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xSweetCheeksx

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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #15 on: 18 January 2017, 11:35:12 pm »
Two clients I can think of right now have been great and reliable and then become pests and time waster.They start sending texts with hints of a booking to come but then don't follow it through. I have given them a couple of chances to do good but as soon as my radar picks up that they are messing with no intention of booking I just either do not answer any further calls or texts or say I am booked up.
Can not be bothered by men like that at all.
Same here. I had 2 clients who were really good, reliable clients then they turned into annoying pricks sending stupid messages, making out they're gunna book then not confirming anything. Then i get the annoying question 'what time's you got free?'. Why not just give me an effin time and I'll tell you if i'm free. Then asking for times that I'm not available (my start and finishing times are on my profile). Then the most annoying of all, asking if i have any bookings later? Then surprise surprise, no booking made. It's like they love/get a thrill out of wasting time with no intention to book but making it look like they are. Really gets on my nerves.
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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #16 on: 19 January 2017, 10:15:31 am »
It's like they love/get a thrill out of wasting time with no intention to book but making it look like they are. Really gets on my nerves.

There are loads of that amongst TWs.  It seems that they fail to see any harm whatsoever.  It's very useful to know that I wasn't the only one, who's messed around by someone (with some dramatic messages and lengthy texts), who had already seen me once.   It does seem that they get the thrill out of wasting time, as you smartly put it.   :)

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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #17 on: 19 January 2017, 10:32:03 am »
If someone starts messing me around I'll tell them that it's spoiling my enjoyment of seeing them, and that if it continues I won't be able to accept any more bookings.

They either change their tune, or move on.

Unfortunately I put up with a lot of this in my early years, and really started to clamp down recently - which also coincided with me chaning to outcall only. Both combined resulting in a really good clear out, and I've ended up with 99.9 percent of clients who are straightforward, no faffing, no hassle, really good working 'relationships'.

I wish I'd stood my ground far sooner, would have saved a lot of heartache and energy which could have been channeled (a) into my bookings and (b) remainder of my life.

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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #18 on: 19 January 2017, 06:12:13 pm »
I don't think it's the thrill of wasting our time...I think some of them like to think you are still there in the background willing to respond to them but can't actually afford to see us...so they dangle a carrot then craftily move it away. Or they are psychologically disturbed. Or both!


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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #19 on: 19 January 2017, 10:34:28 pm »
That's excellent, a Mirror.  Thank you for sharing.  :)

Shewolf. Lol money has a big factor, I often thought., too.  The client concerned has now rebooked, will see.  Some clients are so disorganised, one must add. Or a sign of early Alzheimer's ?  ;D


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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #20 on: 20 January 2017, 11:28:27 am »
Persistent texting started this morning.  I'm seriously thinking of ditching this client very soon.  :-\

Shewolf

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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #21 on: 21 January 2017, 05:57:26 pm »
That's excellent, a Mirror.  Thank you for sharing.  :)

Shewolf. Lol money has a big factor, I often thought., too.  The client concerned has now rebooked, will see.  Some clients are so disorganised, one must add. Or a sign of early Alzheimer's ?  ;D

Best to plant that little seed in their pee brain by asking if they have always been this disorganised or is it a  recent thing.

That will shut them up a while (they'll be too busy worrying).

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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #22 on: 21 January 2017, 07:06:12 pm »
Best to plant that little seed in their pee brain by asking if they have always been this disorganised or is it a  recent thing.

That will shut them up a while (they'll be too busy worrying).

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   ;D  That cracked me up, Shewolf.  I wondered he deliberately did it for his "punishment".  Fetish clients are so complicated!  (A new thread coming up on this, anyone?)

I couldn't take the first one, messing me around, suggesting me a booking and kept withdrawing, and again, suggest a booking and withdrawing over some time ... I decided to fire him after a while.  High maintenance, not worth it.    Their mental capacity does tend to compete with that of the garden squirrel over organising a booking.    ???

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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #23 on: 21 January 2017, 09:44:07 pm »
Yep. Like clockwork...the guy who has systematically booked then cancelled for months has done it again.

When I met him a few times, I knew deep down there was something unhinged about him. But, alas, I needed the money. I think I haven't blocked him as I find his behaviour weirdly fascinating.

But I won't reply to the bum wipe ever again.

Luciexx

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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #24 on: 21 January 2017, 10:29:10 pm »
 ;D  I will eventually get there. Thank you for great empathy.  :-*

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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #25 on: 25 January 2017, 03:14:42 pm »
Like most girls if a reg starts to mess me around they get blocked.  Just like the one who had a booking 15 mins ago (he confirmed this morning) and hasn't even bothered to show up.   >:(
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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #26 on: 25 January 2017, 03:41:44 pm »
Like most girls if a reg starts to mess me around they get blocked.  Just like the one who had a booking 15 mins ago (he confirmed this morning) and hasn't even bothered to show up.   >:(

Just be aware, and I know that not every person dies, that I did once have a regular suddenly die. We didn't have a confirmation routine, because he always showed, then one day he didn't. I was fuming, and wondering. A week or so later his story was in the local paper.

Felt terrible.

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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #27 on: 25 January 2017, 04:53:05 pm »
Like most girls if a reg starts to mess me around they get blocked.  Just like the one who had a booking 15 mins ago (he confirmed this morning) and hasn't even bothered to show up.   >:(

Awww, that's horrible, Dexi.

Some men do seem to "premeditate" his action based on his usual modus operandi without us, escorts, initially, totally unaware.   They know they are prone to play head games, to keep themselves amused.

I have to say, though, whilst there are some very decent customers, who DO exist (perhaps, "some" well mannered married guys/"some" decent mature gents), there are other types of men, who seem to think we ought to be giving it away for free after 2-3 times that they paid, and "the rest should be free".   They seem to start playing head games, suggests bookings and not following through etc.  I wondered if these are sometimes, men, who are perpetually unattached / "bored" (reasons tend to be found in their own behaviour) and rejected by decent civvie women, who would refuse to put up with their games, lies, dishonesty in her civvie life.   Civvie women can easily tell men, who just want to get laid without any long-term commitments or men who would habitually behind their back and get caught e.g. no concept of monogamy whilst men would promise "the future together" to get sex.   These lies would continue even when they are dealing with WGs, which is pretty crazy.   

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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #28 on: 25 January 2017, 04:56:33 pm »
Just be aware, and I know that not every person dies, that I did once have a regular suddenly dies.
Felt terrible.
Sadly, we all die eventually.  We don't know when.  Best to look after yourself.  :) But, I appreciated how traumatic it could be when it happens.  Whenever I see someone very old, I think about this.  He probably had a good enough life to see escorts when needed/wanted.  Not a bad life.   

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Re: How to handle a punter/client turning into TW
« Reply #29 on: 25 January 2017, 05:47:10 pm »
Sadly, we all die eventually.  We don't know when.  Best to look after yourself.  :) But, I appreciated how traumatic it could be when it happens.  Whenever I see someone very old, I think about this.  He probably had a good enough life to see escorts when needed/wanted.  Not a bad life.

He wasn't old, he wasn't unhealthy. A complete surprise.