Possibly Pregnant

[Pink]

Firstly, I always practise safe sex with clients! Just in case anybody was jumping to conclusions.
I've been seeing someone for a few months and stopped using condoms in January when we'd both been for std checks, which were fine. I'm on the pill, have been on the same one for a few years without any problems. I had a bit of a heavy night a few weeks ago and had a mild bout of diarrhoea the next day, which I didn't give a second thought.
Anyway, my period is a few days late, so I went to the family planning clinic today and they did a pregnancy test which was inconclusive (there was a very faint indication that I am pregnant). I have to go back tomorrow for another test with my morning urine sample and am absolutely shitting myself.
Over the past 3 weeks I've been really moody, had very sore and sensitive breasts which seem to be growing by the day and my skin has is spotty and greasy. I thought it was a bad case of pmt until I realised my period is actually a few (5) days late.

 The guy I was seeing has turned out to be a total idiot (what a surprise) and I finished with him a couple of days ago. There's no way I want a baby (lots of reasons) so I discussed terminating the possible pregnancy with the nurse. I know it might sound really selfish but I don't even want to discuss it with the guy concerned. There aren't any people around me who I can talk about this to so I'm really facing this totally alone.
I know there's a possibility that I'm not pregnant and I may be worrying unnecessarily but I feel pregnant (if that makes sense?)
My appointment is at 10am so as soon as I know anything I'll post an update. 16 hours and counting......

[Mango]

I'm not sure what to tell you, but I can't leave you without a response. Like lots of woman I also had a pregnancy scare, luckily for my it turned out to be nothing. Personally, I am pro-choice, but I don't think you should be worrying about this already.  I do agree that discussing this with the guy would only complicate things, I don't think it's selfish at all.

All your symptoms point to an hormonal imbalance, which would also explain the inconclusive result, you won't know if this is because of pregnancy until tomorrow.   If I were you, I would take something to help me sleep, otherwise you'll be worrying all night.

If you can't sleep/want to talk you're welcome to pm me.

[xxxtinyxxx]

Hi,

I'm not trying to worry you by saying this but when i was 18 i had the same thing happen, late period, soreness, tiredness, i took 1 of those cheap tests and it came out negative, but when i went back to it a few hours later i could see a faint line, to cut a long story short i did another test a few days later and it was positive, i am ashamed to say it but i didn't keep the baby, i was 18, living here there and everywhere, i couldn't even look after myself let alone a baby, but i have always regretted it and always will. I would never have a termination again. I now have 3 wonderful children who are my world.

I hope everything works out for you.

Love N' Hugz.

Mak.
xxxxxx

[timebomb]

Hi,

First off im a male so u may not want to hear my opinion, but when i was 21 i made my 17 year old girlfriend pregnant. We didnt have the best of relationships but decided to keep it. It was very hard work, harder than i could of imagined and didnt improve our relationship, but can safely say its the best thing in the world and wouldnt change it for anything. Ive had alot of achievements in my life, but my daughter is by far the best.

I hope this hasnt confused you more than you already are.

[Alexa]

Been there too. I don't regret my choice (the abortion) but I think it really depends on what is right for you.

I know it's really hard not to overthink in this situation - but you aren't really helping yourself. If it comes back negative tomorrow you'll have worried all night for nothing, and if it's positive... then you deal with it then (that sounds harsher than I intended - I mean, then you make the decisions and the plans - don't go jumping to conclusions). I think you can worry yourself into having the symptoms - psychosomatic I think is the word - you start adding lots of little things up into one huge thing that seems conclusive, but really is just a lot of little coincidences.

Equally, feel free to pm me if you want to chat. And good luck with the test!

Alexa x

[Scarlett Syn]

Tiny

It seems that whatever the answer you already know your decision. Whatever decision you make is the right decision. You can't take it back so no point in regretting it or counting it down five years from now saying that you would have had a five year old.  If you think you would say things like that then don't get an abortion. If you won't and you want one, get one. To make things easier all around if you do get one, get one as soon as possible. Waiting makes everything more complicated. Good luck and if you need anything feel free to pm me.

xx

[xxxtinyxxx]

Hi,

It was never the fact that i wanted an abortion, it was the fact that i HAD to have an abortion, there is a huge difference, i regret it because when i was at the hospital i changed my mind but it was too late i already had started the procedure, but now all these years on i know i cant change the past so i don't really think about it. I have grown up a lot since those days and i think i would think my decision through a lot differently now, although saying that, i now am in a stable relationship, have my own finances and property and my lifestyle is totally different. I'm not looking to have anymore babies anytime soon i have enough with the 3 i already have 2 of which are under the age of 5 so i have no time for anything else at the moment. Hence why i only get to work 1 day a week!!!! AARRRRGGGGHHHHH!!!!

Love N' Hugz.

Mak.
xxxxxx

[Scarlett Syn]

Oh my god!!! I haven't even read your reply yet, but I meant to say Pink. I am sooooo sorry, Tiny!

[Scarlett Syn]

Ok, just read what you wrote. That is HORRIBLY traumatic! You poor thing. Even thought that was a really bad experience I am sure that you learned a lot through it and the kids that you have now are cherished more than anything.

For the record. I have had one abortion and had a child about four years after. I always say that once I have a child I don't think I would be able to have another abortion. But, being faced with an accidental pregnancy I would FLY to get the abortion pill.

[cindy]

Jeeze Louise, please post soon with results/how you are etc. Wont stop worrying until I know. I would love to have a child and am in the ideal situation money and timewise to have one but unplanned is a very different thing. Especially alone. Im thinking of you.

[Pink]

Thanks for your replies. I appreciate the different views and experiences shared by you all. This in one of those situations where one decision is right for some, another for others.
I've thought about it enough to know what decision I'll make. I totally understand that some people may regret their decisions, especially if it's been forced on them which is bloody horrific in my opinion.
I'm not the sort of person who views having children as an achievement. Being a good parent is an achievement. I don't feel ready to bring anybody else into the world. I know that some people are shocked and appalled by somebody effectively playing God, and I'm sorry if my views or possible choices offend you.
Unplanned pregnancy turns everything on in head.
Last night I had a friend over for dinner (I haven't told anybody who knows me -only you guys) so it wasn't discussed and I went to bed early. I'm leaving soon, armed with my morning wee - to find out for sure.
Will post as soon as I'm back.
Thanks once again for your views x

[sophleeds24]

Good luck.

I found out I was pregnant by my boyfriend in January. I had a termination at the end of the month, and... I can't lie and say its easy, but I think I made the right choice.
If you believe in the choice you make, then don't worry about it. You will make whatever decision is best.
I don't regret my choice, it was hard, but it was the best thing to do.

I'm thinking of you xx

[Lucymay]

Had an abortion 6 years ago, I do think 'I could have a 6 year old child' but its normally followed by ' thank god I don't!'.  It's not an easy thing to go through although the earlier you find out if your pregnant and decide to have one the easier it will be.

[EmilyJones]

Pink, I just wanted to add my support to that of the ladies above. I'm sorry that you have such a tough thing to go through but trust yourself to make the right decision and don't forget that us lot are always here for you!

[Pink]

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