Would you date a client?

[LingLing]

In that case he needs to be paying for that fantasy.. .. sounds like he wants free sex. Just be careful x

I will charge him and if he doesn't like it he can bugger off x

[SheilaStar]

I have been seeing a man who was a client for around 3 months now. He paid me for the first 2 sessions which lasted around 3 days (we really hit it off )
He had a girlfriend when we first met but told he he wasn't happy in the relationship and was planning on leaving her. Him having a girlfriend didn't put me off as I really liked him and was sure he would get round to cutting her loose.
Now he has split up with her, he now tells me that he cannot consider making me his official girlfriend until I give up escorting and get a 'normal' job. ?
I am thinking about it as I wasn't ever planning on escorting for ever but I cannot stop right now?! I need to work for at least another 3 months - I don't think he will be willing to wait for that long?

It's not nice when people give others ultimatums but if he really likes you he should wait. Perhaps that's an opportunity for you to test him. Otherwise, what is the alternative, can he cover your expenses?

I also agree that everyone is different and everyone has the right to choose their partners however they want. I was just being objective regarding hypocrisy etc but at the end of the day it's different strokes for different folks.

[Chanel xxx]

Hi SS
I did think about asking him covering my expenses if I stopped working. But I would feel like an escort on a 'retainer', I wouldn't feel comfortable. If he offered to do so? Yes, I would accept his help as it would make my life a lot easier.
So, I think he will just have to wait until the time is right for me (3 months). If we make it to that long of course.

[SweetAngel]

I wouldn't leave escorting in order to be someone's partner. If he purposes to marry me I would think about it because marriage is much more serious commitment. Switching to "normal" job is big change for most of us and changing your lifestyle completely to satisfy someone's desires is a big NO for me. At the end the chance we split up is big and I will have to start from the beggining (probably spend big part of my savings). Not saying that if you marry you wont divorce but then at least you are more sure in his feelings. Not to mention that probably the bigger part of us have goals and targets which is why we are in this bussines so we build up stable future and leaving all your plans and changing your life completely is somethint that I wouldn't do. Of course that's just my opinion and whatever you decide to do I wish you to good luck. Happiness is what matters 

[BlaqHarlot]

Hi SS
I did think about asking him covering my expenses if I stopped working. But I would feel like an escort on a 'retainer', I wouldn't feel comfortable. If he offered to do so? Yes, I would accept his help as it would make my life a lot easier.
So, I think he will just have to wait until the time is right for me (3 months). If we make it to that long of course.

Has he quit punting for good for you?
Personally I wouldn't be giving up escorting for a man I had been with for such a short space of time, who also had a girlfriend but that's me.

An escort I know dated a client before and she told me how she stopped escorting whilst with him because he didn't like it then she found out he was still seeing escorts behind her back. I agree with SweetAngel that unless this man was going to marry me and it was serious I wouldn't be giving it up. He knew what he was getting into when he met you. X

[SheilaStar]

Hi SS
I did think about asking him covering my expenses if I stopped working. But I would feel like an escort on a 'retainer', I wouldn't feel comfortable. If he offered to do so? Yes, I would accept his help as it would make my life a lot easier.
So, I think he will just have to wait until the time is right for me (3 months). If we make it to that long of course.

I understand. I value my independence but grew up in an environment where sharing was given. When there is someone really special I automatically want to share everything without second thought. It is actually shocking for someone to ask for such  an ultimatum that puts your living at risk and do nothing to support, especially by a man! You're definitely in the right mindset imo. I hope it works out x

[Chanel xxx]

Thanks ladies, your insights have given me a lot to think about 🤔

[sweetmilf]

I married one and sex is not central to our relationship.

if you're happy and no sex is needed, you've done well.  May long it may continue.

[SheilaStar]

if you're happy and no sex is needed, you've done well.  May long it may continue.

I am not sure if Mirror meant no sex by saying that sex is not central. For me sex is also not central in a relationship, sex is great but there are more ways to be intimate. But I couldn't be in a relationship without any intimacy whatsoever.