Things we'd wished we had known when starting out ! That we know now!

[Guiltypleasure]

To save as much money as possible! It's great when you first start getting all this money that you've never had before and indulge in the things you felt like you were deprived off like new trainers/clothes/make up/furnishings. I dread to think how much money I've spent on crap! and I'm still working my way out of debt even now. With this job on the good days they are soooo good but on the bad days when you've got no food and 50p on the electric you'll be soooo happy that you've put some money aside for emergencies.


People are crap and love to gossip. There are loads of people I wish I never told about what I do. Lost a really good friend well not so good as she wanted my money and made me pay for everything then getting blackmailed by my ex.

Only some men will be ok to start a relationship with you not found him yet. Be wary that most just see you as a meal ticket to buy them stuff or for free sex like bragging to their mates "I'm shagging an escort for free"

Yep been there it's hell ! , I like to tip etc that's my prob plus I've had a lot of time off due to unexpected cramping etc and it soon dries up FFS x

[CocoChanel]

when I started there was no internet so it was harder advertising and finding places to work at. I wish Id had the courage to travel UK and make serious money to buy a house. But I was so naive, the sauna girls would have eaten me alive lol.

[VoluptuousCurves]

 When I first started I fell into the trap of thinking that a guy who was nice and complimentary on the phone, who spent ages discussing his fantasy about meeting you for an overnight/weekend and required several hours of texts/calls was to be relied on because he would definitely book... Any day now...

Now I have my tier system.
Tier 1: calls, greets me by name, says his name and he would like to book for x day/time for y hours, for my GFE/Alt service. These guys will 99% turn up and be polite and pleasant.
Tier 2: calls on the day, asks my availability, picks a time and duration but maybe hasn't fully  read my profile. 50% of these fail screening.
Tier 3: calls on the day and wants to come right now. 75% fail screening.
Tier 4: sends texts saying "u free", "?", "Hi baby", or calls and says "Give me your postcode" as their first sentence. None of these pass screening.
Tier 5: sends long, detailed texts and emails, or phone calls, describing everything they want to do to you/done to them. Frequently books a date several weeks in advance then cancels a couple of days before as "my travel plans have changed". These guys NEVER come through in my experience, but the temptation is to keep engaging with then because they come  across as so polite and pleasant. I have to remind myself that someone being good on the phone doesn't pay my bills, especially if they're tying up my phone line when genuine clients are trying to get through!

[Guiltypleasure]

When I first started I fell into the trap of thinking that a guy who was nice and complimentary on the phone, who spent ages discussing his fantasy about meeting you for an overnight/weekend and required several hours of texts/calls was to be relied on because he would definitely book... Any day now...

Now I have my tier system.
Tier 1: calls, greets me by name, says his name and he would like to book for x day/time for y hours, for my GFE/Alt service. These guys will 99% turn up and be polite and pleasant.
Tier 2: calls on the day, asks my availability, picks a time and duration but maybe hasn't fully  read my profile. 50% of these fail screening.
Tier 3: calls on the day and wants to come right now. 75% fail screening.
Tier 4: sends texts saying "u free", "?", "Hi baby", or calls and says "Give me your postcode" as their first sentence. None of these pass screening.
Tier 5: sends long, detailed texts and emails, or phone calls, describing everything they want to do to you/done to them. Frequently books a date several weeks in advance then cancels a couple of days before as "my travel plans have changed". These guys NEVER come through in my experience, but the temptation is to keep engaging with then because they come  across as so polite and pleasant. I have to remind myself that someone being good on the phone doesn't pay my bills, especially if they're tying up my phone line when genuine clients are trying to get through!

Bloody great post VC and the ones who I say " I've got someone arriving any sec " and they just carry on talking ! Even when I say call back in an hour or so they still go on , decent guys say " ok " straight away " I'll let you get on when is it ok to call back "

I love the ones who ring and say " are you free to talk " ? Always signals a good guy to me

[VoluptuousCurves]

I love the ones who ring and say " are you free to talk " ? Always signals a good guy to me

Definitely! Shows that they appreciate you are running a business!

[Guiltypleasure]

Yes some totally treat me as a complete businesswoman , they understand how it works and realise what we earn !

I love the ones who say "what da ya mean fully booked, do you get more than one a day "?

I laugh and say have a little think lol

Then the penny drops ha ha xxx

[seraphine]

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[Guiltypleasure]

Like others have said - SAVE.

When I entered this business it was open-ended for me, I didn't have a set up date to retire nor a particular goal to achieve (except for paying off debts). I liked the job a lot and this freelancing lifestyle suited me well.
I thought I will just carry on till whenever...
Initially I wanted to finish uni, which didn't happen as I realized it's not something I want to do. I thought I will 'get a job' and 'have a career', maybe have a family. Eventually I rejected all those ideas and most of what society expects or offers.
I thought I will just keep on escorting.



I didn't know that there will come a point when despite not having particularily bad experiences with clients, I will develop a strong sense of resentment and anger towards men, that my genitals will become almost numb and my body will be repulsed by work.

