Rimming

[HS1978]

Hi,

I'm very new to escorting and have only seen 4 clients, today I rimmed my client, this is the first time I have done this. I am a little worried that he had a large tag of skin by the hole, is this a skin tag, hemorrhoid or a wart? I'm now worried I may catch something. 

[Miranda111]

Hi HS1978,

Althought I am not a health care professional, my understanding is that the things you catch diseases from are generally unseen, as they result from bacteria or viruses (which you can't see) - things like skin tags don't fall into such a category.

miranda x

[meetingdiversity]

I use dental dams for the bum and have seen a few warted/skin tagged ones thinking gross while using a toy on them.

[xw5]

If it was smooth, then it was probably a skin tag or haemorrhoid, but this is probably not the best time to try something new like that, or to go 'I am not sure what that is, but I will lick it anyway...'

[Kay]

If you've got a strong stomach, Google 'anal warts', but hopefully it was just a skin tag. As xw5 said though - if in doubt, steer clear!

[HS1978]

Thanks for the advise, it sounds like a skin tag, certainly not a wart having googled  .

How often do you come across anal tags, it did not look pretty, but I felt kind of pressured to rim him. 

[katrina]

How often do you come across anal tags, it did not look pretty, but I felt kind of pressured to rim him.

I've seen them a lot (when doing strap on) and most men's bum holes aren't pretty, one of the reasons I would never give rimming to a man, not to mention the more specific risks involved.  Why did you feel pressured into doing it,  its a specialist service and I wouldn't consider it part of a GFE or most PSE either. No offence to anyone who chooses to but its not right that you were pushed into it.

[Kay]

Thanks for the advise, it sounds like a skin tag, certainly not a wart having googled  .

How often do you come across anal tags, it did not look pretty, but I felt kind of pressured to rim him.

Don't feel pressured to do ANYTHING you don't want to, and also make sure your list of likes/services is clearly listed on your profile or site - and that it only includes stuff you want to do. Or at the very least, check in the screening phone call if there's anything not 'standard' that the client is looking for.

[mature helen]

This is why some punters just love new escorts especially if they don't have the confidence to say NO I don't offer that service.
Don't do anything you are not comfortable doing.
There lots I say not to.

[SuperCheese]

This is why some punters just love new escorts especially if they don't have the confidence to say NO I don't offer that service.
Don't do anything you are not comfortable doing.
There lots I say not to.

+1

I only really offer the regular services. I've had a few asking for more and I say what I offer. I give them directions to the door if they're not happy with what I provide.

[HS1978]

Thanks for the advise, I felt pressured as he held my head to is bum hole, while I was giving him oral, and held it there telling me to rim him, I felt like i had too by the tone of voice and slight force he was using against my head.

[meetingdiversity]

Thanks for the advise, I felt pressured as he held my head to is bum hole, while I was giving him oral, and held it there telling me to rim him, I felt like i had too by the tone of voice and slight force he was using against my head.

Tell who does that next time not do and force yourself up my inner strength kicks in when they be forceful. I push back my head and politely ask them not to do, something I don't like for example them forcing my head down during oral.   Never feel you have to do because they want you to. We are in charge in the booking needs to be portrayed without letting on.

[xw5]

Thanks for the advise, I felt pressured as he held my head to is bum hole, while I was giving him oral, and held it there telling me to rim him, I felt like i had too by the tone of voice and slight force he was using against my head.

You always do what it takes to get out of there in one piece, but for most people pushing boundaries like this would be 'stop that, now, or the booking ends, now' time.

[VoluptuousCurves]

Thanks for the advise, I felt pressured as he held my head to is bum hole, while I was giving him oral, and held it there telling me to rim him, I felt like i had too by the tone of voice and slight force he was using against my head.

What can be really useful is practising what words to use when something happens that you're not comfortable with.
A simple "I'm not comfortable with this" does the trick in most circumstances, but it does take some practise before you'll be comfortable (ha) saying it.
"I don't offer [X]" is also a good phrase to practise.

Visualise yourself in the situation where you might be put in (i.e. his thrusting his bumhole into your face) and say out loud the phrase you will use.
I know it sounds like a load of hippy "believe in your positive self talk" crap but this really does help me.

Also don't have anywhere on your profile, or mention in person/on phone that you are new. Guys will really try to push boundaries as they think you won't feel confident to stop them.
If guys said "I haven't seen your profile before" I always just said "I've only just moved to this area" or "I've never advertised on X site before".

[BlaqHarlot]

Thanks for the advise, I felt pressured as he held my head to is bum hole, while I was giving him oral, and held it there telling me to rim him, I felt like i had too by the tone of voice and slight force he was using against my head.

Bless you! There are some horrible "clients" out there who love to take advantage of new escorts. As others have said don't do anything you're not comfortable doing.

If a client asks for something you do not do, or do not list on your profile just say politely "I don't do that" or "that's not on the menu" and do something else. If they continue to pressure you, warn them you will terminate the booking if they continue to attempt to push boundaries. I know how it feels to be pressured to do something and it can be hard plucking up the courage to be firm but polite. X