Should I give up escorting because of my husband?

[MandyVine]

My husband says he is happy for me to work as an escort but his behaviour is very confusing.
Sometimes he calls me a "cheap whore" Tonight we argued about something else and all of a sudden he said "go shag some guys" He also calls me bitch which he knows I hate.

When he calls you names like cheap whore or bitch is it after a argument that has something to do with your job?  If so, I'd say it's the job that bothers him but if not, I'd say he uses hurtful names when he's upset and it doesn't have to do with the job--just a bad habit.

I wish you all the best, hon.  It sounds like a very tough choice.

Mandy

[mature helen]

As a side note, I never discussed my work with my ex, I never divulged how much I earned, what my day was like and what I got up to in my bookings.

[jett-setta-go-getta]

hi there I think he is worried about you clearly love your family we all say things that in the heat of the moment that we don't mean its just words they cant hurt you this job can some times be very stressful and dangerous at times why not spend some quality time to gether as a family have a mini break you both deserve it I support you know someone in a similar situation and yes they are still together and still in love  x

[BibiofLeeds]

This job is the main reason I'm living the single life as I know its rare for a man who doesn't meet you as an escort to accept it no matter what he says, your husband is most likely saying hes ok with it because its something you want to do for a better future, maybe his ego is bruised because you have to escort to make these things happen.
I was in a relationship with my daughters father for nearly 20 years. I wasn't an escort when we met but I became one from early on in the relationship in order for us to have a better life, he has never once in the 35 year's in total I've know him had an argument over my work or had him show me disrespect...ever.

My partner of 3 years is very supportive of what I do and has never used it against me in an argument.Someone mentioned earlier that they would take a partner being ok with it as a bad sign but believe it or not some partners can accept that it is just a job and be mature about it.
No partner should ever call you names regardless of what you do for a living.
It sounds to me that he is the type of person who would say something else personal to hurt when you are having a row so if not whore then 'fat cow' or 'thick bitch' etc.
As has been said you really need to sit down and have a heart to heart with your husband and make a decision about it from there.Easing into webcamming might be a good compromise to see if this makes a difference to him and his choice words.

[BibiofLeeds]

hi there I think he is worried about you clearly love your family we all say things that in the heat of the moment that we don't mean its just words they cant hurt you this job can some times be very stressful and dangerous at times why not spend some quality time to gether as a family have a mini break you both deserve it I support you know someone in a similar situation and yes they are still together and still in love  x

Words can hurt though,emotionally and psychologically and that can be harder to get over than physical injury.

[jett-setta-go-getta]

cant b any worse a pain than labour and I got over that just about lol

[Curvygal]

Deep down, you know this:  he's not OK with you doing the job.  He is trying to be, but he is throwing it back at you every argument so it's simmering under the surface.

If it was me, I'd have a long chat with him about it.  Try to get him to tell you how he really feels in a calm grown up way, if he's not OK with it and tells you so, you can go from there.

I can't tell you what to do but what I can tell you is if it were me, and I loved him and my relationship was great in every other way, as you say yours is - my husband before my job, every single time.  Only you can make the decision to stop but I know what I'd do. 

Good luck sweetie. 

[Green Carnation]

'Go shag some guys'. Really

If somebody, not to mention my husband, said that to me, that would be it. Well anyway he clearly is not ok with your job, doesn't accept what you do, never will etc etc. Expect him to get more brazen, and soon.
 My advice- change the job, or a husband, depending on which you think is going to be better for you in the long term.

P.s i have a 'boyfriend' and he would never dream of talking about my job in that manner, we only speak about my job, when I choose to tell him, which is very rarely. If somebody who doesn't have to 'shag other guys' for money started to mock my profession he would not see my face ever again, ever ever ever

[Kay]

I don't want this to sound harsh, but I doubt what any strangers say on an online forum is going to help you make any sort of decision - perhaps demonstrated by your response to the suggestion of leaving him. Only you know the state of your marriage and what, if anything, can be done to make any necessary reparations.

That said, I agree with some of the other ladies about his terminology and what it suggests he thinks about you escorting.

[ladyofthemansion]

Fuck him off! He sounds like a total wanker. It's your fuckin pussy. X

[lillybliss]

Of course he isn't going to like your choice of career but calling you name's like that isn't on in any shape or form regardless of what you do for a living and as vc mentioned even if you stopped he would probably still use it in arguments against you, a nice guy wouldn't behave like that, your doing a job that can sometime's be difficult so that you can both have a home of your own and you can take your little one to Disney, personnely if I had a partner (I don't want one) and he spoke to me like that I would get rid of him carry on escorting work a little more, save a little longer, still buy my own property and take my little one (if I had a little one, mine's grown up now) not to Paris but to Disney land Florida instead x.

[Daria00]

Have you thought about going to escort-friendly counselling, even via Skype,

That's good idea. It is worth talk to your husband and maybe go for it together.

As someone said we can give you advice but we don't know exactly situation.

[Mirror]

My partner of 3 years is very supportive of what I do and has never used it against me in an argument.Someone mentioned earlier that they would take a partner being ok with it as a bad sign but believe it or not some partners can accept that it is just a job and be mature about it.
No partner should ever call you names regardless of what you do for a living.
It sounds to me that he is the type of person who would say something else personal to hurt when you are having a row so if not whore then 'fat cow' or 'thick bitch' etc.
As has been said you really need to sit down and have a heart to heart with your husband and make a decision about it from there.Easing into webcamming might be a good compromise to see if this makes a difference to him and his choice words.

I have a suspicion that if Chloe stops, the name calling will not.

[Gypsy]

I have a suspicion that if Chloe stops, the name calling will not.

Yes, me too. My ex was verbally abusive. I wasn't doing this job then but if a man thinks if's okay to treat someone this way then it doesn't matter what job you have. They will still talk to you the same regardless.

[SweetAngel]

Yes, me too. My ex was verbally abusive. I wasn't doing this job then but if a man thinks if's okay to treat someone this way then it doesn't matter what job you have. They will still talk to you the same regardless.

This.

Also I don't think anyone can help you with this except YOU. We all have different priorities and different limits. Some girls wouldn't accept any offensive girls. Me personally won't accept anyone calling me those names. I know girls having normal job but their partners are bullying them constantly so I don't think it's because of your job. It's because of him. However I am not willing to talk against your husband or your marriage. It's just my opinion that in one good relationship there is a respect on first place even before the love. Basically what I mean is that you have to ask yourself what are your priorites, what's your goal and what you want to achieve by saving the money from this job. And mostly, what are your accpections from your husband, how you see your self in few years?