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Anon1

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Dating a customer
« on: 09 July 2016, 09:44:29 pm »
Has anyone done it? Has it ever been successful?
If not, how do people deal with serious dating? Do men who know you're an escort take you seriously or fuck about behind your back? Do any of you let customers know you have a OH? None of my customers know about my OH even though we've been together years.
I've started this thread after reading one about a girl whose boyfriend is finding it difficult to accept. I myself am in a full on relationship with an ex customer. This isn't a post to ask for advice or anything, as I'm just curious if there are any others out there. I've not got any escort friends and have heard rumours about a couple of girls on other forums who have ended up marrying/living with customers. Not sure if just hear say though. X x x x x x

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #1 on: 09 July 2016, 09:48:11 pm »
I've done it, we ended up getting married.

BarbaraB

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #2 on: 09 July 2016, 09:54:38 pm »
now I'm in  9month relationship....  honestly  is  the best guy in long time ... but honestly in begging was hard believe  ... now i can say I'm really happy  put maybe i start be in position when I'm not comfortable what i do ..maybe...
Im looking  for apartment  in London

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #3 on: 09 July 2016, 10:04:34 pm »
Different strokes for different folks. It works for some and not others. The last few with clients turned sour never again and would rather date a civy who don't see escorts. Double standards just the way I am.

Anon1

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #4 on: 09 July 2016, 10:05:49 pm »
I've done it, we ended up getting married.
That is great! Is it because he understood it was just a job? I wonder if it's common for girls to fall for customers and for it to be successful. X x x x x x

Anon1

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #5 on: 09 July 2016, 10:07:48 pm »
Different strokes for different folks. It works for some and not others. The last few with clients turned sour never again and would rather date a civy who don't see escorts. Double standards just the way I am.
I can understand that. My OH knows I escort for the money and nothing else and other than work I see no one else. So no way is he allowed to see escorts or anyone else. Not that he has ever expressed any desire to.

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #6 on: 09 July 2016, 10:09:27 pm »
I'm no pro-LTR so,..  I decided as much as men are ok as punters, I prefer space around me, I have no right to comment.  If it works, then congrats to you.  Civvie LTR is just as bad if they won't work..

I had civvie LTRs, I was also married 3 times, so there! Lol. Now I want my life without much baggage lol

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #7 on: 09 July 2016, 10:16:57 pm »
I can understand that. My OH knows I escort for the money and nothing else and other than work I see no one else. So no way is he allowed to see escorts or anyone else. Not that he has ever expressed any desire to.

The last one messed things up for me it took along time to break even with my business. I seem to attract the men who have a problem with in the end. There has been opportunities with clients but don't go there. Learned the hard way. :) Their money is more valuable to me, if I fancy that's what dating sites are for. Business and pleasure are separate now for me.  For me clients seeing escorts is a habit for some and meeting one they could still be at it as we all know habits can be difficult to break especially a sexual one.

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #8 on: 09 July 2016, 10:18:25 pm »
That is great! Is it because it e understood it was just a job? I wonder if it's common for girls to fall for customers and for it to be successful. X x x x x x

Yes it was how he  met me, however I had relationships with non clients who took the same view. It worked because it worked.

I enjoy the job, not only the money and my husband knows it so for us it's not a case of 'only for the money, I don't really like it'. That's one reason he's supportive, he can see how much I want to do it.
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newbieNW

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #9 on: 09 July 2016, 10:20:16 pm »
In case you were wondering, why I replied on this thread.  I met a punter who asked me out,well, not one punter as we always get asked whilst escorting.  I kinda developed some feelings for one but I know it won't work.  I often think it's sex which get men deluded to think he can have someone to himself.  But if he's ok with escorting, and you feel that theLTR supports you then, why not. 

Personally, no more LTR for me (I hate monogamy) but if it's working for him / ex-punter and you then congrats to you.  Not my cup of tea now but whilst it works, enjoy. 

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #10 on: 10 July 2016, 08:57:09 am »
I have been seeing an ex-client for a little while now. It's not going to go anywhere long term (he's married) but I'm enjoying it while it lasts. He's a swinger and is into hot-wifing, so he loves hearing about me seeing clients (I don't give him any details, that would be a breach of trust. I just say "Wow, a punter banged me really well last night." BOOM instant erection!)

I really don't go for monogamy so I couldn't see anyone who didn't fully embrace my right to keep escorting (and his right to keep punting, if desired.)
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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #11 on: 10 July 2016, 09:12:20 am »
I have been seeing an ex-client for a little while now. It's not going to go anywhere long term (he's married) but I'm enjoying it while it lasts.He's a swinger and is into hot-wifing, so he loves hearing about me seeing clients (I don't give him any details, that would be a breach of trust. I just say "Wow, a punter banged me really well last night." BOOM instant erection!)

I really don't go for monogamy so I couldn't see anyone who didn't fully embrace my right to keep escorting (and his right to keep punting, if desired.)

Hot wifing? what is that VC?

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #12 on: 10 July 2016, 10:31:01 am »
Hot wifing is similar to cuckolding, but without the humiliation aspect. Basically he gets off on the idea of "sharing" me with other men/women and letting them have a little taste of what he gets all the time  ;)
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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #13 on: 10 July 2016, 01:12:39 pm »
I take my hat of to you all for having the physical energy and mental capacity to have or sustain a relationship whether its with an ex customer or civvie. I couldn't even think about it.

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #14 on: 10 July 2016, 02:41:03 pm »
Not against the idea and have had offers of relationships with clients though I'm already in one so turned them down anyway even if I would consider it. The only negative I'd think of is how genuine they are about a relationship when our only interactions are sex I think a lot of them just like the idea of having their own personal free prostitute and once they are bored of you they'll move on.