Relationships whilst escorting?

[SheilaStar]

I offered to share but he said he just wants me hahah

[English natural beauty]

Either he's a good liar or genuinely is happy with just me. 

[Ruby Redhead]

I'm in a similar boat to Megan. Although I had been escorting about 6 months when I meant my current boyfriend. I didn't tell him at the start because to be honest I wasn't looking for such commitment. Anyway, months went by and we got along great and I couldn't fault him. I was escorting behind his back and everything started feeling weird for me. So I ended it thinking that was the only way as I couldn't risk telling him. He chased me and tried so hard bless him, and of course he just couldn't understand why I'd walk away from what he thought was a perfect relationship.

We went camping and he kept asking me why, saying he knew there was something I wasn't telling him etc.... then he just blurted it out "are you a call girl?" I was like FUCKKKKKKKKK! But that was when I just decided to confess. It was hard and he was upset but overall he took it very well, respected my honesty and told me we'd get through it. I remember I just couldn't believe it! I could still be a whore and have a decent man? I thought he'd probably want to say friends but not have a relationship!

A year on from the confession and everything is fab! I always make sure to set aside one night of the week for 'date night'. And I make sure to treat "us" with nights away etc. I don't spoil him with gifts all the time, I also don't flash the cash or make him feel like he's on a shit wage compared to him.
But I also don't spend too much time setting "rules" about how I should be or what I talk about. Work is work and if he doesn't like it, he has the choice of walking. I don't think anyway should fall into the rut of "oh well he lets me work so I shouldn't do this or I should do that" 

He has told me though that if I'd have told him before he was madly in love with me, he would have ran a mile!

I think it's possible to have relationships while working but it does take a certain type  of person and it's all about having good judgment on who you tell. Or when you tell them!

My boyfriend knows everything now but when I first told him I didn't tell him my work name or where I advertised so that's always something you could keep private if you were worried they might out you later down the line... it's harder for them to prove. But on the other hand, trust is a key part of a relationship and so is honesty.

Never rule a relationship out because honestly I never thought I'd be in this situation but I am and it's bloody great! Having my cake and eating it. I have to remind myself how lucky I am sometimes haha.

[Lucie268]

I take it it wasn't your work that split you up in the end then. I think some relationships start out okay before jealously rears it's head.

Yes, it was unrelated! But definitely had experience afterwards with guys seeming fine to begin with and then problems starting to emerge. I guess with arguments as well it's an easy cheap blow when you want to upset someone or make them seem small.

[English natural beauty]

I'm in a similar boat to Megan. Although I had been escorting about 6 months when I meant my current boyfriend. I didn't tell him at the start because to be honest I wasn't looking for such commitment. Anyway, months went by and we got along great and I couldn't fault him. I was escorting behind his back and everything started feeling weird for me. So I ended it thinking that was the only way as I couldn't risk telling him. He chased me and tried so hard bless him, and of course he just couldn't understand why I'd walk away from what he thought was a perfect relationship.

We went camping and he kept asking me why, saying he knew there was something I wasn't telling him etc.... then he just blurted it out "are you a call girl?" I was like FUCKKKKKKKKK! But that was when I just decided to confess. It was hard and he was upset but overall he took it very well, respected my honesty and told me we'd get through it. I remember I just couldn't believe it! I could still be a whore and have a decent man? I thought he'd probably want to say friends but not have a relationship!

A year on from the confession and everything is fab! I always make sure to set aside one night of the week for 'date night'. And I make sure to treat "us" with nights away etc. I don't spoil him with gifts all the time, I also don't flash the cash or make him feel like he's on a shit wage compared to him.
But I also don't spend too much time setting "rules" about how I should be or what I talk about. Work is work and if he doesn't like it, he has the choice of walking. I don't think anyway should fall into the rut of "oh well he lets me work so I shouldn't do this or I should do that" 

He has told me though that if I'd have told him before he was madly in love with me, he would have ran a mile!

