Sorry to bump this back to the top by replying. Just thought I'd add that it is not just you.

I have contacted them and they say there is no problem but this is the first time the cheque has been so late and I have been receiving cheques from them since 2007. 

I should have received one cheque last Friday 10th and another yesterday.  I know it's only a week but the fact that there are two other girls I know of who are also not in receipt of their cheques is causing concern. 

I hope they come through this week! 

Thanks for your advice. 

Jen

It took nearly a month for my AW cheque to arrive after they had said they'd POSTED it (after they'd already spent 2 weeks 'processing' it) - I'd done all the address details perfectly so there was no technical reason that it was so late. It was my first one (I'd spent the credits before on advertising etc ) so I wasn't sure what to expect. Ironically it arrived on the morning I had worded an email to the admin. Not really sure what was going on, but just waiting for it to clear.

You poor thing, praying for you.

There are plenty of harassment type warnings you can do. When I was harrassed, the local PC (ask to see a girl if it helps) left a voicemail with her details on the offenders phone and inviting him down to the station for a 'chat' (after I showed her all comunications from said idiot). This guy was an unpleasant type- fingers-in-pies mafia type. Yet it was enough to scare him off full stop. I hope this gives you some confidence.

Remember, in terms of your vulnerability- you have now deleted your 'live' presence off the net. Even if this nutter took a screenshot of your working sites in the past, and posted it to your family (worst case scenario) things can be photoshopped. (FYI I've just photoshopped the face of the malicious girl who outed me onto something incriminating  ). So you can say to your family, as Carla suggested, that it is a nutter ex and he is trying to 'punish' you for splitting up with him, or something along those lines.


Finally from a strategic point of view, you need to look at this guys weaknesses if you decide to not go down the police route. This can only be done once you've 100% established it is the same guy you think it is.
1. He is/fancies himself as a bit of a 'hard man' therefore his reputation is very important to him
2. The fact that he has gone to such effort with you in particular, coupled with his evident dislike of your boyfriend being cool with things shows he is having a (psycho) hissy fit that he can't get closer to you. It sounds like he felt he could take things further (you had a number of overnight bookings).
3. The police are probably already aware of him if he's trouble and are dying to catch him out. Sometimes just the threat to go to the Police is enough. But I'd go to them anyway.
If he has been using the number longterm, the Police can find out through his phone company his calls, texts and his name if he's registered. But he's probably clever enough that it's pay as you go. It's worth a shot anyway.


In terms of avoiding starving to death: Have a look at the thread I had about my 'outing'- SW5 and others mentioned some useful details about using a Dongle/different internet altogether to set up a new AW profile without it being linked to your old one (it does this by noticing the IP addess you log in with). I would quickly set up a new one and take some cheapy home snaps to get you started again, at least on AW. Whatever you do, don't include your head or a vague location at all, or a number, so the nutter can't trace you. That way, you'll hopefully get some bookings, to keep you going temporarily.

It's a bank holiday, so the organisations I was thinking of suggesting would probably not be open- perhaps SW5, Amy or Anika might know one that is particularily relevant in this case if you really don't want to go to the police? I really think you should as you'd be surprised how helpful they are, and if in the event that they play silly buggers you have the law on your side, you are doing nothing wrong or illegal, and you should expect their full support and assistance just like any other law abiding citizen who is victimized.

Above all, big hugs, try and distract yourself as much as you can xxx chin up and things will get better, does your boyfriend know 100% what is going on?

I have a dog, so I guess you could call that a hobby?

I take her for long walks instead of the gym (as I'm not allowed to run due to injury blah blah), and I have signed her up to visit people who aren't very well in hospital. I also volunteer for a few hours a week in a charity shop, as like others have mentioned, it's a nice way to have mindless chat with people who do non-escorting work. It also makes me feel a bit better about myself. I guess another benefit, which is the same as courses is that it gives you something to fill any potential 'gap' in your cv. I see that as an added bonus of the hobby, but I don't think it should be the reason for doing it.

For me, it's really important to unwind, and also be able to be myself and get out of my 'escort persona' so I do like sociable hobbies, but ones that don't require me to lie, hope that makes sense!

xxx

Thank you all so much. Thank god for plagiarism as some girl who uses the same working name as me has a very similar website.
So I have redirected all my websites to her. The issue is my website had a link to Adultwork and Adultwork can't be fabricated.
I am thinking a bit more clearly this morning.
Gossip is a terrible thing I guess xxx
I have removed all my pics from AW. But I think some people called up my number (as Joey guessed) and heard my voicemail.

How To Stop Escorts From Ever Advertising With You- Emily that is brilliant!!
ooh I smell a new world championship. Shall I email the Olympic Association right now?

At present I think Besttw*ts wins Gold medal.

Quote from: Miss Bond ;) on August 06, 2010, 08:17:13 PM

I think that Spermicide might be the best option. You have to leave it in for 6 hours as far as I am aware, although it can be a bit irritating for down there. There is one called Nonoxyl-9 which used to be impregnated in a lot of condoms and their lube but it's had bad press as the theory is that if down there is more irritated, there is a higher chance of you catching a STD of some sort due to the membrane being torn.

The best option for what?

If you've had a condom split and you're concerned about pregnancy but not infection, you could use spermicide in addition to the morning after pill. This isn't a situation that you'd find yourself in while working though, is it?

If you've had a condom split and you're concerned about infection, for god's sake don't go putting irritants in your vagina! If you're also worried about pregnancy, take the morning after pill and avoid spermicides.

Totally agree Anika, sorry didn't make it very clear  
Just to clarify steer clear of spermacide as it is an irritant, and obviously you don't know your clients' sexual history so STIs are a big concern. Need to read up on the latest stuff about what spermicide they use with caps, because I know it has changed in the last 6-12 months. Will ask mum (FP practitioner). Amy is right- if you don't need Levonelle and there are no immediate concerns just book a standard appointment at the clinic.

In all pregnancy scare cases I book an emergency appointment at a GUM/FP clinic (mainly because I'm paranoid about these things) which you should do if you need the morning after pill- if you really can't get an appointment many pharmacies now give it to you for free in exchange for a brief 5 minute lecture (you also get given free condoms  ). A coil can also be implanted and gives you longer than the 72 hours to get an appointment. It is less effective though and you may need to have a few days off work as it can be a bit sore.

As Anika mentioned: If you are really concerned that the client might have something more like HIV, there is such a thing called PEP (post exposure prophylaxis- generally unpleasant side effects from HIV meds ).
I just feel I ought to add that there are issues with the availability of it- a non WG friend tried to get some last week, and they gave her a really hard time, and delayed her getting it. There's a letter here from the CMO of the Uk addressed to health professionals which might be of use:
http://www.pep.chapsonline.org.uk/pep_availability.htm

I think there is also something similar available for some of the other nasties but it's late and I'm on a sugar high, so will research it/ask mum in the morning

xxx

I think that Spermicide might be the best option. You have to leave it in for 6 hours as far as I am aware, although it can be a bit irritating for down there. There is one called Nonoxyl-9 which used to be impregnated in a lot of condoms and their lube but it's had bad press as the theory is that if down there is more irritated, there is a higher chance of you catching a STD of some sort due to the membrane being torn.

xxx

Krystal I think you should copyright that!! If I ever use it I will put copyright to you.


YOU GO GIRL!!! 

You've made me laugh more than I have in a long, long time