What to do ???????

[Ladyaraminta]

I have just started working as an escort and love it.  Although I do get very nervous before I actually meet them.

Some of my clients msg me all the time but don't want to book me again.

I don't mind being friends with them but would like to know the mentality of this.

Any explanations ?

[Londonergirl]

you don't need friends, you need money only

don't talk to them they r wasting your time

anyways why you need to use so much ?

[sourgrapes]

What's in it for them? Somebody paying attention to them, free entertainment, boundary pushing with a newbie (always fun), and a free ego boost.
But, what about you? Why do you want to be "friends" with them? Once you learn to set firm professional boundaries, this job will feel much less confusing. Spending time and effort on guys who are not paying you for your time is going to exhaust and frustrate you very quickly. Once you stop chatting/sexting and whatnot, they're either going to leave you alone to get on with your job, or they book and pay. Unless they're very good regulars, your interaction with them ought to stop once they walk out of your door, or it'll drive you bonkers.

[TheChemist]

I have just started working as an escort and love it.  Although I do get very nervous before I actually meet them.

Some of my clients msg me all the time but don't want to book me again.

I don't mind being friends with them but would like to know the mentality of this.

Any explanations ?

Them: "hey, how are you today?"
You: "I'm great, but busy. Do get in touch if you'd like to book again"

Simple. Reply once, keep it short, ignore further texts. My regular of about 6 years pays me over 26k a year and I speak to him once a week on the phone to confirm. It doesn't matter who they are...no pay, no play!

[Cat_BBW]

I have just started working as an escort and love it.  Although I do get very nervous before I actually meet them.

Some of my clients msg me all the time but don't want to book me again.

I don't mind being friends with them but would like to know the mentality of this.

Any explanations ?

They don't want to be friends, they want FREE sex, FREE sexy chat, FREE contact. You're not in this biz to make friends, you're in it to pay your bills, friendship doesn't pay the rent and constant messages are just taking up the time you should be working and earning.

[luciefate]

Absolutely!

I learned the hard way. I don't do anything client related by text now. I have a couple of regulars who contact me to arrange a booking but that's it.

There are so many bloody timewasters out there. I have found that guys who text don't book, although it's different if you've met them already.

Chemist - does your bloke have a mate in Norfolk lol?!!!  I am obviously not doing things right!

[Lunar Moon]

Absolutely!

I learned the hard way. I don't do anything client related by text now. I have a couple of regulars who contact me to arrange a booking but that's it.

There are so many bloody timewasters out there. I have found that guys who text don't book, although it's different if you've met them already.

Totally agree with what you have said .....

Anyone who texts me, if I have time, I text back 'phone please, no texts' ....  90% never do !

[Ladyaraminta]

Thank you all for your sensible and helpful remarks.  I shall abide by them xxx

[Siorse]

I agree whit all the above.
I think they just get a kick out of it... Don't entertain them or you'll never get rid of em!
They'll actually start to think you're their 'friend', or they're someone special to them, tell them your busy and if they want to
book tell them to phone.
After all, we don't provide a free text service to bored guys looking for attention, we get paid for providing a service!
Good luck!

[Innocent-whore]

I have this happen all the time... 

I don't mind exchanging a text with a good regular once in a while but some really do think you're going to constantly text and entertain them?! Do they really think they are the only ones trying?

I had a guy I have seen just once text me today that he was thinking of me naked and so on, obviously not wanting to book again since we live in different cities anyway. I sort of told him off. I am not his personal text mistress.

For me it gets mentally draining to have to deal with that. The expectation that I'm constantly and 24/7 sexed up and up for naughty chats and also for free is simply exhausting.

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

If they want to text tell them to use the text service on AW where u get laid something like ?1 for every text you reply to. At least that way you are getting paid.

I think everyone would like a client like The Chemists who spends 500 GBP a week on them.  I've never known anyone in RL like that though. 

[Hotblondie]

Absolutely!

I learned the hard way. I don't do anything client related by text now. I have a couple of regulars who contact me to arrange a booking but that's it.

There are so many bloody timewasters out there. I have found that guys who text don't book, although it's different if you've met them already.

Chemist - does your bloke have a mate in Norfolk lol?!!!  I am obviously not doing things right!

I dont agree, almost half of my bookings are made by text, and they show.
They are either shy or nervous or they find it easier to text when they are at work or in public and I dont mind.

Of course, I get a lot of texts from time wasters, but even if they say they want to book for xx hour, I ask them to confirm one hour before. No confirmation, no booking.

But I learned to sense a time waster even through texts.

[Bluetits]

If I get a polite not too short or too long text I will answer it and then ask them to phone me to confirm. Only a few of these texters have been genuine. I feel it's time consuming answering texts back and forth all day and for short notice bookings but I don't enjoy texting much in general anyway so maybe that's part of it. I prefer quick calls and to hear their tone of voice.

[SensationalSonya]

I much prefer texting, especially because a lot of the time the calls begin to lean towards sex chat, or are just too long! If it's before booking I entertain a number of texts, but if they start to get too "sexty" I ignore them, or just ask them to get in touch when they're close and I'm looking forward to it.

 Between bookings, the texts used to be such a huge nightmare and I felt I could lose potential bookings if I didn't reply, but I got the advise from here to simply reply exactly like The Chemist says, and it works every time! Genuine ones apologise and then only contact to make a booking, and time wasters either try again at which point I ignore them, or stop texting! Definitely great way to deal with all the texting!

[TeaBoy]

Absolutely!

I learned the hard way. I don't do anything client related by text now. I have a couple of regulars who contact me to arrange a booking but that's it.

There are so many bloody timewasters out there. I have found that guys who text don't book, although it's different if you've met them already.

Chemist - does your bloke have a mate in Norfolk lol?!!!  I am obviously not doing things right!

I dont agree, almost half of my bookings are made by text, and they show.
They are either shy or nervous or they find it easier to text when they are at work or in public and I dont mind.

Of course, I get a lot of texts from time wasters, but even if they say they want to book for xx hour, I ask them to confirm one hour before. No confirmation, no booking.

But I learned to sense a time waster even through texts.

I agree with this, I've had more of a problem with guys calling me and wanting me to talk dirty to them clearly with no intention to book. Most of my actual bookings come through text or email.