Burn out?

[Curvesandlipstick]

Hi guys I'm just feeling so run down :-(

Am I burnt out? What exactly is burn out?

I don't really know where to start but I'm just feeling so sick of my job, I don't offer a full service at all but this past week and a half I have just been feeling so....I don't even know what I have been feeling. Sick I guess the only way I can describe it. Whenever I get to the penis my whole body just recoils and I feel sick. I don't do oral and kissing but the other stuff I can do ie- massage, but when I get down to the linghqm I just hate it. I don't really know what to do anymore. I have worked I'm the industry for over ten years now and I'm only 28 and I just don't know where to do go from here. I offer webcam too but agein I'm just physically tired that all I feel I am good for is making cocks hard.

I Tried explaining to a male friend the other day how so feel and he basically just said that I should pull myself together. Does anybody else feel like this? I feel like I should be feeling so lucky, I have a mortgage and a car and a good life and I know a lot of people struggle to get this style of security but I just feel numb.

I have only worked twice this week one massage one on cam but today I was supposed to work a full day and I just slept all day, I'm sabotaging my business. I know you will say I am burnt out but I have only done the minimum since Christmas and had 3 weeks  off over Christmas ( the longest time I ever had off at Christmas) I don't know what to do or even if this feeling is normal.

[Lushblossom]

Do you regularly pay for an all over body massage as this is a great way to unwind.  I have one every month without fail.  It is really good for relaxation and me time.  Also do you do any sport or exercise?  I am planning to start zumba classes by spring one evening a week.  Something energising and fun to do.

In addition I have an exercise bike indoors that helps with stress/tiredness in that it is energising.

Also do you have any nice hobbies that bring out deep relaxation for you?  I play piano and watch films and read good novels when I can.  You can't beat a couple of days off indulging in these pastimes you really can't!

I hope you feel better soon.  Perhaps you just need to introduce regular strategies into your weekly routine to stop burnout/demotivation.

I also plan to take a week off every two months for pure relaxation and not answer emails/texts at all.  Then it is easier to come back refreshed.

[nemature]

I think the time of year plays a part, post Christmas and the dark nights all go together to make you demotivated. I always have issues motivating myself in January (whether i am working in the sex industry or in civvie life) but i find if i book a week away for the end of February so i have something to aim for and i ease my way back into work after Christmas i manage to earn what i need and then can build up (after the weather and the amount of daylight improves) to a decent income 

[VoluptuousCurves]

I Tried explaining to a male friend the other day how so feel and he basically just said that I should pull myself together.

unless he's a male escort, his opinion is worth fuck all!

As PPs said, the dark mornings and days do contribute to feeling shit.

When you think about doing other things in your life (going to see a film, going out with friends, shopping) do you feel equally uninterested, or is it just work that leaves you feeling so flat?

[Kay]

I'd say if you've been involved in sex work since you were 18, it's not surprising you feel burned out, especially if things like relationships and family/social life have suffered because of it. Have you done other work in parallel? Could you retrain or look for another job? Perhaps only do SW 2-3 days a week and something else the rest of the time if it's not feasible to give it up completely?

[Mirror]

I have has phases of resentment, and dislike. What I did was take a good look at what I get from sex work, then looked at the other jobs I could do which includes to professions I'm fully qualified registered and insurance to carry out, and also got myself into a better routine. The other jobs which can (very much like sw), be perceived at lucrative just won't bring riches, and to achieve anywhere near the same financially I'd have to over work, back to back which isn't my style. These days I'm up, showered, body shaved, light make-up on, breakfasted, AW updated and ready to do something in any part of my life by 9am.

For me it was about giving myself a good slap.

This isn't to say this is the path for you, what I'm trying to say is it's worth making an honest appraisal to find out where your heart lies.

[Curvesandlipstick]

Hi ladies thanks for the encouragement,

I think I'm feeling maybe abit flat in general aswell as bit to do with work too, I have a big financial project on currently at home which I know dosent helo with the stress. I do try to get out more, but that's mainly when my husband is home from work and it's getting dark, the resentment is really hard because there are millions of ppl who are in the same position as me, almost 30, in a job they don't love but can't just leave as I have a mortgage and responsibilities. I do do a collage corse but it finishes soon but it was more of a hobby corse, I guess I feel a little directionless x

[Mirror]

Hi ladies thanks for the encouragement,

I think I'm feeling maybe abit flat in general aswell as bit to do with work too, I have a big financial project on currently at home which I know dosent helo with the stress. I do try to get out more, but that's mainly when my husband is home from work and it's getting dark, the resentment is really hard because there are millions of ppl who are in the same position as me, almost 30, in a job they don't love but can't just leave as I have a mortgage and responsibilities. I do do a collage corse but it finishes soon but it was more of a hobby corse, I guess I feel a little directionless x

Financial stuff gets me going!

[Luciexx]

10 years in this industry?  AND you have got a Husband?  Cut yourself some slack..

I could never have a man to deal with at home after dealing with males. No offence. I have nothing against men.  But I do need some space, too.   I'm only a human after all.   

[kitty_69]

Hi ladies thanks for the encouragement,

I think I'm feeling maybe abit flat in general aswell as bit to do with work too, I have a big financial project on currently at home which I know dosent helo with the stress. I do try to get out more, but that's mainly when my husband is home from work and it's getting dark, the resentment is really hard because there are millions of ppl who are in the same position as me, almost 30, in a job they don't love but can't just leave as I have a mortgage and responsibilities. I do do a collage corse but it finishes soon but it was more of a hobby corse, I guess I feel a little directionless x

do your hubby know what you do ?
or is this adding to the stress ?

