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Fliss

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Re: Want to start working but feeling anxious
« Reply #15 on: 21 January 2017, 07:10:42 pm »
I'm not sure what this is about Wishlist and MD but feels personal when I've done absolutely nothing except try and help the OP, I give up I really do.

I'm not new to this been doing this 7 years and I'm sure the Op will appreciate ALL help offered.

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Re: Want to start working but feeling anxious
« Reply #16 on: 21 January 2017, 07:16:18 pm »
don't think sexuality has anything to with it a body is a body just go for it what have you got to loose  :)

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Re: Want to start working but feeling anxious
« Reply #17 on: 21 January 2017, 07:18:11 pm »
I'm not sure what this is about Wishlist and MD but feels personal when I've done absolutely nothing except try and help the OP, I give up I really do.

I'm not new to this been doing this 7 years and I'm sure the Op will appreciate ALL help offered.

Accusing wishlist of saying something she didn't say it is in black and white. So I tried to help out by breaking it down. I am not on your case Fliss just trying to help you see Wishlists point.     

I am grown up now being constructive in a polite manner is well. I tried...... Okay I won't carry on with this.

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Re: Want to start working but feeling anxious
« Reply #18 on: 21 January 2017, 07:21:49 pm »
don't think sexuality has anything to with it a body is a body just go for it what have you got to loose  :)

Some lesbians don't go near men even for pay was where I was coming from. A bit like some men can't go gay for pay.

If they do it might be traumatising. If they can then all is good. :)

Fliss

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Re: Want to start working but feeling anxious
« Reply #19 on: 21 January 2017, 07:23:33 pm »
Accusing wishlist of saying something she didn't say it is in black and white. So I tried to help out by breaking it down. I am not on your case Fliss just trying to help you see Wishlists point.     

I am grown up now being constructive in a polite manner is well. I tried...... Okay I won't carry on with this.

MD you did nothing but cause trouble. I quoted exacty what Wishlist said. I tried to help the OP.  You on the other hand have not.

I'm off the forum.

meetingdiversity

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Re: Want to start working but feeling anxious
« Reply #20 on: 21 January 2017, 07:30:16 pm »
MD you did nothing but cause trouble. I quoted exacty what Wishlist said. I tried to help the OP.  You on the other hand have not.

I'm off the forum.


Okay if you can't see it in black and white like some others can. It is an open forum, i was being helpful it was my intent.

Let me say it again don't think and do think has ywo different meanings. But sure if you can't see that is why Wishlist said after what you wrote. I never caused trouble it was already between you two. Shoot the one down who tries to help you see what she meant.

I'm going to go back to organising smiling feeling light. :)

meetingdiversity

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Re: Want to start working but feeling anxious
« Reply #21 on: 21 January 2017, 07:33:48 pm »
MD you did nothing but cause trouble. I quoted exacty what Wishlist said. I tried to help the OP.  You on the other hand have not.

I'm off the forum.

If you don't fancy men it might be a bit more difficult  compared to some one straight. Do you find men attractive?. Some can escort and some find it rough so don't. It can get easier as time passes it did for me able to see as many. I just got tired of having sex all the time. Some are great fun to be with others not so.

There is alot of advice on here about getting started also.

Good luck and make sure you make the right decision for you no one other can make.  Xx.

Of course fliss I did not try to help the OP it looks like you are very stressed right now to have missed my contribution  :)

barbie88

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Re: Want to start working but feeling anxious
« Reply #22 on: 21 January 2017, 09:20:23 pm »
Hey babe

I was nervous when I first started all those years ago this was before I had discovered Saafe I had no one to ask about escorting I had danced and met a few girls who had escorted but they weren't very helpful the first agency I worked for I remember running off from my first client I was so nervous ha . He opened the hotel room door and I legged it out the hotel lol didn't Even say hello . Then I worked for another agency and I was very nervous didn't know what the hell I was doing I just went with the flow . I used to get very nervous my first few months of working then it went and years later my nervousness is back . It's ok to be nervous Hun . I really wouldn't advise drinking before a booking when my friend started she got so nervous she drank a whole bottle of wine before first client and passed out on him luckily he was a nice guy he just left and called the agency .

