When the GFE is too convincing...

[sultress000]

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That being said though, I don't think it's always a case of them being smitten, some of them are just smart Alec's trying to get free bookings. On a few occasions I've had a first or second time client ask me out after the booking, yeah right mate of course  x

Totally agree here. The amount of them that say "oh the hour is up but you can stay for dinner just as friends". No thanks mate. I'll take the money and get a burger on the way home!!!
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Lol. Love this!

[Shewolf]

Absolutely! Old guy I see wanted to cook me dinner this weekend. Thank god he's cancelled as it's crossing the boundaries a bit that x

[sammy s]

My heart just sinks when I get an email after a lovely enjoyable booking with someone saying something like "I'd love to treat you to dinner one evening just as friends".
I instantly know at that point that I've just lost a potential regular because he can't keep his emotions in check! If I respond back explaining that it's a business and I don't see people for free etc i rarely ever hear from them again. It's so waring!

[sultress000]

My heart just sinks when I get an email after a lovely enjoyable booking with someone saying something like "I'd love to treat you to dinner one evening just as friends".
I instantly know at that point that I've just lost a potential regular because he can't keep his emotions in check! If I respond back explaining that it's a business and I don't see people for free etc i rarely ever hear from them again. It's so waring!

Yep, exactly the same here. There is no magic reply to make it better.

[Jessiegirl]

I offer a gfe and not sure if my fave client is starting to show feelings for me or if I'm just being paranoid. Would love your feedback on this.
I've only been doing this for about six months and he has been a regular for four months now.
We both get on, I do enjoy his company and enjoy my time with him.
Started off with just bjs and cim then moved onto sex and now we always have sex. The last couple of times it has been so intimate more like him making love to me than just sex. Always have a chat after but last time had a cuddle too.
Started referring to me as his lover.
I want to keep him as a regular but don't want him to fall for me as judging from your posts this never works out if you want to keep it a business transaction.
Should I say something to him before it's too late or can you give some tips on how to not get too intimate without spoiling the moment.
I made the mistake of telling him too many personal things about myself early on which probably didn't help.
Seeing him tomorrow and want things to go back to normal.

[katrina]

I offer a gfe and not sure if my fave client is starting to show feelings for me or if I'm just being paranoid. Would love your feedback on this.
I've only been doing this for about six months and he has been a regular for four months now.
We both get on, I do enjoy his company and enjoy my time with him.
Started off with just bjs and cim then moved onto sex and now we always have sex. The last couple of times it has been so intimate more like him making love to me than just sex. Always have a chat after but last time had a cuddle too.
Started referring to me as his lover.
I want to keep him as a regular but don't want him to fall for me as judging from your posts this never works out if you want to keep it a business transaction.
Should I say something to him before it's too late or can you give some tips on how to not get too intimate without spoiling the moment.
I made the mistake of telling him too many personal things about myself early on which probably didn't help.
Seeing him tomorrow and want things to go back to normal.

I would start to change some of your personal details that you tell him ( He's probably not even taken in what you've said and just imagined his own view of your personal situation anyway) Make a new start as in be more precise; when the booking starts mention the time to him: "So you wanted an hour at 3pm" or whatever then very close to 4pm say something like " the bookings almost over time flies when you're having fun doesn't it!? "  Keep it professional but fun and friendly. Otherwise sounds like he will sooner or later not want to pay seeing as you're 'such good friends' 

[Jessiegirl]

I wouldn't say we are friends as we only see each other when he books me. I know I need to be more business like with him.
I'm just not sure if I should say something to him and if I do not sure what to say without ruining the rapport we have built.

[Kit]

I offer a gfe and not sure if my fave client is starting to show feelings for me or if I'm just being paranoid. Would love your feedback on this.
I've only been doing this for about six months and he has been a regular for four months now.
We both get on, I do enjoy his company and enjoy my time with him.
Started off with just bjs and cim then moved onto sex and now we always have sex. The last couple of times it has been so intimate more like him making love to me than just sex. Always have a chat after but last time had a cuddle too.
Started referring to me as his lover.
I want to keep him as a regular but don't want him to fall for me as judging from your posts this never works out if you want to keep it a business transaction.
Should I say something to him before it's too late or can you give some tips on how to not get too intimate without spoiling the moment.
I made the mistake of telling him too many personal things about myself early on which probably didn't help.
Seeing him tomorrow and want things to go back to normal.