And if this moment comes - it's good to have savings.
But most importantly - to know that it's possible to heal from every experience in life.

Edit: Just to clarify - I actually don't have savings. But I wish I had 

Yep I had them months later , had to use on bills , mortgage etc , who knows when some medical injury / op will stop us , total nightmare , back this week but oh boy it's been hard especially when you know the ?'s you could be earning , lovely tip at the end Seraphine gives everyone hope , you. Never know whats around the corner xxxx

[Guiltypleasure]

Be really careful who you trust girls or guys , situations change and so do people, jealousy etc. and nice regs can get arsey I you cant fit them in.

 The nicest can turn out to be the worst Guys who want to 'out' you aren't always going to be mean to do it  they are nice and charming ,going to a lot of effort to enable them to gain your trust and get your details etc.

[Lotus300]

The thing I would have liked to know by starting is this: Once you have started this craft, it's hard to get out of it.

To earn a great deal of money, to be his own boss, to have his own hours, to receive constantly the compliments of men, the excitement of a life of travel and adventure, etc. All this is addictive.

On the other hand, if others learn what you are doing, you're going to be a prostitute in their eyes, they'll label you like that for a long time. Maybe for the rest of your life.

If you succeed in having a "serious" job after that, you will constantly risk losing it because of your past work as escort. This will always be a sword of Damocles over your head.

I knew many girls who said, "I will do this time to finish my university, time to pay my debts, etc." But who in fact have never been able to resume an ordinary life.

Beginning in this trade often means that you will not be able to go back.

[Lushblossom]

Who would wish to return to a civvie job not me for sure!  Much prefer my freedom and not having a boss or team of colleagues to cope with, restrictions on hours etc.  No way.

[Guiltypleasure]

The thing I would have liked to know by starting is this: Once you have started this craft, it's hard to get out of it.

To earn a great deal of money, to be his own boss, to have his own hours, to receive constantly the compliments of men, the excitement of a life of travel and adventure, etc. All this is addictive.

On the other hand, if others learn what you are doing, you're going to be a prostitute in their eyes, they'll label you like that for a long time. Maybe for the rest of your life.

If you succeed in having a "serious" job after that, you will constantly risk losing it because of your past work as escort. This will always be a sword of Damocles over your head.

I knew many girls who said, "I will do this time to finish my university, time to pay my debts, etc." But who in fact have never been able to resume an ordinary life.

Beginning in this trade often means that you will not be able to go back.

Also its not alwas you it can affect family if you have children they will grow up and who knows what they'll do .

I remember that girl on X factor or you've got talent who did real well then, the papers found out her Nan had a few gentlemen friends( Cher or something )

Her family found out and they all totally fell out and wouldn't talk to her at all, she was dreadfully upset and ended up on 'This Morning' trying to justify 'her few boyfriends' it didn't wash with the family.

Makes me cack myself but you have to take the good with the bad in this job !
However I still feel incredibly selfish , but I love my job but it wouldn't be understood at all !

[Iloveginandtonic]

On my first ever day of working I let a guy stay 10mins over his time because he hadn't 'finished' yet.
I thought it would be rude to kick him out before he had cum!  I relied on a clock and kept forgetting the time the client arrived!  Nowadays I set an alarm and my clients are always out the door promptly soon as their times up!

Take control! You need to show the client your in control, do not allow them to control you or do things to you that you do not feel comfortable with! 

Do not trust that a client is going to arrive until he is ringing your apartment buzzer!

Do NOT provide discounts! When I first started I would often give ?10 discounts and think it was worth it because it was a lot of money.  Half the time these clients turned out to be boundary pushers and tried to stay over their time.

You can NEVER have enough stockings! I used to go through around two pairs of stockings every time I worked because they would always ladder... now I opt for the thick material type.


You are not alone.  The job can be isolating and it can be hard being secretive, but there are plenty of other girls in the same boat. Saafe is a great way of meeting others, and I have met some lovely people along my way.

[Guiltypleasure]

That's a Lovely post ILGAT because yes , well for me I don't socialise at all and haven't one civvie friend as I have a great cover story but I'm not a natural liar at all.

Work yes , I should of gone into acting , but in general life , I find lying horrible , I've always prided myself on my honest !

Stockings I try and stick with the same style because I ended up with so many odd black lace tops but now I buy the same .

I also wear a watch , check it on initial cuddle , greeting or say " ok whats the time" but really friendly,
Especially if they're ten mins early .

I check it again when I'm on top and lean forward to give them a kiss, and again during bj because after I've looked them in the eyes a few times and said " ooh can you see what I'm doing  / can you see my big ( real) red lips around your cock " they have a look and shut their eyes ( quick time check)

[Guiltypleasure]

I also now say ( instead of eeeerm) , if I don't like the sound of them or they don't sound ok for me , I'm fully booked but I'll take your name if I get a cancellation and save number with ' sounded weird ' or something lol xxx