Would you date a client?

[BibiofLeeds]

It's mainly about sex or it will always center around sex, whilst you may get his "company" and trappings which come with sex,  Not many escorts have a monogamous relationship where men are solely committed to her except few where they probably met outside escorting.  Punters will always be punters, paid or unpaid.

My partner is an ex punter and is monogamous to me.However I only met him once as a client then met him again socially through industry friends where we got to know each other away from the bedroom and I asked him out.
Personally I would be wary of dating a bloke who has only ever seen me for paid sex.It is easy to get carried away in the moment and with a person that actually doesn't exist (he only knows you as Leilaalexis the escort,you only know him as nice client)
Most guys who ask this question after a couple of bookings are just trying to get a free shag at the end of the day.
By the way saying that because someone appears charming and good looking means they have no problem getting dates for free doesn't really add up.Clients punt for all sorts of reasons.He could actually be married and want action on the side,he may be actually quite shy around civvy women or he could actually be a complete shit away from his bookings with you.
Not all clients are hideous and 'need' to pay for sex.

[SheilaStar]

To my way of thinking this is not really being hypocritical. Dating is entirely separate from punter/wg situation. Private civvy life to me would not include dating a man who sees escorts. 

I know there is a lot of conflict on this subject but am only stating how it is with me.

Playing the devil's advocate, with this logic, civvie men wouldn't date a woman who sees punters?

[Justine]

Playing the devil's advocate, with this logic, civvie men wouldn't date a woman who sees punters?

There have been many men on other forums discussing this and they have stated they would have no problem dating escorts. How honest they are being is anyone's guess. Or perhaps it is their fantasy to date a wg as she would be horny 24/7 and he would get sex on tap.

Pigs flying overhead, watch out! 

[SheilaStar]

There have been many men on other forums discussing this and they have stated they would have no problem dating escorts. How honest they are being is anyone's guess. Or perhaps it is their fantasy to date a wg as she would be horny 24/7 and he would get sex on tap.

Pigs flying overhead, watch out! 

That sounds like punter forums though. My point was that it is hypocritical for us to have a problem with men who pay for sex, but expect civvie men not to have a problem with women who get paid for sex. I think there are lots of punters that I wouldn't date, as there are lots of civvie men who would have a problem with our job. But I would like to believe that there are cases of both civvie men and clients who would turn out to be good partners. It may not be common but some of the testimonies here and in other threads prove that.

[Justine]

As a wg I don't have any problem with men who pay for sex, of course I don't! When I am in civvy life though I would not want to date a punter.

Make of that what you will but it is my stance.

[BlaqHarlot]

As a wg I don't have any problem with men who pay for sex, of course I don't! When I am in civvy life though I would not want to date a punter.

Make of that what you will but it is my stance.

That's your choice at the end of the day.
There are men who are punters who wouldn't dream of dating an escort, others who wouldn't mind it. Civvie men who wouldn't dream of dating an escort and others who wouldn't mind it either. It's everyone's personal preference and that's fine. It may well be hypocritical to some, but if you are looking for a life partner it's entirely your choice to be picky and hypocritical in my opinion.

I have dated a client, last year, he was no different to any normal civvie male, he wasn't a frequent punter and had only seen three girls in the one year he had started paying for sex. I personally wouldn't rule out dating a client myself if he was single.

This client in question sounds like he may be doing it to get free sex though so I would be careful and probably not see him again. The client I dated only saw me once for a booking and then a few months later we met up, I was wary that he wanted free sex but he made it clear he wasn't after that and even offered to wait as long as I wanted, it didn't go to plan as he ended up seeing someone else and making her his girlfriend behind my back. They split up recently and he has been trying to meet up with me again since which isn't going to happen lol.

[JustAnotherHooker]

I definitely couldn't take a guy seriously if he had paid me for sex, it would be okay if he had paid for sex with someone else but not me although to be totally honest I wouldn't like a relationship with a guy that had paid for it full stop! Tbh though the kinds of guys I like in my personal life seem to be popular with the ladies so I don't think they would dream of paying for sex imo.

You can see exactly why the punters forum said they'd go out with us; they honestly think that sex would be on tap and it would be dirty etc etc but when your in a relationship your able to say 'not tonight dear' and your able to be selfish too! I reckon most men on the forum can only DREAM of having girlfriend's like us, I know at least 10 men from my sauna days who all post on that forum & believe me they'd be lucky to get together with any of the girls I worked with including myself; we're just too damn sexy for these guys!! 

