Advice please - overweight client

[Miss Minnie]

Long time lurker, first time poster looking for a bit of advice from the girls.

I have a fairly regular client, who is polite, clean and follows all my 'rules' - the perfect Gent in all manners.  the 1 thing that lets him down is his weight.  I'd guesstimate that he is around 25stone or there abouts.

I find it very difficult to put on the act that I'm aroused by him, especially when he's on top.  I feel like I'm going to get crushed!! lol His weight doesn't seem to stop him being active and the sex is just like with any other average weight guy.  He gets a little out of breath and a wee bit sweaty, but nothing out of the ordinary.

Any tips on how I can see past his weight (I feel like I'm being a fat-ist!  ), get into 'character' to ensure I give him the best possible service to ensure I keep him as a regular??  Like I say he is an ideal client in every other way.

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

   MM I think every WG on the forum will have been in your position at some time in their working career.

Personally, and I am a big lady, would not allow a guy of this weight to 'go on top', without trying to sound facetious I would feel like a squashed pancake - and this is not a nice feeling.  Another reason I don't like larger guys on top is in case they sweat profusely and I end up with sweat being dribbled all over my face - I know its not their fault but it is rather offputting.

There are so many difference positions to use in order for your client to get full benefit of your services, perhaps a little bit more experimenting would help as different positions are easier for some more than others due to where they carry their excess weight.

All the best - oh and WELCOME TO SAAFE.  I look forward to reading more of your posts.

xx

[amy]

I can't help with the acting because I can't do it and therefore don't; usually friendliness and enthusiasm is enough and I honestly wouldn't worry about pretending to be 'aroused' as punters aren't that thick.

However if the bloke is hurting/crushing you, you need to be using different positions - I have some seriously heavy clients and as fond as I am of them (and more so than the skinnies because they give me bruises), I wouldn't be having them lie on top of me! Cowgirl with your feet flat works well on large men if you're short like me, although it's tiring - doggy with them standing is usually fine too.

Apart from that I think he sounds like a fab client and I'd be happy to have him. Feel free to pass on my details if I'm ever nearby and you're on hols or whatever .

[Miss Minnie]

Thanks for the prompt replies Ladies!

Is there any other positions that you can suggest? The 2 mentioned, cowgirl and doggy, happen during most of his visits, as well as him on top.  If I can, I'd like to steer him away from that position if possible....but without being as blunt as saying 'no yer too fat!'.  He doesn't hurt me, or squash me, in that position.  I just find it difficult to relax and enjoy (the sex is fairly good in other positions  ).

The client visits me every time he has lost a stone.  He's on a medical weight reduction programme and I can see a vast reduction in the times he has visited me. Ive tried looking back my diary and I think he has visited 5 or 6 times - so that's 5 or 6  stones he has shed.  I wish he would give me some tips, lol!!!  Altho, I don't want him to hit is target of 18 stone coz then he'll have no reason to reward himself!!! 

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

Good one Minnie, but what an achievement for him.  Respect.

Back on top now please.  Sorry for sidetrack.

[Cat_BBW]

Try off the edge of the bed, aka "Butterfly". You lay on your back, legs off the bed, bum a little off the bed. He stands between your legs and penetrates at a 90 degree angle. This is excellent for little willies too, and you get a good sensation from the angle. You can have your legs open, over his shoulders, up in the air, held open by him, etc etc. NO weight on you at all (unless he leans forward, which can be just as nice!)...plus there's the added bonus for him that he can see you and your boobies/lingerie, and also play with your pussy at the same time too

Bless that he's treating himself to you for each stone lost...great incentive!

[orchidperfume]

Thanks Cat thats a good position to remember shall try that one ... 

[Miss Minnie]

Good idea Cat, thank you! Sounds ideal, he can still see me as he would in missionary but as he is standing I may be able to relax a little more.

Taking it on a slightly different tangent, I was wondering if any of you found the same as me.....that heavier guys seem to be better lovers??  The big guy in particular is a great shag and i find that a few of my other heavier clients seem to be able to hit the spot, whereas the skinnier, more attractive guys i could quiet happily fall asleep while they do their stuff!!
Is it just me? Is it my imagination? 