[cherryfcuk]

Curves - This Job can be tricky some times mentally, like the other ladies have mentioned we can all be our own worse critic -  we should do this that and the other etc etc. But really we need to take time to treat ourselves a little better as we are very giving to others.
I can really empathy because i'm gone through torture and tears with wanting to find a new path away from SW but it's not easy, i've felt like I was lost too. Trying to turn something you love and carve a new path in life that really gives you joy, but I believe you have it in you.

Just take it day by day, remember what things you used to love doing, maybe you're creative, love music, reading, cleaning? Distraction can help clear feelings.

Don't let a mans opinion cloud your mind he hasn't had experience in this profession.

[VoluptuousCurves]

Is there some thing you could start doing, after your course finishes, which you feel more enthusiastic about?

At the end of the day, sex work is a job. We work to live, we don't live to work. (Well, that's how it should be, anyway.)

Honestly I do think everyone feels pretty shit in January and February. Dark mornings, dark evenings, cold, wet, ugh! If you can do something just once a week which makes you feel better, it's got to be good.

[katrina]

Is there some thing you could start doing, after your course finishes, which you feel more enthusiastic about?

At the end of the day, sex work is a job. We work to live, we don't live to work. (Well, that's how it should be, anyway.)

Honestly I do think everyone feels pretty shit in January and February. Dark mornings, dark evenings, cold, wet, ugh! If you can do something just once a week which makes you feel better, it's got to be good.

100% agree with all of this. Its good to find something enjoyable (and healthy) to commit to, start with once a week and build up to more,  maybe swimming, a fitness or dance class or something that will boost your energy and mood levels so that you can then think more clearly about what to do and where to go next.

[meetingdiversity]

Hi guys I'm just feeling so run down :-(

Am I burnt out? What exactly is burn out?

I don't really know where to start but I'm just feeling so sick of my job, I don't offer a full service at all but this past week and a half I have just been feeling so....I don't even know what I have been feeling. Sick I guess the only way I can describe it. Whenever I get to the penis my whole body just recoils and I feel sick. I don't do oral and kissing but the other stuff I can do ie- massage, but when I get down to the linghqm I just hate it. I don't really know what to do anymore. I have worked I'm the industry for over ten years now and I'm only 28 and I just don't know where to do go from here. I offer webcam too but agein I'm just physically tired that all I feel I am good for is making cocks hard.

I Tried explaining to a male friend the other day how so feel and he basically just said that I should pull myself together. Does anybody else feel like this? I feel like I should be feeling so lucky, I have a mortgage and a car and a good life and I know a lot of people struggle to get this style of security but I just feel numb.

I have only worked twice this week one massage one on cam but today I was supposed to work a full day and I just slept all day, I'm sabotaging my business. I know you will say I am burnt out but I have only done the minimum since Christmas and had 3 weeks  off over Christmas ( the longest time I ever had off at Christmas) I don't know what to do or even if this feeling is normal.

Men don't understand escorts properly especially who don't escort themselves.It us very similar to how I felt even when I wasn't that busy.

Yes I resented them even more flopping their manhood around and even wanting disgusting me. On top of that putting a happy face on but by that point I lost the joy of escorting.

I had nothing left for escorting, when the resent goes on over along period like months that is the time to pull the plug. Or it will do more harm than good to ourselves hurting inside.

Sometimes when escorting is damaging, it is difficult to see light. It also crossed my mind about that I should be grateful as can do anything and have a nice apartment in a nice location. To be honest no luxuries matter while feeling upset.

I went through along period of sleeping a lot yeah was so fed up and trapped with no way out thought sod it. Even though I was earning less and missed a lot of bookings. When this effects on a deeper level save yourself because escorting will keep eating away until you are hanging on by the thread.

This took me along time to get mentally where I am now, feel free to message if you like.I am happy to help.

[annabellexoxo]

Hi guys I'm just feeling so run down :-(

Am I burnt out? What exactly is burn out?

I don't really know where to start but I'm just feeling so sick of my job, I don't offer a full service at all but this past week and a half I have just been feeling so....I don't even know what I have been feeling. Sick I guess the only way I can describe it. Whenever I get to the penis my whole body just recoils and I feel sick. I don't do oral and kissing but the other stuff I can do ie- massage, but when I get down to the linghqm I just hate it. I don't really know what to do anymore. I have worked I'm the industry for over ten years now and I'm only 28 and I just don't know where to do go from here. I offer webcam too but agein I'm just physically tired that all I feel I am good for is making cocks hard.

I Tried explaining to a male friend the other day how so feel and he basically just said that I should pull myself together. Does anybody else feel like this? I feel like I should be feeling so lucky, I have a mortgage and a car and a good life and I know a lot of people struggle to get this style of security but I just feel numb.

I have only worked twice this week one massage one on cam but today I was supposed to work a full day and I just slept all day, I'm sabotaging my business. I know you will say I am burnt out but I have only done the minimum since Christmas and had 3 weeks  off over Christmas ( the longest time I ever had off at Christmas) I don't know what to do or even if this feeling is normal.

'Seven year itch'? 

Take a break or look into other 'opportunities' you could do in parallel.  Lots of girls do other things/businesses to keep themselves stimulated.