Question for married escorts (or in long term relationships)

[Diva_Gina]

How does your partner/husband cope with the job?

I have always had a high sex drive, hubby knew that I experimented before we met, we have had problems in our relationship in the past as I was unsatisfied so I was sleeping around when I worked away from home a few years ago and had all sorts of experiences without him.  Now we have got over that, it turns out he wanted to do a lot of that stuff with me and I liked the idea too.  I had started working on cam earlier in the year and fancied escorting, but was waiting for hubby to be ok with it.  We had a MMF about a month ago so he could see me with another man and decide how he felt, and after that since he wasn't jealous and knew there would be full disclosure he agreed to me escorting.  I had a few outcalls and he was fine after the first one, and ok after the 2nd.  Interestingly even though I didn't feel any guilt I did always want to be close and intimate with him after a meet.  He wanted me to give him a detailed description of everything that happened and was disappointed that actually I didn't really get off on it, because it was business.
I then did 2nights from a Manchester hotel last week and I must admit that although I made sure my clients were happy, I was pretty focused on earning as much money as possible in those 2nights as we need it for our holiday, so I didn't have much time to talk to hubby between clients by the time I had turned the sheets, run to the bank, got myself a drink and freshened up my hair and makeup and checked for emails/calls etc (no idea how some of you cope with only 30mins between clients).  I hadn't planned those nights away to be sexy and fun but to be profitable.

So now hubby has changed his mind and asked me to stop escorting, which I will do as I am not doing anything to risk my relationship, he is not jealous of me having sex with other men, if anything he was disappointed that I didn't enjoy it more and regale him with tales of filthy exploits with clients.  Typical though that since then I have had a few enquiries from gents that could lead to the raunchy sessions that my hubby would like to hear about, and some requests for 3somes with hubby.

We do still plan to play together at swinger clubs or with other couples/singles, it's just the escorting that's a no go.

So had anyone else's hubby ever changed their mind, or have a similar attitude to the escorting?  Would like to hear your experiences/views.

[The_Lynx]

My boyfriend is perfectly okay with my whoring, because he sees it for what it is - a job. On the flipside, he is uncomfortable with me having random hookups in my personal life, and asked me to refrain from that.

I find the circumstances of your husband changing his mind a bit confusing. What exactly prompted the shift in the attitude?

[Rosa]

My experience is that sharing explicit details doesn't really work. If you are doing it based on one or both of you being turned on, I think there could be wide scope for disappointment. I also don't think it's discrete to share intimate details of what clients do and don't do.

[Diva_Gina]

My experience is that sharing explicit details doesn't really work. If you are doing it based on one or both of you being turned on, I think there could be wide scope for disappointment. I also don't think it's discrete to share intimate details of what clients do and don't do.

I think there was a lot of fantasy from hubby about me being his hotwife and he liked to imagine me having a wild time, whereas I do the escorting for money and hopefully sometimes will have a good time.  Sorry if I am being thick but I don't understand that telling hubby what a client did or didn't do is indiscreet in that hubby doesn't know who I have met so it's just a random man to him, but if I enjoy something with a client I might want to suggest it to hubby so he can try it.  There are some things I can't do with hubby (physically very difficult anyway).

My boyfriend is perfectly okay with my whoring, because he sees it for what it is - a job. On the flipside, he is uncomfortable with me having random hookups in my personal life, and asked me to refrain from that.

I find the circumstances of your husband changing his mind a bit confusing. What exactly prompted the shift in the attitude?

To be honest I am a bit confused too, I think he thought he would be fine with escorting as it is safe from emotional involvement due to the business aspect, though he knows I am very emotionally detached anyway when it comes to sex.  But I do think he thought the idea of me fucking other men for money would be exciting and naughty, but the reality is that it's not. 

I don't have random hookups in my personal life, though we fantasise about them, the reality of having 3 young kids at home means that I don't really get chance.

Havng said that. I wanted to escort to make cash, but actually I can earn more on cam on a good weekend and it's a lot easier and safer. I thought I could make much more because AW+JCI+AWF are not taking their 41% but in reality I haven't found it that profitable and it was exhausting meeting so many men in one day.

[Vichyssoise]

My husband is perfectly ok with me escorting and is fully behind me 100% but he also is disappointed when I say I am doing it for the money and not because I am a sex mad dirty bitch who can't get enough. So I go along with his fantasy of me being this man eater. Although every now and then I bring him down to earth and tell it is just his fantasy and not the truth of the matter. He knows and grins but he loves to think I am constantly on heat. Interestingly we used to swing at his suggestion, as he used to do with his first wife. But he didn't like to see me intimate with other men and so we stopped going together, but he liked me to go alone. He would then like me to tell him how the night went. He loves me escorting and it works well for us at the moment.

[annabellexoxo]

We are all different.  None of my ex partners would have accepted me to see other men.  Always think what you want in the long run.