Help needed!!

[Bbwtease22]

I really need some advice.

Booking today, asked me to meet him at the door naked. I did, as soon as door opened he push me down, trying to kiss me, and then put a condom on and had foreable sex.

I thought okay.. Maybe some men like this.

He finished, asked to a drink, I got him one. He drank it asked for another, I came back and e had left without paying. I feel physically sick. I feel a twat. I rang my husband and he came home, he's angry at the guy. I'm angry at myself.

I know he used a condom but now I'm shitting it about HIV ect!!

What do I do?!  I know Im so stupid!

[AA]

God this sounds awful and I'm really sorry you had to go through that. 

By all means go to GUM and get yourself checked out for peace of mind but I don't think you'd have caught anything based on the info you've given.

I'd also report this guy to Ugly Mugs so that other ladies can be alerted. If your personal circumstances allow it, you might want to get the police involved too. At the end of the day he raped you and chances are this isn't the first time he's done something like this.

For future reference I'd think twice about agreeing to greet clients naked or in lingerie. I know some girls are happy to do this but I'm not one of them. I've heard of a few incidents where guys have turned up, had a quick grope when you open the door and then leave. Also it's a matter of being discreet and thinking about other tenants / neighbours. You don't want to behave in a way that could make them suspicious. I always greet clients fully dressed and only after I'm sure I want the booking to go ahead and I've received payment do they get to see the goods.

[ParisB]

Sorry to hear what has happend to you

But for future appointment anyone that asks you for greeting them naked , lingerie. PVC tell them them tht you will put it on once they have arrived and you they have paid you.  I have a very good reg who's ask for this but I always refuse not ecause I don't trust him. ( I do have known him for years no his real name and where he lives ) but because I have a few rules which i stick to for everyone and don't break them for anyone and this is one of them not opening the naked or in outfits ect  )

If he used a condon then its unlikely that he has given a std but still go and get yourself checked out

[xw5]

What Alisha said.

[Lou]

(((HUG))) Sounds awful and really feel for you, I always open the door in lingerie and always have done but what has happened to you has made me rethink this now, I hope you can get over this soon x

[sexygirl10]

Sorry to hear that.

You are not stupid, I am sure you had your reasons to agree of waiting for a client naked.

I know it's a big thing to go to the police, but is worthy as you know that this idiot won't do that to any other girl.

I am battling against a rapist in France, I know he is now free, but I have a clean conscience that I have done the right thing and still fighting to get him back in prison.

Please don't blame yourself but be more carefull in the future.

Big hug

[Bbwtease22]

Thanks everyone. I feel so stupid!!
X

[Vampera]

Please don't feel stupid, this was NOT NOT NOT your fault!! 

This Man raped you....and he deserves to be punished for that...

If you don't want to go to the Police then I understand but please put his details on Ugly Mugs...

I wish you all the best hun....I can understand you being upset....but please know this was not your fault (I know I said that before but I think it needs to be said again)....

I don't know if what I have said is helpful but I didnt want to read and run....I will be thinking of you x

EDIT: If you are in London then contact The Haven...they are a sexual violence Centre and they won't press you to go to the Police but they WILL do all the Tests and things so that you can go to the Police later if you wish to....

[Pink~Princess]

I am really sorry this happened to you  It really is awful and as the other ladies said, make a report and if your circumstances allow it, go to the police.

