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BlaqHarlot

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Re: When the GFE is too convincing...
« Reply #15 on: 13 April 2016, 11:41:54 pm »
It's  part of the reason we charge so much, it's mentally tiring having to put these men back in place of escort client things are going well then the client drops the L bomb, I am human lol I do sympathise hence why it's egsausting. I just tell them that just because the meets are paid doesn't mean the human connections & friendships aren't real BUT I feel it's disrespecting my boundaries to ask for something more than the set up we have as it's basically saying you CBA to pay anymore. Some lump it and come back as usual, some get obsessed & manipulative and I have to shake them, some are embarrassed by their proposal and I never see them again.  I just tell them if I allowed all my clients to leave that boundary i'd have no money to pay the rent, i'd love to get my massages on the house but I understand it's a service. I don't usually bring that reality into things as it's supposed to be a fantasy but that's the problem, sometimes they forget that so on occasions it is appropriate to remind them. Just been dealing with someone who wouldn't take no or a block as an answer so yea I get you it's knackering.

Take it as a compliment that your doing your job right, if they can't accept that, there is ALWAYS more clients to be had. Your right it seems cold but like....... I can't pay the rent with 50 boyfriends haha. 'You want to date me? Oh go on then.' I mean.... this is like a monthly thing how would we be expected to see all these men for free..... Think my house would turn into a huge polyamerous gang bang mess. We like the company of our friends doesn't mean we want to date them all. When you put it logically and silly i'm sure they'll get it & not take offence.

The older ones find it much more difficult because they can't go out and freely date attractive young women in their lives. That makes them much more unpleasant when it gets bad.

Had a guy in his mid 20's before who never expressed his feelings but I knew he was massively into me, he would always keep silent on the issue and just say things like "all women are the same anyway"... which i was fine with. Always showed he cared , like lending me his jacket when my heater was not working.

 He had a long term girlfriend and split with her while he was seeing me, then got another girlfriend.  Eventually he stopped seeing me because by his 2nd new girlfriend I think he managed to get over me. It did take him a fair while though, like 2 years.

Clients like that are rare though, he wanted to keep seeing me rather than lose me.. which was fair enough. I think he gave up in the end.
I agree about the older guys, I do think the bitterness and nastiness stems from they know they can't get us younger girls and when we openly reject them it hurts, I hear clients talk about how they're not a "young stud" anymore and can't pull the stunners and all that, so I do believe many of them get nasty due to bitterness.
I had a client who was 27 (I'm 22) ask me out on a date and said he could see things going somewhere, I nicely turned him down and told him I'm happy being single and this is business to me. He was so nice about it and understood my reasons and was really mature and lovely, maybe he knew what my answer was gonna be!

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Re: When the GFE is too convincing...
« Reply #16 on: 17 April 2016, 03:36:10 am »
Ah the number one bugbear of this job and this industry in general when the men forget what it is all about and want to make more of it than what's actually happening, you then lose a nice chunk of change when they get their big egos bruised :FF

I've had this happen many times over the years and I still don't understand how or why these men believe that because they pay they deserve our undying love and affection, no you deserve however long you've paid for and you are forgotten about before I even reach the car outside. My favourite are the ones who stop booking to 'teach us a lesson' but are so hooked they come crawling back years later, happened recently and I'm happily rinsing his wallet without promising him anything or leading him on in any way all over again. Kaching!!
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Re: When the GFE is too convincing...
« Reply #17 on: 17 April 2016, 11:27:32 am »
I have seen a guy a few times now and he wants me to be his woman. It is so difficult when you are in a client's home prior to getting down to business when they declare their love. All that is in my mind is the ???'s lost if I say 'no I don't have relationships with clients'. I think these types put us in a very awkward position. He said he cared for me. I just told him that sorry I just can't do without the ??? right now due to blah blah so hopefully he will keep seeing me, keep paying me and I will keep him sweet along the way.

Very tricky x

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« Reply #18 on: 19 April 2016, 10:45:49 pm »
What is going on? Pretty much every client I've had over the last few weeks has decided they want to date me, have feeling for me or want to make it more serious.... I have no issues saying no nicely! I just don't understand why its happening! I've gone from never hearing it, to literally being told a few times a day... Im hoping its just Spring Fever and will wear off! Anyone else getting this at the moment? x
Oh for the record, I wouldn't date any of them!

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Re: When the GFE is too convincing...
« Reply #19 on: 20 April 2016, 01:55:41 am »
Ahh, occupational hazard unfortunatley  ::)

I've been working on and off for around four years now and have had four seperate clients "fall" for me. Two have been harmless enough and more soppy than anything, the other two were malignant narcissists and caused me so much hassle they almost drove me to quit.

And men say we women are the ones who can't distinguish between sex and love lol what a crock.

