Planning To Go Civy?.

[Luciexx]

I have a relatively decent education/career track records that I am very grateful for.  I only came into this industry later in my life.   

If you are in your 20s/30s, doing this full-time for a number of years (e.g.6-12 years etc), my hat's off to you.  But, it's better to try other things if you are young enough.  I find that sex work can be a very consuming work and I wouldn't intend to do it full-time myself (I'm not fit enough, ageing etc!).   I think there are reasons why some people stayed in this industry for decades (and that's nobody's business as it must be very personal).  It's not for everybody.  I use this site as a place to lean on myself. I couldn't have avoided all sorts of problems in escorting if there were no saafe/helpful people on this site.  I have some civvies life left, which is important to stay sane.
Good luck to you, MD.

[mature helen]

I have a relatively decent education/career track records that I am very grateful for.  I only came into this industry later in my life.   

If you are in your 20s/30s, doing this full-time for a number of years (e.g.6-12 years etc), my hat's off to you.  But, it's better to try other things if you are young enough.  I find that sex work can be a very consuming work and I wouldn't intend to do it full-time myself (I'm not fit enough, ageing etc!).  I think there are reasons why some people stayed in this industry for decades (and that's nobody's business as it must be very personal).  It's not for everybody.  I use this site as a place to lean on myself. I couldn't have avoided all sorts of problems in escorting if there were no saafe/helpful people on this site.  I have some civvies life left, which is important to stay sane.
Good luck to you, MD.

Could it be because they are good at it? Or they enjoy the freedom of the lifestyle and the money? Could it be also they have had many other paths in life but they still love escorting and get up each morning excited at the prospect of what the day is going to bring? Could be they have cultivated such lovely regulars over the years they feel they would be missed if they retired. For me as a 'veteran' and so qualified to respond your comment Lucie escorting isn't a step down or something to be ashamed of, I wasn't forced to become an escort it was my choice and to bang my own drum something I seem to be quite good at. Yes I've done it for decades but there is nothing 'personal' about it its good business sense. Some escorts are not really escorts they are after a quick buck to get them out of a hole or they burn out after a few years so longevity isn't common in this business, Lucie I sometimes feel you have the knack of giving people a dig whether you know that or not is questionable.

[The_Lynx]

Could it be because they are good at it? Or they enjoy the freedom of the lifestyle and the money?

Ditto. The idea of being stuck in the normal work hour format makes me depressed just thinking about it. Augh.

[xSweetCheeksx]

I think everyone's different at the end of the day. I've done this now for about 3.5years and i start a "civvie" job in 3 weeks and i can honestly say i can't wait to be out of this industry. I've loved the freedom escorting has given me but my time is definitely up. I just don't enjoy any aspect of it anymore. I hate being touched and am always counting down the minutes in a booking and purely only thinking of the money.
I'm in my 20s and feel like i want the whole having kids and get married but whilst I've done this I've never allowed myself to date or see anyone because I wouldn't want the 2 at the same time. I know everyone's different in that respect but for me, i want to be sleeping with one man only when in a relationship.
But yeah, it's messed with my head a lot lately too doing this job so now is definitely the time for me to get out. I literally just don't enjoy it.

[mature helen]

Ditto. The idea of being stuck in the normal work hour format makes me depressed just thinking about it. Augh.

Me too Lynx THAT was most stressful time in my life.

[mature helen]

I think everyone's different at the end of the day. I've done this now for about 3.5years and i start a "civvie" job in 3 weeks and i can honestly say i can't wait to be out of this industry. I've loved the freedom escorting has given me but my time is definitely up. I just don't enjoy any aspect of it anymore. I hate being touched and am always counting down the minutes in a booking and purely only thinking of the money.
I'm in my 20s and feel like i want the whole having kids and get married but whilst I've done this I've never allowed myself to date or see anyone because I wouldn't want the 2 at the same time. I know everyone's different in that respect but for me, i want to be sleeping with one man only when in a relationship.
But yeah, it's messed with my head a lot lately too doing this job so now is definitely the time for me to get out. I literally just don't enjoy it.

