escort name.

You can escort outcall only meaning a hotel or their house. What I say is I will see you at your house after the first meeting meaning first bookings are conducted within a hotel. That way I have a better idea of who I am visiting.

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« Reply #6 on: 08 September 2008, 01:16:34 pm »
I am also thinking about becoming an escort.. I told one of my good friends, who has the same attitude towards sex as me, that i was considering it and the only thing that really bothered her was how safe it was.  I wouldnt dare tell anyone else though..


Although I do want to do it I am really nervous about it! Was anyone else nervous when they started?

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« Reply #7 on: 08 September 2008, 01:28:13 pm »
Hi Leila,

thankgod for good friends lol,

her attitude was 'well looking at some of the things you've had after a night out, you may as well get paid for it!'
I'm nervous, really nervous, I think I just need to do it and see how I feel in the morning.
I'm worried about getting old, smelly men, I just don't think I could handle someone that looks like my grandad (or smells like him  ;D)
or what if I get no business???
Locations a serious concern too.
AND the time thing, what If I cant finish him off in an hour, or I do it too quickly??? OR I get bored after 20 mins (very likely lol)
or, or, or..........

I'm researching like mad, hoping to get my first time over and done with this wkend, if I can persuade someone to pay me that is...

How close are you?

Moll x






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Re: Can I really become an escort without having sex with them???
« Reply #8 on: 08 September 2008, 01:53:31 pm »
You will get guys as old as your grandad, unless you set an age limit. Saying you'll only see guys under 40 is unrealistic if you're looking for more than a side-job, but under 60 would be fine.

You shouldn't have to have sex with smelly men, but it is an issue that we all have to deal with. It's come up again here recently, so have a look at the threads in this forum..

You'd have to fail pretty badly on your marketing to not get any work. There's a lot of demand and different tastes out there.

Location needn't concern you, you can do outcalls only. I've been doing it for almost four years and I get enough of them that I don't think it would be worth having my own place. Even if you want to be able to have visitors, you might as well start off with outcalls.

Safety is important. Someone should always know where you are and be expecting a call from you, it sounds like your friend will be willing to do that. You can also try to find a driver, a good one will wait outside in case you need help. I always use mine when I visit client's homes.

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« Reply #9 on: 08 September 2008, 02:16:09 pm »
Hi anika,

I've read a lot of your posts and your advice is excellent. This site is fantastic in general.
I dont drive, so a driver would be a good idea.
At the mo i'm just checking out some of the free sites suggested to work out fees.
As a 'larger lady' or fat bird it seems that a lot of men seem to like the whole gf experience, I was thinking that part of that could include a bath or shower first, should help out with cleanliness. I would however have no problems pointing out that it needed washing if they want me to go anywhere near it.
The advice on the tax side etc was really helpful. 
My friend is great, it helps to have someone unjudgemental to chat about things with. However its great to actually be able to talk to people that do the job.
I think for me thats the best way to deal with it. Its a job, I dont expect to always enjoy it, I expect to have bad days and days when I'd much rather work at Asdas, however if approached sensibly and with care for me safety etc then I think It could be a rewarding career. I was more worried about the fact that I dont think its morally wrong, than actually doing it. yep I'm nervous, I always am when starting a new job. And I'm pretty sure that when I get the cash in my hand, I'm gonna feel a whole lot less nervous LOL

PS I imagined walking into a pub like you suggested, yep I could do any bloke in there, as long as he had my cash and I was safe.....

Thanks, I appreciate your help, i really do.

Moll x


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« Reply #10 on: 08 September 2008, 02:48:46 pm »
Nerves are normal, of course. It feels really good when you count the cash from your first booking, though.

There are times when I'd rather stay home and watch telly then go out and work, but I've never wished I was doing another job instead!

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« Reply #11 on: 08 September 2008, 03:01:50 pm »
Hi again,

It looks like the average fee around here is ?120 an hour, I was thinking more ?140 -?150. In your experience do I need to price match???

It does look like thier aren't that many big birds, so hey fingers crossed lol

My friend and I are working on pics later, Going for the stockings n corset etc, however I dont really want to put my face up. Not especially for my privacy, but I have a teen age daughter to think off. In general is it a prob if we dont have our faces up?

Theres just one other thing, I HATE the way condoms taste, but I really do have to use them for oral, any ummmmm less greasy, yucky tasting ones around that you can recomend??

Thanks again.

Moll x

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« Reply #12 on: 08 September 2008, 03:18:34 pm »
When you look at prices, make sure you're distinguishing between incalls and outcalls, as the latter usually costs more.

You can charge a bit more than the others and see what happens. I've charged the same rates since I started and I think I'm getting a bit more work now that other people's rates are coming up to match mine. If you find you want more work then you can reduce your fees a bit.

Not showing your face is fine. A lot of clients would like to see your face before booking, but enough girls hide it that it's not a disadvantage.

I lost my latex taste buds somewhere in my late teens, but apparently flavoured condoms are made to taste less latexy. I've been advised not to use them for vaginal sex but you can put one on for oral and then switch to a normal one. You could also use latex-free condoms but they cost more and I think they have lower safety standards.
« Last Edit: 08 September 2008, 03:25:06 pm by Anika Mae »

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« Reply #13 on: 08 September 2008, 10:02:50 pm »
This forum is actually a god send.. I only just happened to come across it and god knows what I would have done if i hadnt!!

Im still in the really early stages..I keep thinking.. am I actually doing this?.. I dont feel morally opposed to it but its so unlike anything I have ever done as a job!

.. I need to get a website up and running and pics done.. I'm like you I dont want to show my face but have seen that quite a lot of other girls dont either so I dont feel so bad about it..

The industry is so addictive! I have literally done nothing but look at AW and all the punter sites as well as what everyone here has been saying..

Anika, how do you find a driver?  My friend says she will take me for the first few times but I cant really expect her to go to every one - although i think she is getting interested in escorting too - How much do drivers typically charge? 

Thanks so much for all of ur advice.. !!

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« Reply #14 on: 09 September 2008, 01:24:26 am »
Finding a driver can be difficult. I was lucky, I had a friend who was doing reception in a parlour when I started and she gave me the numbers of the drivers they used. I once chanced it with a guy who advertised on adultwork, but he went for a drive while I was with the client.

Agencies usually have drivers and when my driver has worked for agencies, he's carried on driving a lot of the girls when they went independent, but that's not much use if you want to start off as an indie.

The best way is to use a friend you can trust or get a recommendation. You could try asking for recommendations on message boards.

Apart from that, they advertise on adultwork, or you could put an ad in the paper, but obviously this isn't a reliable way of finding someone good.

My driver charges ?20 to drive me to local jobs including one hour waiting, then ?10/hour. When we go out of town it costs more.