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newbieNW

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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #15 on: 13 May 2016, 10:22:45 pm »
Thing is that though, once we let punters fuck us, they suddenly start to behave as if they kind of "own" us just because they paid, like he paid for a knife or paid for a kitchen sink.  He owns it.  He texts you to fuck again in exchange of money.  They start to believe they own us like owning mowers. So they need to know more about us :-(

 They don't seem to get that when our paid time runs out, that's it.  They never owned us.  They don't need to know our private life and stalking us is not "attractive" to escorts.   They don't seem to self-moderate their behaviour.  Clearly, blood goes to their little brain and not  enough to his larger brain long enough.  They don't get social cues or unspoken rules as to how escorts want them to behave or say or not say.  Some men do - they are probably married / relationship and have a life!  After all they mastered interpersonal skills to hold healthy relationships.  Men who do not have might have a lower level of social skills, reading how we are feeling, thinking etc.  they got no clues! :( :-X

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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #16 on: 14 May 2016, 06:12:15 pm »
I do get that sometimes it's just to make conversation but yes past a certain point I find it very annoying, also hate when clients try to "advise" me on what I should be doing with my life  :FF My best clients don't over fish & I certainly don't about them.

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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #17 on: 14 May 2016, 08:49:02 pm »
Yeah.  Sometimes more than others, I do think a lot of the time it's a nervous thing, if they are nervous and don't know how to connect or engage in a conversation, the normal thing to do is ask the other person about themselves, and a lot of the time I don't think they realise they are being inappropriate.

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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #18 on: 20 May 2016, 04:36:19 pm »
Always with the "do you have a boyfriend?" "Oh why not?" "Why do you do this job?" If I answered any of those questions honestly they'd just lead to more questions and disappointment. Fair enough they like to know I'm a real person and have a connection but why not just talk to me about whatever they saw on tv that day or something.

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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #19 on: 20 May 2016, 05:55:36 pm »
It genuinely surprises me how many guys think it's totally acceptable to ask how much money I earn as an escort. Furthermore, when I reply "enough" half of them don't take the hint and go on to ask "yeah, but how much exactly?!" None of your sodding business!!
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Jill

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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #20 on: 20 May 2016, 06:52:51 pm »
While I understand that some men may be simply curious and without motive for asking, it is the manner in which they ask or in some cases confront you and almost demand an answer. One older guy I met recently came into my bedroom and sat himself down and the first question he asked was Do you pay tax then? I was quite taken aback and replied Do you!?

He got very little info from me as my back was up if you know what I mean. He later "told" me I must be married and put it more of a statement than a question. (I have been happily unmarried for 14 years.) Politely put queries are fine from the men but when said gruffly or while I am in the middle of "things" it annoys me a lot.
Would they like it if we started asking personal questions while they are down there?  Probably not ::)


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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #21 on: 20 May 2016, 07:01:15 pm »
Yeh it annoys me. Its not always the manner more the sense of entitlement ie. they've paid for your time so they assume they are entitled to ask intrusive personal questions just because you sell sex! Whereas they'd never dream of doing the same with anyone else they'd just met.

Yet of course if you did the same to them....I tend to have different approaches to this depending on my mood but I do try to remain polite.

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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #22 on: 20 May 2016, 07:09:13 pm »
I had a client ask how many children I have. When I told him I'm child free, he basically called me a liar. No point denying it, he said, I can always tell by the colour of a woman's nipples. I think I "processed" him in a pretty perfunctory way, certainly not looking to meet that presumptuous, rude old loon again.  ???
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Jill

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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #23 on: 20 May 2016, 08:57:40 pm »
I had a client ask how many children I have. When I told him I'm child free, he basically called me a liar. No point denying it, he said, I can always tell by the colour of a woman's nipples. I think I "processed" him in a pretty perfunctory way, certainly not looking to meet that presumptuous, rude old loon again.  ???

 ;D  Oh my god that is a first!!!!  Love it! 

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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #24 on: 20 May 2016, 11:59:18 pm »
Always with the "do you have a boyfriend?" "Oh why not?" "Why do you do this job?" If I answered any of those questions honestly they'd just lead to more questions and disappointment. Fair enough they like to know I'm a real person and have a connection but why not just talk to me about whatever they saw on tv that day or something.


The one that really gets me is "And does your boyfriend know WHAT YOU DO?!!" and what does he think about "WHAT YOU DO!" As if its shameful or something  ::) I reply with "Yes he knows that I have sex with people for money."


