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Frilz

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Fisting and prostate massage
« on: August 16, 2013, 07:58:16 PM »
Ive been asked to do fisting and prostate massage on a guy im meeting tomorrow.....i thought easy money....but.......i havent got a clue!! What to do....how to do it.....what, if anything to use!! I presume lots of lube.... But any advice would be great!
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Re: Fisting and prostate massage
« Reply #1 on: August 16, 2013, 08:14:28 PM »
whoa, fisting isn't easy. I'd Google it. I have a book that says how to do it and I've had male gay friends show me how to position your hand at first.  Should be interesting but not easy.
http://gaylife.about.com/od/gaysexadvice/ht/gayfisting.htm

this looked like the best article.

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Re: Fisting and prostate massage
« Reply #2 on: August 16, 2013, 08:28:30 PM »
Make sure you have latex gloves, you can get longer ones which are more made for fisting but I don't know if you have time to get them.  At least if you get the gloves from pound shop he may try taking that then chicken out.

Fingers crossed for you.  All I can say is *ouch*.


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Re: Fisting and prostate massage
« Reply #3 on: August 16, 2013, 08:32:28 PM »
Trim your nails on the hand you're going to use right back, consider using a thin glove, and use plenty of lube..

.. and consider not trying the fisting.

Prostate massage isn't particularly difficult - you're aiming to gently rub something not far inside his anus, towards his front. If you stuck a Tampax in there, it would do it.

Fisting safely takes a bit more. If he's been fisted a lot before, he will be able to guide you, but if he's new or relatively so for this, it may well be the case that his fantasies are running ahead of the reality he can cope with.
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Re: Fisting and prostate massage
« Reply #4 on: August 16, 2013, 08:34:21 PM »
I mainly took this booking because im on my break week (god less mother nature) and thought i could get some easy dosh. Its defiantly not going to hurt me! Ive heard stories that you can get your hand stuck up their ass if they clench! Omg.....the embarrassment! I hope hes just a fantasy and actually it doesn't get to the full fisting. Dont fancy my hand stuck up someones ass!!
Argh!
I do have gloves at home, but will buy the longer ones nxt time, thanks LL
And ive looked at that website.....cant be pleasurable surely!!
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Re: Fisting and prostate massage
« Reply #5 on: August 16, 2013, 08:37:59 PM »
Ive been asked to do fisting and prostate massage on a guy im meeting tomorrow.....i thought easy money....but.......i havent got a clue!! What to do....how to do it.....what, if anything to use!! I presume lots of lube.... But any advice would be great!
Thanks loveliesxx

Like Tess says, it's not easy and really not something that anyone should be asking a novice to do outside an ongoing relationship - you can cause very serious injury if you get it wrong and I personally wouldn't take the risk unless I'd at least had some experience of doing it with a partner first.

That said, if your client is experienced at receiving he can help talk you through the process provided you're clear and honest about being completely new to it. If he's not, I wouldn't even entertain the idea and rereading your question I'd be inclined to just turn the booking (or certainly the fisting) down and suggest the client tries somebody else.


EDIT: What Ian said ;D
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« Reply #6 on: August 16, 2013, 08:52:43 PM »
Personally I think if he can take a fist up his bum he can take anything, greedy bugger so I wouldn't worry too much. The girls are right when they say it can cause injury but really?? He's obviously been playing around with it enough to feel comfortable enough to ask a complete stranger to do it  ::)

Personally I would go near a guys bum, I know a few like a wee finger or whatever out there but I like my men to remain masculine, I think I'd be put off anyone in my personal life asking me to do anything with they're bums especially fist it. In my work life I still wouldn't go near they're bums but I am Miss Vanilla in my working role.

Each to they're own I guess  ::) If you feel comfortable enough to go through with it, just go with it, I am sure he'll guide you. You could tell him its not something you often get asked for so may need a little guidance.

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Re: Fisting and prostate massage
« Reply #7 on: August 16, 2013, 08:59:20 PM »
Im not looking forward to it! I will be honest, il have a go! It isnt his first time, he tells me he has it often. Urgh! Thanks for your advice again ladies!
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Re: Fisting and prostate massage
« Reply #8 on: August 16, 2013, 09:01:48 PM »
Personally I think if he can take a fist up his bum he can take anything, greedy bugger so I wouldn't worry too much. The girls are right when they say it can cause injury but really?? He's obviously been playing around with it enough to feel comfortable enough to ask a complete stranger to do it  ::)

Not necessarily - he might have seen it looking very easy in some porn and not have any idea of how difficult and dangerous it can be if nobody has a clue what they're doing - he might also assumed that somebody who provides sexual services for a living will know how to do all of them properly even though we know how silly this is (I could no more do a domination session than I could perform open heart surgery, for example) and punters don't always do their research that well.

