Just got negetive feedback, how do i explain my second phone to my friends?

[Ieaio]

I'm beating myself up but at the same time i don't feel it right for negative feedback. I royally messed up with the dates of a booking but i had to cancel the date i thought it was anyways due to emergency friend staying over which was unavoidable. SO i was off work all that day & around this friend so i couldn't do a bit of networking on my phone even because i have no way of explaining my second phone..

I'm paranoid now incase miscommunication happens again but don't know how to explain my second phone when i'm out & about with friends & family?

Adult work bookings make me so paranoid now, how do i explain my phone so i can feel more at ease that clients aren't trying to contact me?

[Hadley]

Sorry to hear about the negative feedback  you're right though, it probably is a good idea to have some way to keep the lines of communication open with clients in case anything like this crops up again.

I carry a work phone round as well (I'm sure most of us do!) and if anyone asks I just say it's a really old number, but I can't get rid of it as lots of my old school friends / university mates / other people from long ago only have that number to contact me on. No one's ever questioned it yet!

Lots of people have two phones, or more - so don't worry, it shouldn't be too big a deal. Besides if you're only going to check it in urgent situations / emergencies no one even needs to know you have it - you can just pop to the loo to check for anything important 

Hadley xx

[Caledonia]

My work phone is a cheap pay as you go, I just say it's an emergency phone in case I have trouble with my civvie contract phone. I keep it on vibrate if with people and if I can't answer I send a quick text saying that and give a time for them to call back.

[Wife4rent]

I do not have a problem with bookings on Adultwork as i do not operate that way, nor would I ever carry my work phone with me when I am out, as I only have it with me when I am working. Clients call me on the day and make a booking, old school works for me....

For those of you in the mordern world, can I suggest a Samsung Star Deluxe Duos S5292 a dual sim phone that allows you full control of both sims and able to take calls and text messages on both at the same time. It is very easy to use, I got one for my OH for ?60.00

You can put your work line on silent when in company or set it to just beep once. There are other dual sim phones but this seems to work very well and it would be ideal for use in a situation as above.

It comes unlocked to take any sim, including international sim cards.

Sarah x x x

PS just google - Samsung Star Deluxe Duos S5292 - to find a site to buy from.

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

Just my tuppence worth but if you are out with friends then you are out with friends and should be relaxing away from your phone. Leave it behind and chill.  If the guys want to see you they will get you when you are available.

Carrying your phone to answer all the time is a sure way to get burnout very very quickly.  Like said in another thread, burnout is not about the number of guys you see in a day, it's also about the constant "being on call" to answer calls even when you are not working.  We all know there is more to prossying than " lying back all day ".

Sorry about the negative but try and get "out of the zone" from time to time and try not and fill your head with too much.  It does get overwhelming at times.

[AliasGrace]

Use a dual sim?

[Ieaio]

Dual sim ?. Those close to me know i don't keep in contact with any of my old friends & i have had weird looks from my fam & friends when i left my work phone lying around by accident. (serious when i have to have people over it's like censorship dash around the apartment haha i need a checklist! I will be coming out to a few more of my friends so it may make things easier. I did wonder about chill time i mean would i really want to talk to clients when I'm supposed to be chilling but at the same time... I'd be more strung up about my phone going dead due to negative feedback. NOT what i needed with the holiday coming up ugh. Sorry grumbling on here, I've reached my bad mood capacity today with my friend lol. On plus side i put my phone down & went to cinema to take my mind off it.

[englishrebecca121]

im confused do you mean you didnt let the guy  know you had to cancel( the op)?

[Wife4rent]

Now I am confused! But I do agree with...

Just my tuppence worth but if you are out with friends then you are out with friends and should be relaxing away from your phone. Leave it behind and chill.  If the guys want to see you they will get you when you are available.

Carrying your phone to answer all the time is a sure way to get burnout very very quickly.  Like said in another thread, burnout is not about the number of guys you see in a day, it's also about the constant "being on call" to answer calls even when you are not working.  We all know there is more to prossying than " lying back all day ".

Pandering to Joe punter is going to give you stress....

Sarah x x x

[Feltipen]

I take my work phone out with me but in all honesty I generally forget to check it until I get home and start answering emails. I'm too busy having me time to think about work.

I check it occasionally and when I do my friends/family will be out of the room or I'll be popping to the loo so I'll check it then. If I remember. You don't need to tell them about it but if you want to then say it's a spare emergency phone incase you get mugged no one will want to steal that lol.

A friend of mine has two phones and I asked him why, his response was one was payg for marketing and to give the annoying people in the street and his main phone was just for family and friends. Kind of like a normal phone and a spam phone.

[Hadley]

I understood from the original post that the OP couldn't cancel her booking, or properly explain to the client that she needed to reschedule, due to the fact she couldn't use her work phone in front of family. Because she couldn't communicate with him she then ended up with negative feedback.

I read it that it's not so much about her wanting to be available 24/7 to answer general client calls; it's more about having access to a work phone just in case she has to cancel a confirmed booking at the last minute. By being able to cancel ahead of time if necessary she feels she'll avoid "lack of communication / unreliable" - type negative feedback.

However if I've got that all wrong please ignore!

[KimberlyC]

I never confirm booking requests until after the booking has occurred and I'm sure the feedback will be good. What if it's a jerk I have to throw out or something?

Even then, they can leave "feedback only."

You can respond to the feedback with a short simple "I'm sorry that the booking fell through and that I was unable to reach you. Unavoidable family circumstances and phone problems made it impossible. I'm taking measures to prevent it occurring again."

If you have plenty of good feedback, and give this reasonable explanation with a polite apology, any reasonable punter will see that this isn't really a mark against you. If there's a lot of similar feedback, sure, he'll think you're flakey. But shit happens to everyone and how you respond to it can actually say more in your favour than yet another "Had a great time with a gorgeous sexy girl."

[Ieaio]

I'd like to think i'm realistic so i am aware when it IS my fault...

No i did cancel on him but i did mess up on the dates so the cancel basically wasn't necessary as i had it penciled into my dairy as the day before, i don't know how O.o DOH but of course he assumed it was still on, i'd just got the days wrong but i wasn't around to message him & realize the mess up i'd made until last minute.

"You'll live" & " was his response when i explained & apologised, & also "thanks you'll make sure i'll never get laid again" to which i thought i'm pretty sure making a living is more important?? , so i wasn't too polite on his negative feedback as you can imagine. I don't think he realised how damaging negative can be which i think is the main problem with negative aka misuse of it, i'd assume as long as a legit reason, apology & attempt at sorting it out was given that negative shouldn't even be considered, i guess the positive is i think he knows not to be so fast to leave another girl negative. I didn't rob him, i didn't leave him waiting outside my apartment etcetcetc.

In general a negative, (unusually negative) experience. Otherwise he seemed very polite which is why i was even more baffled as to why he jumped to negative.

Will have to vamp up my advertising me thinks.

[StawberryFields]

My work phone is a cheap brick. I just say that I use it when my smartphone runs out of battery

[_Rebecca_xxx]

My work phone is the same make and type as my normal phone, just a slightly darker shade of blue - no one has ever noticed the difference and I can check it without any questions at any time