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Kiaralove

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Question about genital herpes.
« on: 18 January 2017, 10:51:06 am »
 :FF I have symptoms of genital herpes.
I think one of my clients gave it to me last week. It's really scary and painful. I'm also scared it could be something else. I need to go get checked and see if it's for sure just herpes, but I'm pretty sure it is. Like how could I even get it ?!!!
I have blisters on my crotch and on my lips. And it looks so friggin UGLY AND GROSS and I just felt like shit yesterday


I've been an escort for 1 1/2 years and it finally happened to me.
I really hope dating won't be hard after this. :(

I know there was another girl named parisiangirl on here (I completely went through threads I've searched for a few days). And she got the same thing I did
It's truly sad. Dating will be much harder.

Im new to this site but I've lurked while sitting in my old incall back in the day
Would love some advice on how to deal with this as I'm not sure working will be the same.

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Re: Question about genital herpes.
« Reply #1 on: 18 January 2017, 01:13:42 pm »
Well the first thing to do is go to the clinic and find out exactly what it is and how to treat it.They will be able to help you far better than any of us as you don't even know for sure what it is yet.Condoms don't protect you completely from getting herpes as it can be passed on through skin to skin contact and condoms don't always cover completely the base of the penis etc.
No point in panicking at this stage best to go straight to get a diagnosis and any treatment asap before wondering about dating/working etc..cross that bridge when you come to it!
Don't sit there any longer in pain go get it looked at!
« Last Edit: 18 January 2017, 01:17:49 pm by BibiofLeeds »

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Re: Question about genital herpes.
« Reply #2 on: 18 January 2017, 02:03:24 pm »
Firstly you must be worried sick , so take Bibis advice , most clinics will see you the same day ( well that's in my area if you say your a S/W and are worried have symptoms.

A guy told me a long time ago ( not a client an attacker said he'd got it and HIV but I've  never seen it ) that he had it and he told me to scare me.

The Police and clinic told me
The  that it's only contagious while its flared up then it goes away.

But it does come back and that's when your contagious ...tbc client here don't worry xxx

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Re: Question about genital herpes.
« Reply #3 on: 18 January 2017, 03:38:43 pm »
Firstly you must be worried sick , so take Bibis advice , most clinics will see you the same day ( well that's in my area if you say your a S/W and are worried have symptoms.

A guy told me a long time ago ( not a client an attacker said he'd got it and HIV but I've  never seen it ) that he had it and he told me to scare me.

The Police and clinic told me
The  that it's only contagious while its flared up then it goes away.

But it does come back and that's when your contagious ...tbc client here don't worry xxx
Back again , it's only contagious when the sores are visable and cold symptoms like the flu .

But on a lighter note and at my peril , I've been to the clinic loads of times when I've had an itch or anything suspect .

 I'm paranoid about passing anything to anyone and/ or catching anything and it's always been a false alarm .

I really do hope your ok , best wishes x

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Re: Question about genital herpes.
« Reply #4 on: 18 January 2017, 09:05:54 pm »
I am a ex nurse and i thought i had genital herpes but what i thought were blisters were the result from when i caught myself shaving! So do not panic and get checked

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« Reply #5 on: 18 January 2017, 09:10:42 pm »
This is one of the reasons i no longer escort on my last tour to Brum last year a client went down on me and a week later I had genital herpes.  Touch wood it has not returned but I no longer work either, but I do now get oral herpes due to this, it got treated with aciclovar for your genitals you can also use coldsore cream on the blisters.

Sorry about this sweety I know how sore it is and how panicky it makes you but it can happen in this industry and out of this industry unfortunately, all it takes is for a client to have a cold sore on his lip or tongue and you are buggered.

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Re: Question about genital herpes.
« Reply #6 on: 18 January 2017, 09:45:50 pm »
I will put this into perspective for you to stop you worrying....