As for not being 'masculine', I can't see how wanting a woman to play with his arse isn't masculine? It's a man's arse, therefore it's inherently masculine, surely? From what I've seen and read, far more men like their bums played with than women.
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Re: Fisting and prostate massage
« Reply #9 on: August 16, 2013, 09:17:54 PM »
totally, I blame porn for so much. Men have prostate glands and get a lot of pleasure from anal play. Some don't because they think it's "gay" but nevertheless, it feels good to them. I had a bf try it on me vaginally and couldn't and people get babies out of there (not mine, but you know what I mean). Lots a work.  Let us know how it goes, I'd probable suggest a dildo but I'm a sissy

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« Reply #10 on: August 16, 2013, 09:48:52 PM »
Personally I think if he can take a fist up his bum he can take anything, greedy bugger so I wouldn't worry too much. The girls are right when they say it can cause injury but really?? He's obviously been playing around with it enough to feel comfortable enough to ask a complete stranger to do it  ::)

Not necessarily - he might have seen it looking very easy in some porn and not have any idea of how difficult and dangerous it can be if nobody has a clue what they're doing - he might also assumed that somebody who provides sexual services for a living will know how to do all of them properly even though we know how silly this is (I could no more do a domination session than I could perform open heart surgery, for example) and punters don't always do their research that well.

As for not being 'masculine', I can't see how wanting a woman to play with his arse isn't masculine? It's a man's arse, therefore it's inherently masculine, surely? From what I've seen and read, far more men like their bums played with than women.

I know what your saying Amy but that's just how I feel. I briefly (well when I say briefly it was actually months but I finished with him not long after I discovered he loved having his bum played with) went out with a guy in 2009 who was 6ft4 weighed 18 stone, pure muscle but not body builder, just pure ripped in a good way, really good looking etc etc which is what I like, I love a man who is strong and can throw me around a little but further into the relationship he tells me he loves it up the bum, I was shocked and turned off and it took away that strong masculine image I always had for him. I thought it was a bit gay.

Not to mention the fact that I don't like messing with area's that shit comes out, I think its a one way street and don't like my own bum being played with so I aint interested in playing with someone elses.

Sex is all about compatibility so if someone is into having they're bum played with then they should be with someone who is comfortable and equally turned on by it otherwise whats the point? Doesn't do anything for me at all. I'm grossed out by bums and what comes out of them, I'm a bit OCD about mine, making sure its spotlessly clean. Far too many clients come to see me with smelly arses, I can smell it even when just giving them a back massage.

It just aint for me but each to they're own.

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Re: Fisting and prostate massage
« Reply #11 on: August 16, 2013, 10:18:43 PM »
Well it's only 'gay' if it's another man doing it - men who like to have anal sex with women aren't gay either, since homosexual behaviour isn't about what you're doing, it's about who you're doing it with :). And neither has anything to do with being 'masculine' unless you think that gay men aren't masculine despite being so by definition (because they're men and not women), and then we're going off in a very strange direction indeed.

For what it's worth, I don't go near their arses either as a general rule for exactly the same reason as you. I used to (and I still have a strapon put away somewhere which was quite expensive) but I got fed up with the smell and the mess - when you work mostly from hotels it just isn't practical. Even taking all that into account I had one leave shit streaks on one of my towels the other week, and that was when he'd just got out of the shower  >:(.
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« Reply #12 on: August 16, 2013, 10:42:02 PM »
Again I know what your saying, did I ever mention I am totally shit with words when writing them down? I find it hard to explain myself sometimes without offending or putting my foot in it. I know what I mean but I cant explain it properly. It does turn me off though if a real life partner liked having his bum played with.

And YUCK lol I have had shit stains on my towels too, they're white and I noticed one's shit stain didn't come out after being in the wash? I have a new washing machine, use expensive liquid tab things and nice fabric softener so its not my crappy washing, must be his toxic shit  :-\

But yeah the smell and the mess is just disgusting, our bum holes aren't meant for things going up them never mind fists  :o

And have you ever seen the state of someones bum hole after years of bumming?  ::)

Again each to they're own, I have a female friend who LOVES anal sex which I find strange as I feel nothing but pain so goes to show we're all different and it would be a boring world if we were all the same.

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« Reply #13 on: August 16, 2013, 10:48:34 PM »
And have you ever seen the state of someones bum hole after years of bumming?  ::)

Again each to they're own, I have a female friend who LOVES anal sex which I find strange as I feel nothing but pain so goes to show we're all different and it would be a boring world if we were all the same.

Well I've been doing bumming for 20+ years, and mine's not in a state! You do need to be careful and sensible, but anal sex isn't damaging in itself and the horror stories mostly come from porn stars who've spent ridiculous amounts of time being banged silly with things the size of allotment veg :D.

I know how to clean mine, too. I do wonder if the fact you and I've had problems with non-cleaned punters is that the gents who know how to do this stuff properly are more likely to book fetish providers than GFE-type ladies like ourselves, so we get the rank (pun intended) amateurs?
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« Reply #14 on: August 16, 2013, 11:12:47 PM »
Sorry Amy I really laughed there when reading that, see what I mean about putting my foot in it?  :FF

Well I am sure you have a lovely bum hole  ;D But Ive seen some rank things in porn, not that I sit and watch porn especially anal porn, it scares me but when Ive had bf's in the past and watching porn with them I've seen a few messed up bum holes. My ex flat mate from when I was 19 was gay and I seen his bum hole and it was practically inside out (why isn't they're a VOM emotion) so I guess I am just scarred for life. Also I only go to the toilet once or twice a week if I am lucky so I'd be scared I shit myself if I took anything up there. Oh no I just don't like bums and that's giving or receiving so as the OP was discussing a FIST is just for greedy guts lol.

And I'm not sure weather or not you and I attract the amateurs or just dirty bastards with no respect or manners (I think its the second one)

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