Now ladies please don't shoot me down in flames here, I may have picked all this up wrong but from what I read, This man was a complete chancer, he got his kick's without paying BUT I don't think it can be classed as rape. Obviously it wasn't bbwtease's usual style with him being rough etc but at no point did she not consent to this according to her post, its only once he ran off without paying that she feels cheated (quite rightly so) I think this is a really bad experience to learn from by not answering the door naked, always getting money up front and if someone is being too rough, tell them to stop but I really don't think its rape.

xx

[AA]

Now ladies please don't shoot me down in flames here, I may have picked all this up wrong but from what I read, This man was a complete chancer, he got his kick's without paying BUT I don't think it can be classed as rape. Obviously it wasn't bbwtease's usual style with him being rough etc but at no point did she not consent to this according to her post, its only once he ran off without paying that she feels cheated (quite rightly so) I think this is a really bad experience to learn from by not answering the door naked, always getting money up front and if someone is being too rough, tell them to stop but I really don't think its rape.

xx

I do understand what you mean but to be fair, he knew exactly what he was doing. First of all, he used force by throwing himself on her. He didn't even bother to check she'd given consent. She didn't give any signals which would lead any reasonable person to think otherwise. His behaviour would have put the OP in an extremely vulnerable position and frightened the life out of her, so much so that she may have been too scared to shout 'stop'. It's a bit like those guys who take advantage of women intoxicated up to their eyeballs - they may not have said 'no' straight out but then these predators know most aren't in a position to do so, hence why they target them in the first place. 

[Pink~Princess]

Now ladies please don't shoot me down in flames here, I may have picked all this up wrong but from what I read, This man was a complete chancer, he got his kick's without paying BUT I don't think it can be classed as rape. Obviously it wasn't bbwtease's usual style with him being rough etc but at no point did she not consent to this according to her post, its only once he ran off without paying that she feels cheated (quite rightly so) I think this is a really bad experience to learn from by not answering the door naked, always getting money up front and if someone is being too rough, tell them to stop but I really don't think its rape.

xx

I do understand what you mean but to be fair, he knew exactly what he was doing. First of all, he used force by throwing himself on her. He didn't even bother to check she'd given consent. She didn't give any signals which would lead any reasonable person to think otherwise. His behaviour would have put the OP in an extremely vulnerable position and frightened the life out of her, so much so that she may have been too scared to shout 'stop'. It's a bit like those guys who take advantage of women intoxicated up to their eyeballs - they may not have said 'no' straight out but then these predators know most aren't in a position to do so, hence why they target them in the first place. 

I know sweetie, I agree with what your saying and I know this cretin was well aware that his actions were unacceptable BUT I am just thinking that the police may think its not actually rape. Not sure though, I don't know much on this sort of thing xx

[Frilz]

If she didnt give consent then this is rape. Doesnt matter who,where,when or how. when theres no or impaired consent itis rape. its illegal. he should be punished. The end

[amy]

If she didnt give consent then this is rape. Doesnt matter who,where,when or how. when theres no or impaired consent itis rape. its illegal. he should be punished. The end

Can we not have emotive, sweeping statements like this, please? It's not helpful (although marginally more so than the post I've just removed).

I doubt that many of us sign a consent form at the start of every booking just to be on the safe side, and as Pink Princess has said, the OP apparently accepted his behaviour on the grounds that it 'may be what some men like', didn't say anything and more than likely wouldn't have if this man hadn't run off without paying. Whilst it's a truly horrible thing to happen it would be diabolically hard to prove rape - a court would likely annihilate it and it's not fair to the OP to make facile remarks about how they'll definitely throw away the key if he's tracked down.

It certainly still needs reporting both to Ugly Mugs and the police, and I've altered the thread in Warnings so the number can now be searched.

[Chanel xxx]

 
Just because the lady is a sex worker does not mean that anybody can have sex with her against her will or force her?
Yes I will stop there because some comments that have been made already have made me feel quite 

[amy]

No it most certainly does not - the lady's occupation is irrelevant and nothing to do with the situation. I don't believe anybody on the thread has said otherwise, either? I also don't see anything in the OP's post which suggests sex, rough or otherwise, took place against her will at the time that it happened (I don't know what 'foreable' means, so if that's it then I stand corrected).

What has been said is that it is irresponsible for people who are neither solicitors nor were there in the room at the time to make remarks about what the legal consequences might be, when it's in reality an extremely complicated and difficult situation.