Why do clients/other guys etc try and "befriend" us or think they are "helping"

[Lil Lolita]

Over the years as an escort, I have had my fair share of timewasters and idiots. The latter seems to be guys who have tried to befriend me and offer "advice".

When I first started at 18, I remember this one guy I saw who started saying I should "put my rates up, but not for him". As apparently what I was offering was chicken feed to most men. He babbled on and on his wife etc, he had severe Madonna syndrome.

Then since 2007, I had a guy who wanted an appointment with me, but first time cancelled because he had the flu, the next he prattled on about ethics for him and morality, and how he "just couldnt go through with it". He is a real pain in the arse though, he has persistantly contacted me via different emails he uses (I block them, but then he makes another), and my work phone, number hasnt changed. I told him firmly the other day what did he want and why couldnt he just fuck off.

I got the whole speel about what a nice girl I am, why didnt I consider a relationship with him etc. Told him if he contacts me ever again in whatever shape or form I will take matters further as I have had enough.

Then I have this "escorting" friend who used to be a driver and has had a right go at me about working for the agency. I havent done too badly out of it (see my previous posts) but he is a complete arse, telling me how "vulnerable" I am and that I am going to be gang raped or murdered one of these days, the cities I live in are the most dangerous in the UK and why dont I do escorting where he is in England because then I would have him to protect me... yeah right. To shut the idiot up, I said I no longer worked for the agency and he was jealous. Yet I had texts from him the other day asking how I was.

What is with these morons???

[VioletteUK]

Pretty Woman Syndrome.
My personal favourites are the ones who what to take me away from all this and take care of me. I take wicked delight in completely obliterating their illusion. Usually with a sweetly asked questions about monthly income, and when they tell me. I cackle hysterically saying, "Is that all?" They never mention it again, and usually don't return. Two birds, one stone.

[amy]

Well men are not all the same any more than we are - some are just harmless souls who genuinely think they're being helpful and either will or won't be told, some are deluded control freaks and others just project how they feel about themselves for seeing prostitutes onto us to try and make themselves feel better about seeing prostitutes, and think that making us 'better' makes them better too. No two people's reasons for doing something are the same.

The best way to avoid this sort of thing in my experience (and I rarely if ever have to put up with it, so it works for me at least) is to make it clear that you're secure, happy and capable of running your business yourself; have ready answers for the most common 'suggestions' and if necessary, lose the ones who won't listen. There are plenty of jobs where the customers think it's OK to haggle, push boundaries and tell the person doing it that they know better, to be fair - the key is to recognise the tendencies and be firm and consistent.

[Dani]

Some men genuinely think that they can help us as they do care.  I have one such client although he cannot fathom why I would not date him (I am married plus he is late 70s at the very youngest).  I know he genuinely does have feelings for me and feels he could offer me security etc but he just does not get the fact that I am happy earning my own money with my own independence.
It has gotten a bit awkward now so I am only allowing him to visit once a month maximum and have had to tell him if he keeps emailing he will go straight on my block list.  I do feel sorry for him as he is the sort that will eventually meet the wrong woman who will rinse him for as much as she can.

On the other hand there are those that are a bit controlling and only want to take you away from it all so they get free sex on tap.  They are not interested in your welfare or anything else they just like the idea of 'owning' a Wg girlfriend who will do whatever they want as they are reliant on them.  These are the ones I happily say oh ok my fees per month are ?25000 as that will count in all the sex you will be wanting as well as cover the money I would lose, as you can bet your arse they will want sex at least 2 or three times a day every day.  They soon shut up and never mention it again.

There are also those that cannot comprehend that we could actually enjoy our job, (I always get asked "how can you enjoy sex with fat bald old men with false teeth".  I then say the same way I can enjoy it with you.  Just about everyone has something nice about them, be it a smile, a glint in the eye or just the way they laugh but some guys just dont get it and feel they are helping by offering advice/help that is not asked for nor wanted

[Anna12]

I got that when I first started Escorting. Clients were saying you should put your rates up
and I did and it went very quiet! I think at the end of the day were the experts on how much
we charge and the area we are in, I even had one who emails if I haven't had many reviews
recently and worries if I am OK for rent at the end of the month ect!
Bloody CHEEK! lolX

[Mi]

I had a client a few weeks ago hugging me saying 'You're too nice to be doing this to yourself'. In the same tone of voice you would use if your old, sick dog had wet the bed.  Very, very, very annoying.

[Daisy Penny]

I had a client a few weeks ago hugging me saying 'You're too nice to be doing this to yourself'. In the same tone of voice you would use if your old, sick dog had wet the bed.  Very, very, very annoying.

haha! If he is urging all the 'nice' women to quit his only companion will be an old sick dog that wets the bed!

[miss_jen]

I once had a guy who had a go at me for saying i wasn't caming to date and was like other girls have dated me from the site and was shocked at how, me as this poor WG, wouldnt meet him with open arms ... free sex on tap... thats what dating sites are for!