Want to start working but feeling anxious

[Escortx]

I have my own place and can do in calls and have researched escorting. I need the money as I was doing care work but the pay is so low and you have to do so much for it I don't really want to get back in to it.
I'm just quite a shy and nervous person and I'm worried it will affect my working. I'm not very out going and don't really socialise much. I just wanted to know does it get easier with practice? When the man knocks at my door would I say hi how are you? Could you give me the payment now. Offer him a drink or say would you like to go to my bedroom?

[VoluptuousCurves]

I am also not very sociable or outgoing but it hasn't stopped me enjoying the job and getting good feedback.

Have you had a good read through the info on the main site about getting started?

In terms of getting the guys in, I open the door and usher them into the hallway, then I'll say "it was an hour you wanted, right? That's 120 then" and take the cash and count it right away. Then I'll say "Let's go through to the bedroom" or if I'm working a hotel I'll just say "Well, where would you like to start?" Get up close to Them, start kissing or running your hands over their chest. Then just let nature take its course

[Hadley]

Hi Ambera, as VC says do have a read through the main site if you haven't already!

It does get easier with practice and it's natural to feel nervous the first time (and for a long time afterwards- I still get nervous after many years). But you do develop confidence and get into a routine after you've done it a few times. It does get easier as you get used to it.

When someone knocks at the door I look through the spy hole (if there is one) to make sure he is on his own and as far as possible looks nice and normal. I open the door fully dressed (in sexy gear but no nudity) with a big smile. Welcome him in, say hello, offer a drink, take his coat (all within the first 2 mins or so). If he doesn't automatically offer the money, ask "do you have something for me?" or "Would you mind if we got the business side out of the way?" within 5 mins max of him coming through the door. Always, always count the money.

After that I just put a hand on their leg or start snogging them and it tends to go from there!

Good luck

H x

[Hadley]

Ps if you have done care work that may well stand you in good stead - you are obviously a kind and  compassionate person, and able to make people feel cared for. Plus you will be familiar with the human body in all it's beautiful, not so beautiful, wobbly and wrinkly forms  so I'm sure you'll do fine! x

[Kay]

Ambera, I'm worried that going into sex work is going to make you stressed and anxious, especially if you don't enjoy the sex much. Have you thought about doing something like stripping or camming instead?

You don't need to be a particularly sociable person to be an escort, but it does make things easier if the normal social niceties and chit-chat come fairly easily to you.

I don't think you'll know for sure until you start actually seeing clients, but I'm a bit concerned that if you come over as nervous/uncertain you could be taken advantage of by some less desirable clients who will push boundaries.

Just please be careful, whatever you decide.

[wishlist]

Ambera, I'm worried that going into sex work is going to make you stressed and anxious, especially if you don't enjoy the sex much. Have you thought about doing something like stripping or camming instead?

You don't need to be a particularly sociable person to be an escort, but it does make things easier if the normal social niceties and chit-chat come fairly easily to you.

I don't think you'll know for sure until you start actually seeing clients, but I'm a bit concerned that if you come over as nervous/uncertain you could be taken advantage of by some less desirable clients who will push boundaries.

Just please be careful, whatever you decide.

This!!! I dont think anyone can be a weak person if escorting

[Fliss]

Being nervous doesn't mean you are weak! I would echo VCs post as I am naturally shy and reserved.  Yet I managed to find an extra dimension I can call on during bookings.

I would also echo others that say to think deeply before taking the plunge. Read the main site www.saaafe.info and use the search tool to look for other issues you may have concerns about.

Good luck to the OP.

[wishlist]

Being nervous doesn't mean you are weak! I would echo VCs post as I am naturally shy and reserved.  Yet I managed to find an extra dimension I can call on during bookings.

I would also echo others that say to think deeply before taking the plunge. Read the main site www.saaafe.info and use the search tool to look for other issues you may have concerns about.

Good luck to the OP.

Where did I say the op was a weak person?  I agreed  with the previous poster and added my own thing on which is I dont think a weak person can be an escort, please point me in the direction where I said, a person who has anxiety is a weak person?   

[meetingdiversity]

This!!! I dont think anyone can be a weak person if escorting

You're right it takes alot of strength to escort with having to tolerate them.

[Fliss]

Where did I say the op was a weak person?  I agreed  with the previous poster and added my own thing on which is I dont think a weak person can be an escort, please point me in the direction where I said, a person who has anxiety is a weak person? 

I was just concerned that was how it would come over to the OP? Which after all is the primary concern.  Since newbies may be very vulnerable in all aspects.

It just came over that way to me is all and two posts in a row like that I didn't want the OP to feel she couldn't continue voicing her concerns, is all. Otherwise I give up, already.

[wishlist]

I was just concerned that was how it would come over to the OP? Which after all is the primary concern.  Since newbies may be very vulnerable in all aspects.

It just came over that way to me is all and two posts in a row like that I didn't want the OP to feel she couldn't continue voicing her concerns, is all.

No you stated id said something i didnt, but have a good night 

[meetingdiversity]

I have my own place and can do in calls and have researched escorting. I need the money as I'm on benefits and skint so need to stop my claim. I was doing care work but the pay is so low and you have to do so much for it I don't really want to get back in to it.
I'm just quite a shy and nervous person and I'm worried it will affect my working. I'm not very out going and don't really socialise much. I just wanted to know does it get easier with practice? When the man knocks at my door would I say hi how are you? Could you give me the payment now. Offer him a drink or say would you like to go to my bedroom?
I'm a lesbian too and haven't experience with men since I dated them ten years ago but for have most experience with women.

If you don't fancy men it might be a bit more difficult  compared to some one straight. Do you find men attractive?. Some can escort and some find it rough so don't. It can get easier as time passes it did for me able to see as many. I just got tired of having sex all the time. Some are great fun to be with others not so.

There is alot of advice on here about getting started also.

Good luck and make sure you make the right decision for you no one other can make.  Xx.

[Fliss]

No you stated id said something i didnt, but have a good night 

Just to clarify  this is exactly what you said:

This!!! I dont think anyone can be a weak person if escorting

Anyway I'm out I'm not into bickering, merely trying to help the OP.

[wishlist]

Where did I say the op was a weak person?  I agreed  with the previous poster and added my own thing on which is I dont think a weak person can be an escort, please point me in the direction where I said, a person who has anxiety is a weak person? 

as above fliss 

[meetingdiversity]

Just to clarify  this is exactly what you said:

This!!! I dont think anyone can be a weak person if escorting

Anyway I'm out I'm not into bickering, merely trying to help the OP.

Sorry to butt in but the don't think clarifies, now if it was I do think which has got a different meaning. Some thing you are saying that was done. I read it like wishlist doesn't think.  Does not think so doesn't.  I am sure the op does not think like you fliss.