That being said though, I don't think it's always a case of them being smitten, some of them are just smart Alec's trying to get free bookings. On a few occasions I've had a first or second time client ask me out after the booking, yeah right mate of course  ::) x


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Re: When the GFE is too convincing...
« Reply #20 on: 21 April 2016, 09:35:58 am »


That being said though, I don't think it's always a case of them being smitten, some of them are just smart Alec's trying to get free bookings. On a few occasions I've had a first or second time client ask me out after the booking, yeah right mate of course  ::) x


Yes and I've had more than a few say that they 'like me as a person and not just for sex' A good way for them to prove their feelings is to suggest they book every week for a year (with no sex) and still pay...I don't think there would be many takers for that arrangement lol

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Re: When the GFE is too convincing...
« Reply #21 on: 22 April 2016, 09:49:23 am »
Ahh, occupational hazard unfortunatley  ::)

I've been working on and off for around four years now and have had four seperate clients "fall" for me. Two have been harmless enough and more soppy than anything, the other two were malignant narcissists and caused me so much hassle they almost drove me to quit.

And men say we women are the ones who can't distinguish between sex and love lol what a crock.

That being said though, I don't think it's always a case of them being smitten, some of them are just smart Alec's trying to get free bookings. On a few occasions I've had a first or second time client ask me out after the booking, yeah right mate of course  ::) x

Totally agree with this comment, I think the ones that say they wan't to take me on a date and then make pains to underline "it's not a booking" are just after freebies.

One married guy (really lovely regular) spammed me with texts after a booking and asked me out on a date and when I turned him down he said he wouldn't see me any more! He'll be back!!

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Re: When the GFE is too convincing...
« Reply #22 on: 22 April 2016, 10:58:17 am »
I had this when I came back last summer I think it was how I worded my profile. If you make yourself seem to available they'll think you are fare game. Think alot of it too is them thinking they are telling us what they think we want to hear, aside from being delusional, as most say it's to get free sex. It's all a smokescreen of narcissistic "charm" & not thinking lie a rational person.

Tell 'em you have 3 Bfs already & couldn't possibly take another one on or you are looking for a girlfriend, bored with cock.  :P

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Re: When the GFE is too convincing...
« Reply #23 on: 22 April 2016, 01:25:07 pm »
I call them "clingons", sadly they are just lonely desperate delusional guys who probably couldn't cope in a "normal" relationship.
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Re: When the GFE is too convincing...
« Reply #24 on: 22 April 2016, 02:13:06 pm »
I call them "clingons", sadly they are just lonely desperate delusional guys who probably couldn't cope in a "normal" relationship.

Hence why they cheat. They are not lonely per se, they just don't actually have any decency.

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Re: When the GFE is too convincing...
« Reply #25 on: 22 April 2016, 03:56:40 pm »
I call them "clingons", sadly they are just lonely desperate delusional guys who probably couldn't cope in a "normal" relationship.

Hence why they cheat. They are not lonely per se, they just don't actually have any decency.

No, I don't think this is acceptable at all.
Many clients aren't cheating on anyone as they are single to begin with, and as for those who do, I can't say I agree that they 'don't have any decency.'

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Re: When the GFE is too convincing...
« Reply #26 on: 22 April 2016, 04:20:50 pm »
I call them "clingons", sadly they are just lonely desperate delusional guys who probably couldn't cope in a "normal" relationship.

Hence why they cheat. They are not lonely per se, they just don't actually have any decency.

No, I don't think this is acceptable at all.
Many clients aren't cheating on anyone as they are single to begin with, and as for those who do, I can't say I agree that they 'don't have any decency.'

Some don't care about the chaos & destruction they cause to their spouse so she does have a valid point. It's down to personal boundaries isn't it.

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Re: When the GFE is too convincing...
« Reply #27 on: 22 April 2016, 05:10:20 pm »
Last time I saw old guy who has decided we are going to have a relationship (!), I asked him the time....''Ohhh, don't do that!' he said, pulling a pained face.

So I had to do a contortionist act trying to see his watch face.


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Re: When the GFE is too convincing...
« Reply #28 on: 22 April 2016, 06:02:07 pm »

Hence why they cheat. They are not lonely per se, they just don't actually have any decency.

No, I don't think this is acceptable at all.
Many clients aren't cheating on anyone as they are single to begin with, and as for those who do, I can't say I agree that they 'don't have any decency.'
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Some don't care about the chaos & destruction they cause to their spouse so she does have a valid point. It's down to personal boundaries isn't it.
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What chaos and destruction? Even the ones who are in a monogamous relationship, the partner very rarely finds out so there's no chaos or destruction!

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Re: When the GFE is too convincing...
« Reply #29 on: 22 April 2016, 07:13:29 pm »
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That being said though, I don't think it's always a case of them being smitten, some of them are just smart Alec's trying to get free bookings. On a few occasions I've had a first or second time client ask me out after the booking, yeah right mate of course  ::) x
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Totally agree here. The amount of them that say "oh the hour is up but you can stay for dinner just as friends". No thanks mate. I'll take the money and get a burger on the way home!!!