Sugar Daddies & related arrangements

[ParisB]

Its difficult for me to answer this as most of my friends are in normal jobs and a few keep getting marride because they don't have enough income on their own to secure their future or pay their mortgage, but the few ladies that do this are all hell bent on finding a SD 

She sounds like she is not happy and maybe getting depressed about her situation which is understandable as this for some people can be a very limiting existence long term

I think my friend was "burned out" and is now very happy to give herself a much needed break from the biz.  She believes this guy is going to support her forever and she's going to be his mistress for the rest of her life. IMO she is trying a fix a problem in the "short term" (finding a SG so she can quit the biz), but SG's (like most men) come and go, so she's NOT thinking "long term" because once he leaves her she'll have to go back to sex work as she doesn't have any other skill. Obviously she's deluding herself by not accepting this cold & hard fact  hence the reason "Jennny" gets so angry with me every time I bring it up. But hey, maybe this guy is going to support her forever and I'm just being a jealous cow lol! But truth is  she's turned into a slave for him and part of him wanting her to "not work" is so that he can control her. On the other hand she doesn't seem to have a problem with it. in her mind it's better to be a slave for one man than a slave for 50 guys. The "free bird" in me would NEVER sign up for this situation (being 100% financially dependent on a man and let him have so much power over me) so I guess I'm not sugar babe material. Which is probably why I 've never had a SG in my whole life. It's not looking like it's going to happen either. Not that I care to be honest.

I've never known of any mistress  in their  80s although i suppose they are out there  (  thinking about the comment that he is going to support her for the rest of her life ) 

If it were me and i were going down this line i would be aiming to get a sugar daddy to buy me a house outright in my name not in his name or a lease and everything that i got would be in my name not his
because when he dumps me for a younger more obliging sugar babe at least I would have got my money worth
But actually while I'm pretty mercenary in both life and business I  just don't think i could do this sort of whoring  Im the opposite would rather fuck 50 guys for my own money than be reliant on one guy for everything
I guess I'm a  prostitute  when I'm working and fucking but if i was a sugar babe i would feel like i was one 24/7 never getting any down time

[ana30]

If it were me and i were going down this line i would be aiming to get a sugar daddy to buy me a house outright in my name not in his name or a lease and everything that i got would be in my name not his
because when he dumps me for a younger more obliging sugar babe at least I would have got my money worth

You're talking like a "traditional wife" now Paris, which is kind of an "upgraded version to the sugar babe status". The most looked after position for many women: a whore with a "government contract that is socially accepted, has "benefits" and a pension.

lol!

[ParisB]

If it were me and i were going down this line i would be aiming to get a sugar daddy to buy me a house outright in my name not in his name or a lease and everything that i got would be in my name not his
because when he dumps me for a younger more obliging sugar babe at least I would have got my money worth

You're talking like a "traditional wife" now Paris, which is kind of an "upgraded version to the sugar babe status". The most looked after position for many women: a whore with a "government contract that is socially accepted, has "benefits" and a pension.

lol!

nah with a wife you have to wash his smelly socks and skid mark pants  if i were doing that then i would defiantly want the house in my name (lol)

[LouLou37]

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[ana30]

I would rather women were FULLY independent of men, but that will not happen whilst women with children are still expected to bear the financial and household brunt of things after children are born.

Lou lou, if men could bear children the whole dynamics of society would change 100 degrees. We would have an egalitarian society. Heterosexual men would have to stay at home and find a woman to provide financially . Watch abortion becoming free, ready and available in every street corner (plus gas stations and pubs).
 


On the other hand i don't believe we've gone "backwards" at all, in the 16th century a woman who choose to be single and not have kids would be labelled a "witch", in the 18th century she would be "a sad spinster" whose only options were being a nun, a nurse, a midwife or a seamstress". Nowadays being a single career woman with no kids is "empowering". We can vote, decide if we want to reproduce or not, drive commercial aeroplanes, even become CEO's if we want. Had you been born a century ago they would throw you into jail for being a prostitute! Nowadays you have a GUM clinic, a Praed project, a "National mugs site", a safety forum and can advertise freely. But we still bear children and that STILL messes up the whole financial dynamics between the sexes. Because as you say now we have double the workload: being home makers and "bringing the bread to the table" .But that's the price we had to pay for "women's liberation", and I'd rather have it a million times that way than the way it was for us 2 centuries ago. You can't "have your cake and eat it too".

[Lisa lisa]

I have recently joined this bang wagon and I do think having a sugar daddy who you actually meet in person is too much effort.

However having a few who think they are being cleaver by chatting and seeing you on Skype after a purchase from my wish list of course is a suitable alternative for me :-)

[zara jayde xx]

Was it worth it?
 Im thinking of maybe finding me a sugar daddy not anything serious as such.....im going to sign up to a few sites.....but im expecting  a lot of time wasting.

im thinking of something short term perhaps maybe a month or two.

what are your experiences

[Caledonia]

Never done it but from the posts I've read on here its more trouble than it's worth.