I think it's possible to have relationships while working but it does take a certain type  of person and it's all about having good judgment on who you tell. Or when you tell them!

My boyfriend knows everything now but when I first told him I didn't tell him my work name or where I advertised so that's always something you could keep private if you were worried they might out you later down the line... it's harder for them to prove. But on the other hand, trust is a key part of a relationship and so is honesty.

Never rule a relationship out because honestly I never thought I'd be in this situation but I am and it's bloody great! Having my cake and eating it. I have to remind myself how lucky I am sometimes haha.

Some guys are just wonderful 

[Nonyer]

...Never rule a relationship out because honestly I never thought I'd be in this situation but I am and it's bloody great! Having my cake and eating it. I have to remind myself how lucky I am sometimes...

+1

I had totally given up on the idea that it was even possible to find an adorable, adoring husband AND still be an escort but it appears that this unique breed are out there & I too have snagged a one good enough to marry. 

[Lotus300]

I had totally given up on the idea that it was even possible to find an adorable, adoring husband AND still be an escort but it appears that this unique breed are out there & I too have snagged a one good enough to marry. 

x2. Same for me.

But nevertheless I think this is difficult.

I would be curious to know some serious statistics on the rate of stable  relationships for sex workers and compare them with those of civvie women in the same age group. I do not know if such studies exist but if so, I would be curious to read them.

[PassionFlower]

The hardest thing for me with my newest boyfriend is maintaining enough of a sex drive for work!

We're at the 3 week still infatuated, spending every spare minute together stage and neither of us quite have the willpower to just snuggle lol

Since getting together with him my productivity has dropped by about 70% on average but some days I've gone from earning ?200-?300 to ?0

x

[OFFS]

The hardest thing for me with my newest boyfriend is maintaining enough of a sex drive for work!

We're at the 3 week still infatuated, spending every spare minute together stage and neither of us quite have the willpower to just snuggle lol

Since getting together with him my productivity has dropped by about 70% on average but some days I've gone from earning ?200-?300 to ?0

x

I know how you feel. I was dating a client I met 4 and a half years ago. He moved in ten weeks ago and I just cannot keep my hands off him and vice versa which is resulting in me doing less work. He knows what I do and is happy for me to continue  as he know it means nothing other than me paying my bills and we find it very spicy talking about work. The main thing is though, we are both happy together and he has even helped out on a couple of jobs. Things for me are actually very good, so ladies, buy a hat for the wedding as this man is a keeper 

[JustAnotherHooker]

When I was in my early to mid 20s I couldn't separate work sex from 'real' sex and I didn't so much as want a kiss anyway from my then boyfriend but now that I've been working for 12 years and I'm in my mid 30s then my sex drive is higher and I so can separate the sex.  My last boyfriend and I split up for a variety of reasons and one of them was my work, he said he felt his testosterone leaving him every time I left the house for work (worked in a sauna back then) and he stopped showering and brushing his teeth for weeks and blamed it on me for working and every time we fell out I got called a 'despicable whore' (beats plain old 'whore') so it was never going to work, I have noticed that I get bored of men once the initial lust feelings are gone, 3 & a half years is my longest relationship and I've had 3 of them.

Men can't win with me because if they aren't okay with my job then I go crazy and accuse them of being controlling but if they are okay with it then I think that he must be sleeping with other people and it annoys me that they aren't jealous! I know I know! 🤔🤔 I have now come to the conclusion that I shouldn't get involved with men in my personal life because it screws me up! Although I do believe in love & monogamy and some of you are probably choking on your Horlicks reading that but I just love love and the butterflies when you know you are going to meet up with them! I also do believe that not ALL men are unfaithful and again its another choking on your Horlicks moment but its so depressing to think that there's no point whatsoever in getting involved with a guy because he'll just cheat anyway, who wants to think like this? Not me.

[NikitaS]

I have been married for 9 years now had kids and three years ago I started escorting. Before that we have been swinging abd it was some of the guys I met this way who suggested I escort. So I started posting ads on sugarbaby websites and now I have an income.

