Finding retirement hard any one else in the same boat ?

[barbie88]

Hey ladies I was a escort for 8 years retired recently finding it so hard it was really hard to get a normal job pretty much had to start from scratch I still do webcam when I can it's not just the lack of money I find hard but having a 9 to 5 and listening to other people I find hard also socialising with non working girls really missing the escort lifestyle I feel actually more happier but finding it really hard any one else feel like this ? Xx

[tigerlily]

I've moved in and out of 'having a job' and being self employed quite a lot. Every time I started a new job felt mistrustful of the boss and co-workers. Working for yourself you work harder and longer hours, but having a boss who tells you what to do, plays on your ego to try and manipulate you, and having to socialize with people you wouldn't seek out on your own is oppressive!

Talking with people is an art, remember. Think of escorting and trying to interact with clients. Fake it 'til you make it with the conversation and eventually you'll probably feel more relaxed and connected with them since you'll be sharing the same experiences and all.

Glad to hear you're happy with your new work. I hope you're doing something you enjoy, and I'm sure it will get easier!!!!

[VioletteUK]

Stopped working for about 2 years, and since starting back again, I have never stopped. I would slash throats if I had to work in a9-5 job, lord the banality of it. Its the going life for me.

[mature helen]

I worked for different companies when taking the odd break from escorting and it was terrible I can't get used to being told what to do and how to do it, I also found it hard to accept asking and being refused time off to go on holiday etc. I feel like a free sprit when escorting I like the feeling of flying by the seat of my pants and not knowing what the day will bring. I just cant hack civvy jobs anymore.

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

Barbie, I think the transitioning from escort to other services or non adult services can be harder than many people think, but it is really as hard as we make it on ourselves.

If we are used to splurging or being good to ourselves whilst escorting, and let's be honest sometimes we've got to to lift our spirits but when we stop escorting unless you've got thousands in the bank then it is going to go quickly.  Even having thousands it can go quickly.

The trick is trying not to do all the transitioning in one go.

I think most escorts are strong independent women and if you are anything like me will not take anything for free and that's all good.  Nothing wrong with being strong and independent.

We have to learn to design our life around the money we have coming in and in many cases this can be a fraction of what we are used to.  With some it's easier than others, it depends on how much of the "high life" you have lived.

When it comes to socialising with civvy people I find their conversations so boring, even the younger people I socialise with bore the **** out of me but we just got to keep trying.  It's all a step at a time.

It IS nice to not to have to lead the double life but at the same time we still do tend to look over our shoulders checking that we haven't been recognised but that is just part and parcel of the job, one we probably didn't think of when we first started. 

We also have to be on guard if we get a bit tiddly in case we open our gobs and let something slip 

BUT after a while you will feel more settled.  Different people take different lengths of time to transition and it all depends on the environment we are moving on to that I think makes the different too. 

I think age too makes a difference and also if you are moving into a well paid job too, for if you only have a fraction of wages coming in that you have been used to, it will be more difficult and this is when girls start to resent civvy work and the money and hours and end up returning to whoring.

So, really, just take it a step at a time and a day at a time.  Rome wasn't built in a day.

Good luck x

[barbie88]

Thanks for the advice ladies I see where you are all coming from nice to hear  the different views and opinions on the subject . Yes being told what to do is hard and having rules also being turned down for job interviews I found quite hard lol I'm just trying to start off at the bottom of ladder work my way up .

Yes lady lust I will have to learn not to go off on my Selfridges spending sprees he he it's not just that which you all covered in you advice it is the interaction with people ect . Yeh it's hard living a double life it's different once it's all behind you . Of course people can still find out but less likely . Yeh I'm trying my best to stick with it finding it very hard . I'm much happier now than I was when I was a full time escort I lived just a closed lonely life I'm way more happier I think my inside confidence needs to be built up and my purse is crying he he but part from that I'm ok . Xx