I have had genital herpes for a few years now, probably 7 years...I have only had one bad outbreak and maybe two minor ones. The key thing is to manage it. What I mean is, that make sure you use lubricant and don't have very vigorous sex with clients without it because the rubbing can start it off. You will get to know the signs if it is starting off. It's sort of painful (not very nice) but, if you have a supply of tablets in (Aciclovir-you can even buy them off the net), just start taking them straight away and it clears up almost straightaway.

There is absolutely no way this condition will affect your dating or your life. The only thing I would do is avoid sex if you get an outbreak as any ulcer (s) may infect the other person. But, as I said, if you keep a stock of those tablets, this break from sex will be very minimal. I personally wouldn't tell any man. Just manage the condition. It hardly ever rears it's head anyway.

My experience xx

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Re: Question about genital herpes.
« Reply #7 on: 18 January 2017, 11:23:54 pm »
I will put this into perspective for you to stop you worrying....

I have had genital herpes for a few years now, probably 7 years...I have only had one bad outbreak and maybe two minor ones. The key thing is to manage it. What I mean is, that make sure you use lubricant and don't have very vigorous sex with clients without it because the rubbing can start it off. You will get to know the signs if it is starting off. It's sort of painful (not very nice) but, if you have a supply of tablets in (Aciclovir-you can even buy them off the net), just start taking them straight away and it clears up almost straightaway.

There is absolutely no way this condition will affect your dating or your life. The only thing I would do is avoid sex if you get an outbreak as any ulcer (s) may infect the other person. But, as I said, if you keep a stock of those tablets, this break from sex will be very minimal. I personally wouldn't tell any man. Just manage the condition. It hardly ever rears it's head anyway.

My experience xx

Thanks I'll definitely look into getting that medication. Need to get working again because I'm 22 and gonna be going to college in a few days here.

Now I wonder; if HIV was transmitted as well as the genital herpes? Note: we didn't have unprotected sex

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Re: Question about genital herpes.
« Reply #8 on: 18 January 2017, 11:40:06 pm »
Kiara, what makes you think that you could have contracted HIV if you didn't have unprotected sex? There are other ways to catch it, but not many and the risk is very low - if it was mainly skin to skin contact I'd be more concerned about genital warts. At least when you've had a check up you'll know.

Don't forget that herpes is very, very contagious (and not just during an attack as the virus can be shed without one) but not many other things are and if you didn't have unprotected penetration or any sort of condom failure it's very unlikely you have anything else :).

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Re: Question about genital herpes.
« Reply #9 on: 19 January 2017, 12:12:15 am »
Well the first thing to do is go to the clinic and find out exactly what it is and how to treat it.They will be able to help you far better than any of us as you don't even know for sure what it is yet.Condoms don't protect you completely from getting herpes as it can be passed on through skin to skin contact and condoms don't always cover completely the base of the penis etc.
No point in panicking at this stage best to go straight to get a diagnosis and any treatment asap before wondering about dating/working etc..cross that bridge when you come to it!
Don't sit there any longer in pain go get it looked at!

The doctor did say it was herpes
He perspribed me something for it
I wonder if it could be something other than herpes? He didn't mention what kind of herpes it is

It could possible be herpes caused by, say... chlamydia or syphilis?

I also had BV and was having sex with bv.  :'(

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Re: Question about genital herpes.
« Reply #10 on: 19 January 2017, 12:29:42 am »
Firstly you must be worried sick , so take Bibis advice , most clinics will see you the same day ( well that's in my area if you say your a S/W and are worried have symptoms.

A guy told me a long time ago ( not a client an attacker said he'd got it and HIV but I've  never seen it ) that he had it and he told me to scare me.

The Police and clinic told me
The  that it's only contagious while its flared up then it goes away.

But it does come back and that's when your contagious ...tbc client here don't worry xxx

Thank you

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Re: Question about genital herpes.
« Reply #11 on: 19 January 2017, 01:13:23 am »
It could possible be herpes caused by, say... chlamydia or syphilis?

