dinner date? Money?

[LoveJoyBreathe]

Newbie question!

New client. Doesn't want to screen so we are meeting before hand and he is showing me an ID. He originally wanted to schedule for 3 hours. We are now making it for 4 hours and labeling it "dinner date"

Usually I have clients leave money out or in bathroom, where it never exchanges hands. How would I do this with a new client on a dinner date? What do I say?

Maybe he could put it in my purse at a non descript time then I go to the bathroom?

that is what I am thinking, though will be careful how I word it. "If" you would like to pay my donation rate, please put it in my purse and surprise me!"

[carachameleon]

Well, I'm guessing you're based in the US because in the UK (where this board is primarily based on), prostitution is legal and there isn't a need to faff about the payment.

You could always meet in the room first and then settle it there as you would with other bookings. Otherwise, he could put the money on the table in a card or a book. He could call that a gift for you. And I would be very careful about him having access to your purse unless it was completely empty.

[Lotus300]

Yes, if you are in the United Kingdom, Canada, New Zealand and several Australian states, there is no problem receiving money in exchange for sexual services. (In Canada and Northern Ireland it's a crime to buy sexual services but not to sell them). So there's no reason to hide yourself or be afraid.

I often worked in the United States (New York in particular). If you are in the United States, buying sexual services and selling sexual services are both illegal.

But there is no reason to worry either. You can very well receive a gift from a man in public without doing anything illegal... It is not written in your face that you are an escort, that this man is a client and that the gift is a payment for sexual services ...

Then tell your client to place the money in an envelope at the beginning of the meal, or in a gift bag. Place the envelope or gift bag in your purse saying thank you. 10 minutes later, say you need to go to the bathroom. Verify that the amount of money is OK.

I did it at least 10 times in New York without a problem.

 Do not worry! Good luck!

[LoveJoyBreathe]

Thank you so very much! Amazing advice. Also! Seems I may enjoy moving to another country:)

Perhaps not a bad idea with the crazy state of affairs in America...

[Miss_Lorrainne]

Why doesn't he agree to be screened? Agree with not letting him have access to your purse. He can put the money in an unsealed envelope in a small gift bag or book/magazine so it looks like he's giving you a present or returning your book/magazine. I think this looks better than him just handing over an envelope and you putting it away without opening it, in front of other restaurant patrons.

[Lotus300]

Why doesn't he agree to be screened?

For one or more of the following reasons:

1) He is fearful or paranoid.

2) An escort or a pimp has already tried in the past to extort money from him or to blackmail him through screening information.

3) Because it is a crime in the United States to buy sexual services and he does not want to run the risk of destroying his career / business / family.

4) Because he knows he would not pass the screening test...  I hope it's not the case!


In fact it is very rare that this is the fourth case. This is almost always because he is an "important" man who does not want to take any risk.

Thank you so very much! Amazing advice. Also! Seems I may enjoy moving to another country:)

Perhaps not a bad idea with the crazy state of affairs in America...

According to the New World Happiness Report (about the happiest countries in the world) my own country of origin, Canada, ranks 7th, New Zealand 8th, Australia 9th, USA 14th and the UK ranks 19th.

But we must also take into account the laws on the sale and purchase of sexual services. The place where the laws are best for us is New Zealand. It is also a country where the climate is good and the New Zealanders are very nice.