clients asking me for dates, againnnn...

[lady c]

As the titel says really had this problem before and then had to stop seeing a few of my regulars, then things were fine and work was quiet however recently work has been busy for me with lots of new clients and already two have called me to ask me out and that they cant stop thinking of me ect.
My client last night asked me to accompany him on a dinner date and am very happy too but later asked me would i consider a real date, i strictly said no and that i am happy the way i am.  whats going on with these men...its actually getting on my nerves as i like being with them i just want it to end there.

[Coty]

I had a regular ask me to date him a few weeks ago, and he said, "Don't worry I'd never stop you escorting."  Well that's good of him!
Now I know this guy is busy all week working, and has his daughter at weekends, so he only books me once a month when he's free (and paid I expect!) ...so even if I fancied him, which I don't!.....what would be in it for me exactly?  Seeing him a couple of times a month when he has time and him getting a free bunk up and maybe me a free meal if I were lucky!   But he'd let me keep working bless him!  Ho hum! :-( Another regular I'll have to stop seeing.

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

I think this time of year just brings out the worst in them.  Their brains turn to absolute mush cos they are lonely and desperate and they think that everyone else in the world is too.

It will probably pass.  Nothing to worry about.  Whats the worst that can happen?  You lose a client ..... there will always be another one along soon to replace him.

[Dani]

I gave a friend of mine some very good advice about this problem when she was suffering from it regularly.  I told her to buy a cheap argos ring (one of those fake ones that look real from a distance) and wear it on her engagement finger.  If guys asked she would just point to it and say sorry but most did not ask once they saw it.  You may well get the awful does your partner know you do this question but that is easier to smile at and ignore

They only normally ask because in theri eyes you are single and Lurve sex so much you will happily date anyone for free, once they see the ring they normally just dont bother asking

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

You are right Dani.  Ive been separated and divorced for 20+ years but I still wear what looks like a wedding ring on my wedding finger.  Its just a cheap ring from Turkey but it is a life saver at times.  The funny thing was, I never wore my wedding ring when i was married ..................... who said I was a confused.com person ?

[Brown Eyed Girl]

I gave a friend of mine some very good advice about this problem when she was suffering from it regularly.  I told her to buy a cheap argos ring (one of those fake ones that look real from a distance) and wear it on her engagement finger.  If guys asked she would just point to it and say sorry but most did not ask once they saw it.  You may well get the awful does your partner know you do this question but that is easier to smile at and ignore

They only normally ask because in theri eyes you are single and Lurve sex so much you will happily date anyone for free, once they see the ring they normally just dont bother asking

That's a really great tip, I'd never have though of that in a million years lol. So simple but effective. I'm off to Argos 

[amy]

I gave a friend of mine some very good advice about this problem when she was suffering from it regularly.  I told her to buy a cheap argos ring (one of those fake ones that look real from a distance) and wear it on her engagement finger.  If guys asked she would just point to it and say sorry but most did not ask once they saw it.  You may well get the awful does your partner know you do this question but that is easier to smile at and ignore

They only normally ask because in theri eyes you are single and Lurve sex so much you will happily date anyone for free, once they see the ring they normally just dont bother asking

That's a really great tip, I'd never have though of that in a million years lol. So simple but effective. I'm off to Argos 

I can vouch for that one - I've worn a wedding ring for years which I originally bought before a holiday to Egypt (on the advice of a friend who assured me I'd get pestered less) and it's always been perfect for this too.

Unfortunately it's currently down the plughole in the bath since it fell off when I was washing my hair, so if you get one don't forget to have it altered if you lose weight .

[Coty]

I gave a friend of mine some very good advice about this problem when she was suffering from it regularly.  I told her to buy a cheap argos ring (one of those fake ones that look real from a distance) and wear it on her engagement finger. 

I wore one of those for 15 years! lol
(Who says my ex was a skin flint? haha)

[lady c]

wow dani thankyou that is brill, obviously i cant use it on the ones i just met but from now on i will tell every client if they ask that i am with someone, engaged or even married lol i have a few rings so will look for the right one to wear.  Not being funny but why would they think i would want to date them, 10 yrs younger or 15 yrs older or meet for a coffee to chat, i don,t get it as nice as some may be personality wise. Maybe it is the fact we think we would be a slave to sex.

[strawberry]

I wore a ring on my wedding finger for years, it didn't stop men from approaching me so I switched it back - seems to make no difference!

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

I wore a ring on my wedding finger for years, it didn't stop men from approaching me so I switched it back - seems to make no difference!

You will always get the ones who see it as a challenge to 'get' a married lady (or what they think is a married lady).  Guys will never stop trying but it does deter a lot though is not 100% effective.

Eejits will always be eejits.

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[strawberry]

Although it can feel nice, it does make you feel under pressure. I just laugh it off but do have the odd person who is intent on offer me holidays away(which do not fit in with my personal/lifestyle one bit), or constantly wants to spend time with me off the clock. They think they are being nice, I often just say "If I want to I'll ask".

[Brown Eyed Girl]

Although it can feel nice, it does make you feel under pressure.

Have to agree with this. It is very flattering when a lovely client finds you attractive and is brave enough to say so. We are all human after all with feelings and emotions. It can?t be easy for a bloke to make his feelings known with the fear of rejection being present. But unless you feel the same way it can/does put pressure on both parties and that in turn can spoil what was otherwise a perfectly good working relationship.

[Dani]

I dont actually think most (not all) guys realise how uncomfortable we feel when we are naked in an intimate position and they ask this.  We do not know how they will react to rejection and it can be quite frightening to have to say no in such a vulnerable position.
I know I do when it happens but then I have been in that position before with the guy who turned crazy stalker on me and I was no longer safe in my own home and in the end he got so bad he was arrested and sent to prison

Guys think if they dont ask they dont get but I always wish if they had to ask they would do it after they had left via phonecall so that it is not so uncomfortable or creepy. 

They also dont realise we do not know who is a decent guy and who is crazy so everyone who asks leaves us in a vulnerable position of having to say no and hoping to god they dont get angry about it.

I do not find it flattering anymore as I am flattered by the fact guys want to pay to be with me. I find it very selfish of them to do it when I am in that position (alone and naked)

Normally if a guy asks he then goes on my do not see list as I cannot put myself in a position where he thinks I have changed my mind as I still see him as a client, plus I never put myself in a position where I feel vulnerable

Thankfully guys who ask are few and far between as most know if I wanted to see them for free I would bring it up first.  I am very forthright during my bookings and although always extremely nice to my clients I always make it clear nothing else is on the cards as I dont like to feel put on the spot or worried about what his response will be to being turned down.

Its a shame really though as most guys are generally nice and just get assume because they are attracted to you then you must be attracted to them also. 

I may have to put up a sign stating that my GFE may be good but I am just like everyone else and look like shit in the morning, I nag like their wives do and I also get headaches, as that might work and put them off.

The worst part of it is they are asking out a fantasy.  They want the persona we put on for work and none of us are like that 24/7.  They dont see the other side of us where we are just like every other woman. they only see the sex kitten side and that is what they want not the real us