I think its a case of bigger guys tend to make more of an effort to please, to make up for what they lack in looks/self confidence, whereas the others think they are the Gods gift?  I don't find fat guys attractive, but yet they're more likely to leave me tingling! Strange!

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

The height of your bed has to be 'right' for the butterfly position or it is very uncomfortable.

I'm not so sure the 'heavier' ones are better lovers, they are possibly more attentive as they are happy to find someone who will see them irrespective of their weight.  If we are honest, would we give these guys two looks outside work.  I know that sounds cruel but its true.

Thinner guys sometimes think (and I mean think and not know) they are better lovers which can also be a myth.  So all in all, basically, I agree with what you have said MM.

[littlepeanut]

I used to date a large guy and we tried lots of positions to find something that was good for us both without the risk of me getting squished or ending up with sore legs from going on top.  The best one was sort of like missionary but with him kneeling up instead of him stretching out on top of me. 

[meetingdiversity]

Long time lurker, first time poster looking for a bit of advice from the girls.

I have a fairly regular client, who is polite, clean and follows all my 'rules' - the perfect Gent in all manners.  the 1 thing that lets him down is his weight.  I'd guesstimate that he is around 25stone or there abouts.

I find it very difficult to put on the act that I'm aroused by him, especially when he's on top.  I feel like I'm going to get crushed!! lol His weight doesn't seem to stop him being active and the sex is just like with any other average weight guy.  He gets a little out of breath and a wee bit sweaty, but nothing out of the ordinary.

Any tips on how I can see past his weight (I feel like I'm being a fat-ist!  ), get into 'character' to ensure I give him the best possible service to ensure I keep him as a regular??  Like I say he is an ideal client in every other way.

You can solve this situation by being less judge mental and going on top. I treat all shapes and sizes the same and get just as horny. 

[lillylilly]

to help with the acting try a position where your facing away from him.

[Miss Minnie]

A wee update on Mr Chubby!

I hadn't seen him for a wee while (thought the diet must be out the window!), but he had been away on holiday and has managed to lose 2 stone - so he was booked in for an extra long treat!
Without being overly cheeky, I asked him how much he'd lost and what weight he was now.  9 stone lost    and now is a mere 24 stone!  At least I know I've got another 6 visits from him all going well, before he reaches his target!

Anyway.......managed to divert him away from from missionary and tried the suggested 'butterfly' position.  Took me a litle while to get a comfy position, but with the aid of a pillow under my back, I must say what a difference.  I was alot more relaxed, didn't feel nervous bout any crush injuries...infact I think I enjoyed it a little too much  !!  He seemed to really enjoy aswell, as he still had hands free to touch n fondle etc etc.  He suggested we do that position again during round two, so a definate success.  Thank you ladies!! 

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

Great news Minnie.

And many people think escorts are brainless people who can do nothing else with their lives .............. guess who I think are the brainless eejits.  Escorts are Genius'.

[Cat_BBW]

A wee update on Mr Chubby!

I hadn't seen him for a wee while (thought the diet must be out the window!), but he had been away on holiday and has managed to lose 2 stone - so he was booked in for an extra long treat!
Without being overly cheeky, I asked him how much he'd lost and what weight he was now.  9 stone lost    and now is a mere 24 stone!  At least I know I've got another 6 visits from him all going well, before he reaches his target!

Anyway.......managed to divert him away from from missionary and tried the suggested 'butterfly' position.  Took me a litle while to get a comfy position, but with the aid of a pillow under my back, I must say what a difference.  I was alot more relaxed, didn't feel nervous bout any crush injuries...infact I think I enjoyed it a little too much  !!  He seemed to really enjoy aswell, as he still had hands free to touch n fondle etc etc.  He suggested we do that position again during round two, so a definate success.  Thank you ladies!! 

YAY! So glad it worked for you! As I'm a large lady, I find the butterfly much more comfortable than having all my fat squished up into my heart and lungs!