With my husband I agreed to full disclosure. He can open my phone and emails, gets aroused when reading them. He makes good money and still gives me an allowance and pays all bills. He just wants me to swing with him once in a while and he wants to have sex 4-5 times a week. He hated it when once I told him I had worked a lot that day and was very tired, just couldn't take it. He also books escorts and has sex with them openly at home when I'm present. Apart for that, we are just fine and stable.

[sultress000]

I have been married for 9 years now had kids and three years ago I started escorting. Before that we have been swinging abd it was some of the guys I met this way who suggested I escort. So I started posting ads on sugarbaby websites and now I have an income.

With my husband I agreed to full disclosure. He can open my phone and emails, gets aroused when reading them. He makes good money and still gives me an allowance and pays all bills. He just wants me to swing with him once in a while and he wants to have sex 4-5 times a week. He hated it when once I told him I had worked a lot that day and was very tired, just couldn't take it. He also books escorts and has sex with them openly at home when I'm present. Apart for that, we are just fine and stable.

Wow, that's amazing!! Well done for making it work

[Lushblossom]

An old friend has got back in touch he used to make a big fuss about the job that was why it didn't work among many other reasons anyway he says he is fine with it now.  Deep down I really don't think he is and it will reappear as an issue later but I am making the most of it.  We have always been on and off anyway for other reasons and it would be nice to have a friend to go out with over the summer!

I still don't think we will work out as always but you never know.

People can mellow I guess but I do have my doubts about him being ok about it.

I think the men who are ok about it are ok from the off but I may be wrong.  Miracles can happen maybe.

[meetingdiversity]

When I was in my early to mid 20s I couldn't separate work sex from 'real' sex and I didn't so much as want a kiss anyway from my then boyfriend but now that I've been working for 12 years and I'm in my mid 30s then my sex drive is higher and I so can separate the sex.  My last boyfriend and I split up for a variety of reasons and one of them was my work, he said he felt his testosterone leaving him every time I left the house for work (worked in a sauna back then) and he stopped showering and brushing his teeth for weeks and blamed it on me for working and every time we fell out I got called a 'despicable whore' (beats plain old 'whore') so it was never going to work, I have noticed that I get bored of men once the initial lust feelings are gone, 3 & a half years is my longest relationship and I've had 3 of them.

Men can't win with me because if they aren't okay with my job then I go crazy and accuse them of being controlling but if they are okay with it then I think that he must be sleeping with other people and it annoys me that they aren't jealous! I know I know! 🤔🤔 I have now come to the conclusion that I shouldn't get involved with men in my personal life because it screws me up! Although I do believe in love & monogamy and some of you are probably choking on your Horlicks reading that but I just love love and the butterflies when you know you are going to meet up with them! I also do believe that not ALL men are unfaithful and again its another choking on your Horlicks moment but its so depressing to think that there's no point whatsoever in getting involved with a guy because he'll just cheat anyway, who wants to think like this? Not me.

This is why I don't tell them about escorting, if it is a client no way. They want free sex then get bored of you. I used to question if one was okay with me escorting. On the straight and narrow is the right time for a partnering up.

I can't be asked with thier bollocks.

[JustAnotherHooker]

This is why I don't tell them about escorting, if it is a client no way. They want free sex then get bored of you. I used to question if one was okay with me escorting. On the straight and narrow is the right time for a partnering up.

I can't be asked with thier bollocks.

I couldn't lie to him as we lived together, sometimes I do find that when I have strong feelings for a civvy man then I can't stay away from him but unfortunately I also need to earn a living, pay my bills etc etc and at that time I was paying rent for my house yet always at his so it was a waste and I moved out of mine and gave up my place, risky yes, foolish yes but sometimes my heart overrules my head! I am a romantic person btw and I still believe in love and lust! Lol xx

However, I have now decided to not tell another guy about my work, after all you are allowed some privacy in life!