What tends to work for me is saying "I've got another booking at x time" - say he's booked for 1 hour due to end at 4pm, I'd say 10 mins before the hour is up, "I've got another booking at 4.30pm would you like a shower before you go?" - a bit blunt I know, but it sends the message to him that you are seeing other clients, and serves as a reminder that he is a paying client - one of many.

Offering a GFE does attract clients who want the intimacy of a relationship and the lines can become very blurred for the client. For the escort it can be difficult to keep the boundaries clear, especially if the client is obviously lonely and wants a cuddle and a chat... I find it very hard at times... but it is a business transaction and one has to be firm and remind the client it's business.

[katrina]

I wouldn't say we are friends as we only see each other when he books me. I know I need to be more business like with him.
I'm just not sure if I should say something to him and if I do not sure what to say without ruining the rapport we have built.

Remember its in his interests to keep a rapport running with you, its win win for him he can only gain from being 'friends' with you. More 'regular' clients will come along without the headaches of this customer. 

[Jessiegirl]

Maybe I'm giving mixed signals. I'm quite a laid back person and naturally very friendly. The last couple of times we went over our booked time which was my fault as I'm crap at keeping an eye on time. I know I need to be more business like and stricter. Maybe that will come with time and experience.
The thing is he is my best client and sees me at least once a week plus I do enjoy his company. So it's quite a lot of money to give up on. Anyway hoping to build my clientele so not too dependant on him.
I do keep putting my foot in though and once I've said it think why did I say that to him.

[Kay]

Maybe I'm giving mixed signals. I'm quite a laid back person and naturally very friendly. The last couple of times we went over our booked time which was my fault as I'm crap at keeping an eye on time. I know I need to be more business like and stricter. Maybe that will come with time and experience.
The thing is he is my best client and sees me at least once a week plus I do enjoy his company. So it's quite a lot of money to give up on. Anyway hoping to build my clientele so not too dependant on him.
I do keep putting my foot in though and once I've said it think why did I say that to him.

Haven't we discussed this before?? 

[sweetmilf]

I think that's because it is probably giving Jessie some extra emotional strain.  I find the boundary pushers in the context of GFE most stressful.  I had to take a few days off after that.   

[SweetAngel]

I hate it so much when they try to take me out for FREE date. No way..no way. We are not on dating site and definitely notooking for the love of our lifes there! I dont mind goinf for a dinner. But there is a price for it... some of them get angry with me because "i treat them as a clients". Well. Thats the idea. Sex with no strings. We both get what we want so no need of drama. But I consider myself too friendly. I am telling them my real name (absolutely fake), things from my real life (fairytales) and so on. Maybe thats how they believe that you are very attracted to them and take them as close to you

[SweetAngel]

I hate it so much when they try to take me out for FREE date. No way..no way. We are not on dating site and definitely not looking for the love of our lifes there! I dont mind going for a dinner. But there is a price for it... some of them get angry with me because "i treat them as a clients". Well. Thats the idea. Sex with no strings. We both get what we want so no need of drama. But I consider myself too friendly. I am telling them my real name (absolutely fake), things from my real life (fairytales) and so on. Maybe thats how they believe that you are very attracted to them and take them as close to you

[Chanel xxx]

As I also offer gfe I can say from my experience it is true that lines can become blurred. But just because gfe is on offer may not be the reason why some clients want to see you and not pay you for your time. When you willingly extend the booking...for no charge then that maybe is a bit risky business wise.
I don't know how long the op has been doing this work for but please don't think that these men are lost and confused. They may be married or in a relationship and most likely seeing other escorts other than you.

Yes I do think great relationships can be had whilst doing this work. It has been proved by testimonies in other threads.