The other annoying question often asked by nosey clients:  "Ooh its good money isn't it?!" Or worse when they start totting up your income in their tiny little minds and coming out with a ridiculous figure, ignoring any outgoings or the fact of not being available for various reasons, assuming that because somebody sells sex that they must work flat out 365 days a year  ???

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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #25 on: 21 May 2016, 12:08:55 am »
I dislike the assumption that I've no life and I sit staring at my phone all day. If I can't take a booking because I have other plans, "just cancel your plans then"  :FF :FF :FF Cool, I'll just cancel my plans so you can get your hole.

katrina

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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #26 on: 21 May 2016, 12:13:55 am »
I dislike the assumption that I've no life and I sit staring at my phone all day. If I can't take a booking because I have other plans, "just cancel your plans then"  :FF :FF :FF Cool, I'll just cancel my plans so you can get your hole.


Oh yes when you turn them down and they text things like "that's a shame" I sometimes reply "No its not a shame for me as I'm doing xyz, shame for you that you can't plan and make a proper booking!"  ::)

newbieNW

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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #27 on: 21 May 2016, 08:30:08 am »
Always with the "do you have a boyfriend?" "Oh why not?" "Why do you do this job?" If I answered any of those questions honestly they'd just lead to more questions and disappointment. Fair enough they like to know I'm a real person and have a connection but why not just talk to me about whatever they saw on tv that day or something.

I learned and in fact, realised that they do it (asking these stupid personal questions) to annoy you / us. They know escorting is NOT something someone can be openly proud of and they are trying so hard to reiterate to us.   One punter was offended by my comment when I said, "I haven't got any hangup about escorting at all".    He was like.."well, escorting is not normal, you know.." type response.  But when he purchases sex, it's nothing to be "ashamed of" therefore, nothing to raise this comment after the deed, yeah?  These questions are coming from their double standard.  As soon as the deed is over, they start acting as if they didn't know you, looking at someone you just fucked to unload himself almost 20-30 seconds ago.  They start thinking about their wife, their sons and daughters, grandchildren, family holidays, their second home abroad, etc.  And "shit, what did I do to come to this horrible little place to fuck this prostitute?"  They get uncomfortable.  They start asking questions.  "Do you have a man / BF?" I hesitate to answer that personal question and he goes, "I doubt you do for what you bl*** do for a living" etc!  Oh yeah?  I bet your wife loves you and it would be interesting if she finds out what you do behind her back all these years.

They just fucked their chosen escort to unload themselves ("OK, we understand that you have needs, mate".)  So, stop pulling your stupid punch after the deed is over!!  Stop pretending you are so innocent.  If there were no men who purchase sex, there won't be escorting.  You, men, created us.  You are well part of this!  Boyfriend?  Just as if women had a boyfriend, our life would be "complete"!   I know women "could" have the worst life if she was married.  You don't know what a life of women is like so stop going on about how things should be and you feel you could go on about it !!  ::) :-X 8) ::)
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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #28 on: 21 May 2016, 09:31:51 am »
It just makes you think how sad they must be thinking that having a bf is a fulfilment of woman's life. The most annoying are older guys, and I mean OLDER, three of my worst punters were over 60.
One of them said "girl, you are so pretty, why don't you get married?" Lol thanks but no thanks for the suggestion. He also said its my fault he got a parking ticket because I told him to park nearby my house, but this idiot parked on double yellows lines near my house  :FF
He said he parked on double yellows cos I told him to  :FF
Is he really that stupid?

louiseescort

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Re: Does it annoy you when clients ask personal questions etc.?
« Reply #29 on: 21 May 2016, 09:48:22 am »
Depends what sort of questions.

i don't mind being asked  things like
where did you grow up?
where do you live now?
general crap like that.

what i hate, hate, hate is

"so do you have a boyfriend then?"
they normally ask this at a really disgusting moment,
like when they have come once, and they are lying down playing with them selves  :-\
or mid blow job.
The last thing i want to be thinking about is my long term partner!

the patronising, disapproving tone
"what else do you do then?"
"actually i am a mother" throws them off their tracks.

then they feel sorry for me asking the fathers involvement, just assuming  i must be a single mum.
None of their business!!

Some guys ask these sorts of things because they are being genuine, and want to know more about you,
some guys get off on it. which is what i don't like.