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Londonpartygirl

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So I am touring in New York, and I met this guy tonight who I caught filming me.

This guy works in finance, and I went to his stunning multi-million $ flat in SoHo.  So if you get my drift, and not boasting because this ended up being one of the worst nights of escorting in my entire time doing this,  I don't think he wanted to make money from filming.

I don't know when the filming started, but I went to use his bathroom to freshen up. I tried to put my things on his dresser but he kept moving them around to the site. I think deep instinctually this alerted me...along with him standing directly in front of his bed.
After this, we started kissing, and slowly undressing - in the corner of my eye I saw what looked like a camera lens under a pile of folded clothes. I didn't want to sound paranoid, so I pretended to get something from my bag and I noticed it was actually a lens. I lifted up the clothes to find a fancy camcorder.

I confronted this about him and proceeded to tell him to give me the camera to delete the scene. He was fumbling around. I was trembling like crazy. We finally deleted it off the camcorder - but as you know you can retrieve these files back if you want.

I was crying and upset. I confronted him to tell him how he could he do this to me? He wanted me to leave and pushed me out. He said it was just for him to watch afterwards. I found a letter with his real name in the flat, in case I needed his real details.

I'm terrified because I do this so discreetly, I don't show my face at all. Do you think I can take his word for it? I think he has a lot to loose since he would be in the video kissing, and there was only a little stripping. But now I am scared he will out me.

I need a rational voice ladies, I've been having severe anxiety chest pains since it happens and no one to turn to here.

Thank you ever so much in advance.

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Re: Need calming down - Client filmed me without my permission
« Reply #1 on: 16 June 2017, 06:26:18 am »
Hi there

First of all I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It happened to me with a long-term regular only a year or two ago. The shock was immense. The only thing I can say is that hopefully he's only done it for his own gratification, and won't take the steps to out you. There's not a lot you can do because if you demand further action to destroy his camera/harddrive whatever there's no way of checking it's not somewhere else.


Report him to Ugly Mugs.

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Re: Need calming down - Client filmed me without my permission
« Reply #2 on: 16 June 2017, 07:07:41 am »
Or send him a letter to his name and address and let him know that any use of that recording would get him into a lot of legal trouble. This will have him shit on his pants and will think twice before pulling the stunt with another girl next time. Don't write your name on the letter. He's probably not going to do anything with that video specially because there's no hot sex or anyhting, I would relax about this if I were you. A lot of guys do this to watch after and jerk off to it. What a di--k doing it without your consent, he's actually breaking the law. Report this guy to ugly mugs and other sex workers network because ladies should be warned about him.
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« Reply #3 on: 16 June 2017, 08:52:26 am »
Or send him a letter to his name and address and let him know that any use of that recording would get him into a lot of legal trouble. This will have him shit on his pants and will think twice before pulling the stunt with another girl next time. Don't write your name on the letter. He's probably not going to do anything with that video specially because there's no hot sex or anyhting, I would relax about this if I were you. A lot of guys do this to watch after and jerk off to it. What a di--k doing it without your consent, he's actually breaking the law. Report this guy to ugly mugs and other sex workers network because ladies should be warned about him.

Bang on. This is what I would do.

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Re: Need calming down - Client filmed me without my permission
« Reply #4 on: 16 June 2017, 09:43:32 am »
This is fucking awful !! My worst nightmare .Sorry this happened xxx

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Re: Need calming down - Client filmed me without my permission
« Reply #5 on: 16 June 2017, 10:28:52 am »
Go to the police explain and say he shoved you out too , they are really hot on this stuff now , also I would email him and mention the night and say your worried it's not been deleted, be really nice , go over how upset you were details etc and your shock as it had not been arranged and you don't allow filming and screenshot or print reply .

They will be good , honestly I'm sure as I've said before someone just posted my friends name on facebook and their not even a member, police deleted immediately and gave them a house call !!!

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Re: Need calming down - Client filmed me without my permission
« Reply #6 on: 16 June 2017, 11:59:33 am »
Go to the police explain and say he shoved you out too , they are really hot on this stuff now , also I would email him and mention the night and say your worried it's not been deleted, be really nice , go over how upset you were details etc and your shock as it had not been arranged and you don't allow filming and screenshot or print reply .

They will be good , honestly I'm sure as I've said before someone just posted my friends name on facebook and their not even a member, police deleted immediately and gave them a house call !!!

I am not sure if you caught the bit where she's touring in the States. But I would definitely not recommend going to the police in places where prostitution is illegal. As it stands, going to the police may worsen the situation and pose problems should she wish to return to the US.

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Re: Need calming down - Client filmed me without my permission
« Reply #7 on: 16 June 2017, 01:11:09 pm »
Go to the police explain and say he shoved you out too , they are really hot on this stuff now , also I would email him and mention the night and say your worried it's not been deleted, be really nice , go over how upset you were details etc and your shock as it had not been arranged and you don't allow filming and screenshot or print reply .

They will be good , honestly I'm sure as I've said before someone just posted my friends name on facebook and their not even a member, police deleted immediately and gave them a house call !!!

Going to the police? No way! She's in the states, what she was doing was illegal (prostitution), she'll get arrested.
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Re: Need calming down - Client filmed me without my permission
« Reply #8 on: 16 June 2017, 02:58:21 pm »
I've just realised the legal issue.

Londonpartygirl

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Re: Need calming down - Client filmed me without my permission
« Reply #9 on: 16 June 2017, 03:34:53 pm »
Thanks so much for all your kind words,

If this was in the UK I would have gone straight to the police, no issues. It's apparently called Stephanies Law.

Given the toss of being arrested, and my pictures plastered on the internet I would probably prefer to be arrested...

The guy has told me to move on with my life and the files really were deleted, but this is the guy who was filming undercover...you cant trust him.

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Re: Need calming down - Client filmed me without my permission
« Reply #10 on: 16 June 2017, 03:49:38 pm »
I'm really sorry you've been through this.  I haven't (to my knowledge) had a client do this but I have been almost outed so I do empathise.

I can't add anything really, just hope the shit has properly deleted it and nothing more will come out of it, I also hope you've got some good support over there.


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Re: Need calming down - Client filmed me without my permission
« Reply #11 on: 16 June 2017, 11:12:00 pm »
I am not sure if you caught the bit where she's touring in the States. But I would definitely not recommend going to the police in places where prostitution is illegal. As it stands, going to the police may worsen the situation and pose problems should she wish to return to the US.
Shite no sorry missed that , often assume it's uk , my mistake bloody hell apologies , only just logged on !

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Re: Need calming down - Client filmed me without my permission
« Reply #12 on: 17 June 2017, 12:17:39 am »
I'm sorry this happened to you its happened to me I felt totally violated and sick these people are weirdos the fact that he was aggressive to just shows his disrespect towards women horrible specimen of the male species hugs to you

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Re: Need calming down - Client filmed me without my permission
« Reply #13 on: 17 June 2017, 03:09:45 pm »
Jesus Christ what an assh*ole... send him a letter explaining that any use will result in you bringing legal action against him. Sorry to hear you had to go through this.

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Re: Need calming down - Client filmed me without my permission
« Reply #14 on: 17 June 2017, 04:38:16 pm »
Sorry this happened to you! I agree with writing him a letter or an email, stating his full name and letting him know that if he attempts to distribute the content in anyway he will be in big trouble.

This should be enough to scare him off, having his real name is an advantage for you, and by telling him you know who he is and that you'll report him he will sure as hell know not to do anything like that again. X