Let's be honest the majority of clients - well mine anyhow - are too old, too married, too square, too unattractive, not in the least bit sexy and too damn conventional in my eyes for me to ever want to go with them for free, yes I get the odd hottie but then their personality doesn't match their face if you get me?!

Also less desperate types of punters wouldn't want to have an escort as a girlfriend imo, only the old sad ones that don't have a hope in hell of getting sex from a sexy lady unless they pay!!

Each to their own though as I know girls who met their current boyfriends this way and I don't judge them for it and I'm happy for them but it just wouldn't work for me.

[Justine]

Each to their own though as I know girls who met their current boyfriends this way and I don't judge them for it and I'm happy for them but it just wouldn't work for me.

This is exactly how I feel too.

[Leilaa]

That's your choice at the end of the day.
There are men who are punters who wouldn't dream of dating an escort, others who wouldn't mind it. Civvie men who wouldn't dream of dating an escort and others who wouldn't mind it either. It's everyone's personal preference and that's fine. It may well be hypocritical to some, but if you are looking for a life partner it's entirely your choice to be picky and hypocritical in my opinion.

I have dated a client, last year, he was no different to any normal civvie male, he wasn't a frequent punter and had only seen three girls in the one year he had started paying for sex. I personally wouldn't rule out dating a client myself if he was single.

This client in question sounds like he may be doing it to get free sex though so I would be careful and probably not see him again. The client I dated only saw me once for a booking and then a few months later we met up, I was wary that he wanted free sex but he made it clear he wasn't after that and even offered to wait as long as I wanted, it didn't go to plan as he ended up seeing someone else and making her his girlfriend behind my back. They split up recently and he has been trying to meet up with me again since which isn't going to happen lol.

Omg what a Rat  that's awful.... Yes I'm going to stay away I think it's best x

[The_Lynx]

In the abstract, I would. I'd generally much rather have my partner see professionals than anyone else, and I believe genuine, long-term sexual monogamy doesn't work for many people. That said I am not single and definitely not interested in poly arrangements, so have never actually dated someone I met through work.

[LingLing]

I am mixed Asian (Chinese) and in a very similar situation! Guy said he wanted to live fantasy of Asian girl. I am interested how this went Leilalexis xx

[SweetAngel]

If you really like him go for a date! But be aware that you might lose him completely as a client. I was going out with a client, never had sex for free but we were enjoying our time together so much that we became very good friends.

About being in a relationship with man you met trough escorting I find it normal. When you meet civvie men you never know how often he visits escorts. At the end of the day our clients are also civvie, aren't they?
You never know what a civvie man is doing and you never know what a civvie women is doing as well. Not being escort doesnt stop any women from having casual sex every Saturday night. So I think punters and escorts judge each other too much.

[Leilaa]

I am mixed Asian (Chinese) and in a very similar situation! Guy said he wanted to live fantasy of Asian girl. I am interested how this went Leilalexis xx

In that case he needs to be paying for that fantasy.. .. sounds like he wants free sex. Just be careful x

[Chanel xxx]

I have been seeing a man who was a client for around 3 months now. He paid me for the first 2 sessions which lasted around 3 days (we really hit it off )
He had a girlfriend when we first met but told he he wasn't happy in the relationship and was planning on leaving her. Him having a girlfriend didn't put me off as I really liked him and was sure he would get round to cutting her loose.
Now he has split up with her, he now tells me that he cannot consider making me his official girlfriend until I give up escorting and get a 'normal' job. ?
I am thinking about it as I wasn't ever planning on escorting for ever but I cannot stop right now?! I need to work for at least another 3 months - I don't think he will be willing to wait for that long?

[LingLing]

If you really like him go for a date! But be aware that you might lose him completely as a client. I was going out with a client, never had sex for free but we were enjoying our time together so much that we became very good friends.

About being in a relationship with man you met trough escorting I find it normal. When you meet civvie men you never know how often he visits escorts. At the end of the day our clients are also civvie, aren't they?
You never know what a civvie man is doing and you never know what a civvie women is doing as well. Not being escort doesnt stop any women from having casual sex every Saturday night. So I think punters and escorts judge each other too much.

+1

This is how I feel too. Everyone is different though and I respect that.