[KimberlyC]

I had a sugar daddy years ago. Guy gave me a big allowance every week, rented me a nice flat, and leased me a sports car. He took me on fancy holidays to super posh resorts in Hawaii and Europe. He would also buy me anything I asked for.

And it wasn't worth it. I got totally sick of him and RAN back to being a prostitute.

The arrangement is like being a full-time prossie without any boundaries. At least that was my experience. Ugh.

[Pink~Princess]

I actually wouldn't mind having my rent paid, car paid, holidays, big weekly allowance and anything I wanted in exchange for me being at his beck and call as it would save me sleeping with literally hundreds of different men HOWEVER I have never tried it for real so don't actually know what I am talking about lol but I would love to give it a shot. I'd never go down the sugar daddy route if I was worse off than what I am doing now, that would just be silly considering I made excellent money and only need to actually work 3 hours a day xx

[Sassy Slapper]

OMG the thought of being at the beck and call of a guy because he has control of your cash flow, home and car is the stuff of nightmares for me. Yes I would love to be kept but it would have to be a love situation for me to put up with a guys demands?I am simply incapable of hiding my intolerance towards some sorts of people and their little strange ways. I would probably lose it big time and bash him over the head with my expensive shoes he has bought me if I tried to swallow the irritations for too long, they would build up and build up until I just couldn't keep it in any longer.

I dont know how anyone can manage this unless the guy is very work orientated so not around much or an absolute billionaire so you can afford to be all over the world doing all sorts of things all the time. Being trapped in a flat or house with someone I didn't really want to be with would just grind on me till i burst.

I had a guy who was kind of a partial sugar daddy years ago, not a full on arrangement or anything but it was of that ilk and I ended up smacking him on the head with the mobile phone he had just bought me. He gave me a "present" and then said "soo, whadda you gonna do for me now eh??" whilst proceeding to grab my boobs. So I gonked him right on the top of his presumptive bald head with the phone and said "thats what"then gave him the phone back. uughghggh so slimy and smarmy. I think he still has a dent in his head 

[curvy_girl]

I think when it comes to sugar daddies you can choose who you would like to be with, like when you are independent you can turn down whoever you like if you wish.

If you are lucky enough to have a few guys who would like to 'keep' you so to speak you can go on dates like you would do with any other potential, if you are serious about sugar daddying you will go to the dates and see if you find a goodun'.

If you don't then I guess it is wasted time. That's why escorting is a lot easier. I would only accept a sugar daddy arrangement if he contacted me through AW so he would at least know he would have to pay for my time. But I know some sugar daddies don't like to have an escort baby and would rather a girl trying to get through college and what not. I think what I am trying to say is if it came to me maybe in the form of a wealthy client then I would think about it for sure!

[Julia1985]

Any views on a suitable monthly allowance in London area and the number of meeting per month. Seems like something that might be worth trying but sorting out the TW from the genuine might be a challenge.

I was also wondering how successful others have been in getting clients to commit to monthly arrangements rather than per meeting. I don't yet have any clients who pays by the month but would certainly welcome them as it would give a more reliable source on income. Just don't know whether there are many out there willing to commit.

[KaylaCouture]

A good friend of mine,  who's been escorting a few years longer than I, was telling me about a few girls she knows who have all had incredible success as "Sugar Babies" recently. She said they all started with profiles on sites like  sugardaddie.com & seekingarrangements.com, and all eventually met gentlemen who pay extremely well to see them on a regular basis. One of the girls drives to San Francisco (two hours from us in Sacramento) twice a month, to spend every other weekend with the guy in his big,  beautiful house on the bay and he pays her $12,000 (evi says that's the same as ?7,600 in the UK) every month! Another gets $8,000 for four overnight visits a month. Both their "arrangements" are fairly new,  like 3 months in,  but a third girl found her sugar daddy exactly a year ago, and he just bought her a brand new BMW as a gift for their "anniversary"!

So I'm very curious if any of you have experimented with relationships like these,  or are on these types of websites? I've often heard that they discourage girls who are considered "escorts" from using their sites, that the type of women they want to attract is along the lines of young, beautiful, single coeds who are struggling financially from paying for college. I imagine that's because the type of man who uses their service, a) is interested in a lot more than just having sex, b) wants to feel like his money is going to good use and c) most likely either wants a monogamous deal,  or at least not have to wear a condom.

Do you think any of that matters,  or are most the girls on there just escorts in disguise?  Any experiences to share,  or stories to tell? I'm also dying to know how many of the guys are actually rich,  and how many are completely full of shit and still live with their mothers??

[xw5]

Have a search for "sugar" for a variety of experiences with such things, but sex for money is sex for money, no matter how it is marketed.

It's not unknown for people to exaggerate how much they are earning and downplay how hard it is to get it, of course.

_{Update: Now merged with another relevant thread.}