No it couldn't, because herpes is caused by the herpes simplex virus (HSV). Chlamydia and syphilis are caused by chlamydia and syphilis bacterial infections and are neither viral nor related to herpes in any way. It's no more possible than developing thrush because you have a cold :).

Kiara, I know you said you've been working for a year and a half - hasn't anybody at your GUM explained any of this to you? Your sexual health is your livelihood and if there are things you're unclear about then they really ought to have gone over things like this - worrying yourself sick is just needless and won't help you feel better.
« Last Edit: 19 January 2017, 01:18:39 am by amy »

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Re: Question about genital herpes.
« Reply #12 on: 19 January 2017, 01:46:56 am »
I will put this into perspective for you to stop you worrying....

I have had genital herpes for a few years now, probably 7 years...I have only had one bad outbreak and maybe two minor ones. The key thing is to manage it. What I mean is, that make sure you use lubricant and don't have very vigorous sex with clients without it because the rubbing can start it off. You will get to know the signs if it is starting off. It's sort of painful (not very nice) but, if you have a supply of tablets in (Aciclovir-you can even buy them off the net), just start taking them straight away and it clears up almost straightaway.

There is absolutely no way this condition will affect your dating or your life. The only thing I would do is avoid sex if you get an outbreak as any ulcer (s) may infect the other person. But, as I said, if you keep a stock of those tablets, this break from sex will be very minimal. I personally wouldn't tell any man. Just manage the condition. It hardly ever rears it's head anyway.

My experience xx

I appreciate this is your personal experience, however, there is something called viral shedding which means you can pass it on with no visible signs or symptoms of a herpes outbreak;

What is Viral Shedding?

When the herpes virus is not active on the surface of the skin it resides in a sleeping state inside the nerve cells and other tissues. At times (which cannot always be predicted), the virus will become active and travel the nerve pathways up to the surface of the skin.
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Taken from https://www.herpes-coldsores.com/viral_shedding.htm (on 19.01.17)

...hence, the above forms part of my own personal reasons for not doing OWO or kissing when working because even if there are no active signs of an infection, I am still at risk of infection and obviously if I pick up something then passing it on.
« Last Edit: 19 January 2017, 09:55:17 am by amy »

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Re: Question about genital herpes.
« Reply #13 on: 19 January 2017, 02:15:22 am »
There is absolutely no way this condition will affect your dating or your life. The only thing I would do is avoid sex if you get an outbreak as any ulcer (s) may infect the other person. But, as I said, if you keep a stock of those tablets, this break from sex will be very minimal. I personally wouldn't tell any man. Just manage the condition. It hardly ever rears it's head anyway.

Have to say I do respectfully disagree with this, Shewolf. It's an incurable, life-long condition, so if you enter an LTR it's only fair to warn your partner that you have it. And as Mariah says, you don't need to be in an active outbreak for it to be transmissible.

It's perhaps easier for me to say than others because I have another job to fall back on, but if I ever contracted herpes (i.e. had the initial outbreak) I wouldn't escort any more.
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Re: Question about genital herpes.
« Reply #14 on: 19 January 2017, 05:03:23 am »
I will put this into perspective for you to stop you worrying....

I have had genital herpes for a few years now, probably 7 years...I have only had one bad outbreak and maybe two minor ones. The key thing is to manage it. What I mean is, that make sure you use lubricant and don't have very vigorous sex with clients without it because the rubbing can start it off. You will get to know the signs if it is starting off. It's sort of painful (not very nice) but, if you have a supply of tablets in (Aciclovir-you can even buy them off the net), just start taking them straight away and it clears up almost straightaway.

There is absolutely no way this condition will affect your dating or your life. The only thing I would do is avoid sex if you get an outbreak as any ulcer (s) may infect the other person. But, as I said, if you keep a stock of those tablets, this break from sex will be very minimal. I personally wouldn't tell any man. Just manage the condition. It hardly ever rears it's head anyway.

My experience xx

I bought some

Do you take them everyday ?