I went back to escorting because I like the money. It's never been about sex for me; it's a job. A well-paid job that afforded me a lot of opportunities in my life. Now that I'm older, it affords those I love opportunities as well. I enjoy my job insofar as I do meet some interesting people now and again - I find stories of lives terribly fascinating, and I seem to have one of those faces/personalities where people like to spill things to me. People think escorting is all about sex, and whilst its true that I have a bucket-load of sex in my job, I also spend a lot of time listening to people's problems, hearing about people's issues, and being an escapism for some men - whether or not they realise it. My last client admitted that he isn't very experienced, and struggled to maintain an erection, or come - a lot of that was reassuring him, treating him with respect, asking him things and perhaps having patience that he hasn't encountered before in civvy life. So even though I don't do my job to get off, and never have done, I can still enjoy my job and be very positive about it.
Despite what I do, I am monogamous, and so is my relationship - we have frank, open discussions about trust, commitment and honesty. There hasn't been infidelity on either part. If anything, it's probably brought us closer because we have had to talk about things, and in turn, my partner has had to trust me. Knowing your other half is out having sex with other people for money is kind of a mind fuck I suppose, and I maintained for years I would be single whilst I was an escort. But love happens.
My partner has never asked me for money, never inferred anything to do with money - if anything its me that buys little things here and there, I know its 10 days before payday and I've had a good week, so I'll go and spend ?50 on food for us, I'll take us out for a nice meal. Right now my partner is miserable at work and I would love to take us away for a nice last minute break, once I've paid down some bills I absolutely must pay. If it was expected, I would never entertain it, but its not. I do these things out of love, like I would do if I was in a well paid office job or whatever. My partner would never enjoy me talking about the sexual aspect of my job; I talk about the funny stories. And if I'm honest, once I close the door, unless its had an emotional or amusing impact on me, I forget about it anyway. I talk more about conversations I've had with clients about topics, in the same way other people talk about co-workers - I wrote a blog that a client was chatting to me about, on whorephobia, and that was more interesting to me.
My point is, in this long post, that it's a spectrum of experiences for those in relationships - some people enjoy the sex aspect, some people like the money, some people are just of the opinion that its a regular ol' job. It's not a one size fits all.
Topic: Should I give up escorting because of my husband? (Read 6389 times)