When you don't enjoy it you're best off out of it.
Good luck in your civvie job and your new life SweetCheeksx

[Shewolf]

Sweet Cheeks...the key I guess is getting a job you really enjoy...or working towards that goal..one that pays well xx

[barbie88]

Good luck to you sweet cheeks babe . I took a two year break from escorting managed to get normal jobs I found the long working day hard to be fair and the people I worked with I didn't like . I know it sounds silly but getting used to silly things like you can't use your phone when you want or going on a break when you want it's hard to get used too . But I was making money and I felt safe and at least I knew how much I was going to be getting each  month . I have returned back to escorting part time and I also webcam . I'm going to get to do a course in a few months and hopefully get civy job again soon but one I will enjoy and hopefully I can retire for good . Before I had retired I kinda kept my self to my self but now days I go out a lot I have made loads of civy friends they don't know what I do and I do worry they will find out but I don't isolate my self and work all the time like I used too .

[xSweetCheeksx]

Aww thanks girls. I'm hoping it is a job i love because it's something I've wanted to do for years but never had the guts to do it but as i said, I've really not been enjoying escorting for a while now and thought that now's the time, i can't sit back and expect things to come to me or shrug it off and be like 'oh I'll pursue it next year'.
In my mind this is the dream job I've managed to bag so hoping it doesn't disappoint.

Barbie good luck with the course, i hope it all works out for you
Yeah i know what you mean with a monthly wage. I'm really looking forward to getting a set amount and knowing i have a guaranteed income.

[Kay]

Could it be because they are good at it? Or they enjoy the freedom of the lifestyle and the money? Could it be also they have had many other paths in life but they still love escorting and get up each morning excited at the prospect of what the day is going to bring? Could be they have cultivated such lovely regulars over the years they feel they would be missed if they retired. For me as a 'veteran' and so qualified to respond your comment Lucie escorting isn't a step down or something to be ashamed of, I wasn't forced to become an escort it was my choice and to bang my own drum something I seem to be quite good at. Yes I've done it for decades but there is nothing 'personal' about it its good business sense. Some escorts are not really escorts they are after a quick buck to get them out of a hole or they burn out after a few years so longevity isn't common in this business, Lucie I sometimes feel you have the knack of giving people a dig whether you know that or not is questionable.

+1

[Taylor]

Hi Ladies,

i have a full time job and escort in the evenings and weekends, i do miss touring though.. i used to do a different city every week, i felt like being in a rock band ha! im looking a going back into escorting full time but only for a few months.. i worked so hard in my normal job last year and had no holidays.. so this year i want to do my own thing again.. it is easy to fall back into civi jobs.. ive worked in retail for 12 years, also done office jobs.

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[meetingdiversity]

Hi Ladies,

i have a full time job and escort in the evenings and weekends, i do miss touring though.. i used to do a different city every week, i felt like being in a rock band ha! im looking a going back into escorting full time but only for a few months.. i worked so hard in my normal job last year and had no holidays.. so this year i want to do my own thing again.. it is easy to fall back into civi jobs.. ive worked in retail for 12 years, also done office jobs.

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Escorting can some times prove difficult to go to civy after doing a long time. Look at this thread how long it is takibg me to progress?.

[Hotblondie]

It`s not that hard if you really want it.
Apply online for all sorts of jobs, of course the ones you like.
Don`t give up, keep applying and  go to interviews, just tell them that you have been a self employed in the past xx years and everything will be fine.
It`s what I did and I didn`t get too many questions (I said I was a self employed cleaner in the past 7 years).
And I got the job I wanted but it took me 2 months and I`ve applied to at least 20 jobs in different fields.
Good luck

[Kiaralove]

Hey,

I just got a civy job working full time and I couldn't be happier
After having two failed attempts at going full-time this time it's good I think !
I've only been n escort for a year and it's still crossing my mind.
I've alwayssss hated escorting though and really only got into it to get myself out of homelessness.

[Shewolf]

I have used money from escorting to get myself another qualification in order to progress into a better work sector. I still escort a bit but...however hard I am working in my civvy life to get myself on track, it is better than 'the dread' I get before I see clients. It's got to the point where this feeling of dread colours my whole day beforehand no matter who the client is. After all, whoever they are, I am not choosing sex with any of them. I am always bullying myself into it. It's such a fucker in this society that being a single parent is so hard financially when food is shrinking by the day and prices increase constantly. It's a real shame that civvy work feels like being part of a system of slavery however far up the ladder you get and however rewarding it can be.