I usually open the door in a nice sexy dress and say hello give them a kiss and say hunni can I just take the money I'll go make my self look sexy and just take off my dress and walk out in my undies it really depends as some guys have the money in there hand ready to go. I used to offer guys a drink and take the money after a little chat but with so many mick takers now days get the money ASAP babe and put it away safe . Most of the time there be more nervous than you . I never told guys when I was new I was new but it's up you I would say you haven't Been doing it long .

And the 3 busiest working girls I had ever met were all lesbians the customers would all be shocked if they knew . Only offer what services you feel comfortable offering and don't let them take the mick try and relax also . When I worked for agencies the receptionists would always make sure if the girl was new they would be really really busy and try make it so that regulars saw some once you get the taste of the money your more likely going to try it again . My first year escorting was the best if I knew it would get crap now would of saved more lol .

Good luck

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Re: Want to start working but feeling anxious
« Reply #23 on: 21 January 2017, 09:41:29 pm »
Just to echo what Barbie said, don't tell clients you're new. If they say "I haven't seen you advertise before" just say you've only recently moved to the area, or that you've only recently become independent. There are some dickheads out there who deliberately target new escorts and try to push boundaries.

Also, you're not taking a vow of service here. If you see a client and you realise sex work isn't for you, you can stop. It really isn't for everyone. Yes the money is great but don't do something that you hate, because it will impact your health.

Go to your first booking with an open mind, if it's awful then you never have to do it again. If it's okay then, wahey!
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The undiscovered continent for you to undress

barbie88

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Re: Want to start working but feeling anxious
« Reply #24 on: 21 January 2017, 10:02:24 pm »
Like I said lost my nervousness after a few month and recently I have become nervous again and only going to work when I need money but once I'm working I'm ok. We are all different Hun and like the other ladies have said it can be amazing money but it's not for every one X

katrina

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Re: Want to start working but feeling anxious
« Reply #25 on: 21 January 2017, 11:00:33 pm »
Some lesbians don't go near men even for pay was where I was coming from. A bit like some men can't go gay for pay.

If they do it might be traumatising. If they can then all is good. :)


Its slightly different for men to go 'gay for pay' because they need to get a hard on, we can just use lube...


Regarding being 'traumatised',  the OP has already researched having sex with men for money so I'm sure she's considered this aspect and any woman who has ever done sex work knows that they don't have to be attracted to the client to give a good service :-) 

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Re: Want to start working but feeling anxious
« Reply #26 on: 21 January 2017, 11:16:55 pm »
Ambera, I'm worried that going into sex work is going to make you stressed and anxious, especially if you don't enjoy the sex much. Have you thought about doing something like stripping or camming instead?

You don't need to be a particularly sociable person to be an escort, but it does make things easier if the normal social niceties and chit-chat come fairly easily to you.

I don't think you'll know for sure until you start actually seeing clients, but I'm a bit concerned that if you come over as nervous/uncertain you could be taken advantage of by some less desirable clients who will push boundaries.

Just please be careful, whatever you decide.

I would second this advice.

To the OP, I am a fairly introverted person and to a degree also quite shy. When I first started working many years ago, I worked for a few weeks in a sauna (2 girls on a shift and we took it in turns) and through doing that initial stint I learned the ropes a little bit, but for me being so new it helped a lot especially about knowing what was expected of me. It gave me some experience of different types of customers (and that in itself was a shock!) and then after a few weeks, I started working in the West End of London in a flat with a maid and it was a smooth transition from there to moving around and doing my own thing. Then I finally went independent. Only because you have no experience am I suggesting this but I would personally advise AGAINST working completely alone or from your own home for now. You are going to have to go through a bit of a culture shock with this line of work and a steep learning curve in respect of assertiveness, safety, knowing how to screen customers, learning how to spot timewasters, how to diffuse dangerous situations, etc. You have to learn it somewhere but I don't believe working from home or alone initially is the way to go because until you fully have your wits about you (which comes from experience), it's just too easy for you to be taken advantage of or worst.

meetingdiversity

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Re: Want to start working but feeling anxious
« Reply #27 on: 22 January 2017, 12:06:20 am »

Its slightly different for men to go 'gay for pay' because they need to get a hard on, we can just use lube...


Regarding being 'traumatised',  the OP has already researched having sex with men for money so I'm sure she's considered this aspect and any woman who has ever done sex work knows that they don't have to be attracted to the client to give a good service :-)

I am learning. :)