Should I give up escorting because of my husband?

[Scottish Emily]

My husband says he is happy for me to work as an escort but his behaviour is very confusing.
Sometimes he calls me a "cheap whore" Tonight we argued about something else and all of a sudden he said "go shag some guys" He also calls me bitch which he knows I hate.
I know you guys will be thinking yeah right but otherwise we have a happy marriage except for financial stress.
All the money I make goes in a box and he never touches it, I'm saving up.
He himself used to go to escorts before we met and he fully understands its simply a job with no emotional attachment.

I have asked him if he wants me to leave the job if he is unhappy about me doing it and he has said "it's entirely up to you what you do"

He is self employed and works very hard and is a great husband apart from this emotional abuse related to my job.
He is also a fantastic father to our 2 year old son.

The money will really help us and obviously I'm reluctant to give up my job because of that but I feel it's affecting my marriage and could cause long term damage. When he says these things it makes me feel so upset.
Any advice appreciated.

[xw5]

My husband says he is happy for me to work as an escort but

.. he's clearly not really.

What you do about that is up to you.

[Scottish Emily]

Well he says he is and if he was that upset about it he surely would ask me to stop!

[Daria00]

I don't want to be nasty but in my opinion maybe is worth to give up on husband. He has not right to call you any bad names. He must respect you and if this is choice which you did together then he should just accept it. I am in relationship too and if my darling will call me "names", he will find his things outside the house next day. If escort job doesn't work for you then give up for yourself but you must make a choice on what you will like to do.

[Scottish Emily]

I'm looking for advice please not for people to say I should get a divorce because there is no way I'm doing that and no need to do it. I'm very happy apart from this 1 issue thank you very much!

[VoluptuousCurves]

There's no way I'd be giving up a career I enjoyed because my husband was incapable of keeping a civil tongue in his head.

[Daria00]

Talk to him then and tell him that his behaviour is painful and you prefer give up then destroy relationship. If he says that he prefers just carry on without you working then you must make a right choice. If he will say that he is still happy you to work then say that you don't wish any comments about your job.
You are doing it to give your child better life so he should just accept it and support you emotionally as escort work can be enough hard.

[DanielleMidlands]

Chloe, your marriage is worth more than the money darling. He is saying he is happy, because like you say you guys are in financial difficulty. He clearly is not. This job and the money is not worth losing your relationship over. Relationships survive money troubles, they don't survive this job. If a man is accepting and compliant of this job, then I would take that as a bad sign. I say husband/family before job Just my opinion, wishing you all the best xx

[mature helen]

He's not supportive of your choice to escort. Its up to you if you can live with his attitude and comments I know I couldn't if it were me I'd have to choose one or the other.
Escorting might make you money but it obviously isn't helping your relationship.

[RR]

Have you thought about going to escort-friendly counselling, even via Skype, to talk about this?

Escorting can put a lot of pressure on a relationship, even if the other person has experience of being a client. Whilst I'd also say name calling etc is abusive, if you're looking to work through the problems together, it can help to sit down in a neutral environment and talk through it.

I'm actually going out tonight, but I'll drop you a whatsapp tomorrow xox

[Scottish Emily]

It's so confusing and upsetting. The money is mainly to save up for a deposit to hopefully buy a house this year. Also I want to take my little boy who is my whole world to Disneyland Paris for his 3rd birthday in July.
I have complained about his behaviour and he says sorry but continues to do it.
I don't see why I should give up the job and money just because of his behaviour but on the other hand I don't want my marriage to suffer.

[The_Lynx]

Me and my partner get exceedingly nasty to each other every once in a while (we both have a nasty temper and some personal issues), yet he's never once resorted to using my job as an 'ammo' in an argument. Of course, circumstances differ but I'd say it does indicate your hubs isn't happy about it.

Personally, I'd not give it up, but I don't take well to people telling me what to do.

[VoluptuousCurves]

My suspicion is that even if you do stop escorting, he will still abuse you about it during arguments. He's going for the cheap shot. Resolving that means changing your communication styles (both of you probably) so that when you argue you can reach a resolution rather than trying to wound each other.

[mature helen]

This job is the main reason I'm living the single life as I know its rare for a man who doesn't meet you as an escort to accept it no matter what he says, your husband is most likely saying hes ok with it because its something you want to do for a better future, maybe his ego is bruised because you have to escort to make these things happen.
I was in a relationship with my daughters father for nearly 20 years. I wasn't an escort when we met but I became one from early on in the relationship in order for us to have a better life, he has never once in the 35 year's in total I've know him had an argument over my work or had him show me disrespect...ever.

[LittleMinx2]

It sounds like maybe he isnt fully ok with it. Which you could try talk to him about. Explain the names are really hurtful and it confuses you when he brings up your job. Escorting can be great, but you could look into other things. You could become a cam girl and make videos to sell. This is a more hands off approach and can make good money. Your husband may prefer this. =)