Dom or sub

[DDD]

Following the good girl thread thought i ask a question are you a submissive or dominant, ok i know there are these who travel between the two but if you had to put your flag in one camp which would it be.

Although i can take the Dom role i am far easier when i am being submissive, reading this forum over the few months i have been here i am wondering if most of you here are?

[BlaqHarlot]

Submissive for me.
I enjoy it a lot and many of my bookings tend to have me being the sub. I did switch a few a times and it's certainly not for me! But fair play to the Don women! I like submitting.

I would definitely like to explore more BDSM aswell.

[Curvygal]

Dom.  I've experimented with sub bookings at various times but they've often made me angry!

[Wailing Banshee]

Well I have a sub side in real life- though am currently in domme mode with partner (we switch about!)

For escorting domme with very very occasional sub bookings with well known clients.  I just can't do with random strangers!

[Kit]

Sub. Although it depends on the client... if I think a firmer hand is needed, I can switch to a mild Dom just to keep things in order

[The_Lynx]

Neither. I don't really enjoy power dynamics in the bedroom.

[DDD]

Neither. I don't really enjoy power dynamics in the bedroom.

I am not asking because of dynamics in bedroom, i wonder about personality!  i find it somewhat strange that people on here get upset at being called a good girl for example. I would have thought that anyone working as an escort has a submissive side but what do i know!

Please don't get offended ☺

[Kay]

I'm also a neither, though if you twisted my arm I'd say I probably lean to the dominant side in general, and I do provide a very specific, mildly dominant service to a few clients; however when it comes to actual fucking I'm quite happy to be ravished by someone who knows what he's doing in bed.

I view men and women as equal, but different and don't really have much time for BDSM - just not my cup of tea.

[Scottish Emily]

I'm sub and always have been.

[Miss_Lorrainne]

I would love to learn how to provide BDSM services! I'm not very active in bed as I prefer he do all the work  so probably I'd sub so long as there's no serious pain involved. Outside of the bedroom though I'm all dom.

[meetingdiversity]

I used to be very sub but prefer when I take control. I can only dominate during tie and tease funny that. But if one wants me to take the piss out of his small cock is an area I can grow in.

Many bookings are lovely though I don't get many dominating roles. But at the same time won't feel submissive if they are yanking on my head I usually stop and ask them nicely not to do. When needed in rare heated situation I can let clients know who is boss.

[BibiofLeeds]

I am not asking because of dynamics in bedroom, i wonder about personality!  i find it somewhat strange that people on here get upset at being called a good girl for example. I would have thought that anyone working as an escort has a submissive side but what do i know!

Please don't get offended ☺

Why would working as an escort mean you have a submissive side?I like to be in control in a booking even if I sometimes let a bloke say spank me as part of a booking.I can act submissive if the booking  requires it but ultimately it doesn't mean I am naturally submissive or dominant,work sex is work sex and I am playing a role.
More often that not I am dominant in the sense that what goes on is set by me.Sex for money I don't think has anything to do being submissive unless that is exactly what you are offering as a service.
I don't feel submissive by default because I choose to sell sex.I am very much in charge of me and my body.As for what people get upset about,that is to do with what us as individuals find distasteful rather than anything to do with being dominant/submissive.
I personally don't like being told I am a good girl like a pet dog because I am an intelligent,mature woman and I find terms like this abit patronising and condescending.

[Kay]

Why would working as an escort mean you have a submissive side?I like to be in control in a booking even if I sometimes let a bloke say spank me as part of a booking.I can act submissive if the booking  requires it but ultimately it doesn't mean I am naturally submissive or dominant,work sex is work sex and I am playing a role.
More often that not I am dominant in the sense that what goes on is set by me.Sex for money I don't think has anything to do being submissive unless that is exactly what you are offering as a service.
I don't feel submissive by default because I choose to sell sex.I am very much in charge of me and my body.As for what people get upset about,that is to do with what us as individuals find distasteful rather than anything to do with being dominant/submissive.
I personally don't like being told I am a good girl like a pet dog because I am an intelligent,mature woman and I find terms like this abit patronising and condescending.

Well said.

[mature helen]

I no longer offer any sub or dom sexual services as I don't like role play etc.
I know I could never be a sub in bed especially with a punter so my flag would have to be in the dominant camp.

[VoluptuousCurves]

I am naturally dominant with clients although I sometimes think that's because I've spent half my life in management positions! I like doing "Teacher" roleplays where I'm showing them exactly how to please a woman. I love tie and tease bookings too.

With my personal partners I show more of a submissive side although not to a massive degree. It's more just encouraging them to be confident and to tell me what THEY want, and a bit of hair pulling, light spanking. I do find it a turn on when my BF just spins me round and bends me over, rather than saying "Oh darling, I really want to fuck you from behind now, is that okay?"