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cruisecookie

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Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« on: 20 July 2017, 09:43:43 pm »
I started escorting about two months ago and I really enjoyed my short period from being a complete newbie, to learning about advertising, saafe forum, AW etc.

I've not yet achieved my potential here because I am completely horrified about contracting an STD, particularly, herpes. This has made me very paranoid and anxious, considering I am in a relationship with someone who doesn't know I am escorting.

I've never had an STD before or been with someone with visible symptoms so I wouldn't even know how to check for these on a client.

I now know its incredibly selfish to escort behind my partner's back, putting them at risk because I want to gain financially.

I feel terrible that I have to leave so soon. Escorting gave me something fun to do with my extra time and I was really pleased with the money I was getting without exerting myself too hard like I would if I had a regular job.

I don't know what to do at this point. It's pretty much leave escorting or my partner.
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Re: Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« Reply #1 on: 20 July 2017, 09:53:31 pm »
I'm not really sure what to say, except that I've been escorting for nearly three years and have never caught anything. I suspect, however, that going behind your partner's back is actually the bigger issue, and perhaps what you need to sort out.
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Re: Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« Reply #2 on: 20 July 2017, 10:03:21 pm »
Like many others on here, I have been escorting for several years and never had a single sex related health problem. Having said that I have not suffered the terrible fear that I will catch a disease because if that was uppermost in my mind every time I met a client then I could not do the work either.

Being as cautious and safe as I feel I need to be is good enough for me but another aspect of this thread is the OP keeping the big secret from her boyfriend. I can not imagine how difficult that would be, having to cover tracks and lie so much just to do the bookings. Very stressful and coupled with the constant fear of catching something awful would not make a relaxed provider and this in turn would not have men returning so much if they felt the woman they are with is unhappy with the whole set up.

It is not for everyone and even the money can not hold some women to stick to the work for more than a short time.


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Re: Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« Reply #3 on: 20 July 2017, 10:10:17 pm »
Herpes isn't as scary as it's made out to be, many people carry without ever showing symptoms. Pharmaceutical companies made a lot of money decades ago with fear mongering so it carries a huge stigma now.

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Re: Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« Reply #4 on: 20 July 2017, 10:45:31 pm »
Herpes isn't as scary as it's made out to be, many people carry without ever showing symptoms. Pharmaceutical companies made a lot of money decades ago with fear mongering so it carries a huge stigma now.

Exactly cold sores are a form of herpes, most everyone has had cold sores and its nothing to do with sex.  Although if someone is prone to cold sores they're best to only do oral with.

To the Op could you maybe do cam instead or massage only service? I don't see any other alternative apart from stopping completely if you don't feel you can tell your boyfriend and you want to be with him.

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Re: Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« Reply #5 on: 21 July 2017, 12:15:53 am »
It's totally up to you, and what you feel is best. However you say you're worried about STI's does this mean you aren't going to have sex ever again? They can be caught from anyone and one escort may be lucky and never get a thing from a client, but may have one one night stand and catch a dose. So it's best to just look after your health and regularly get screened.

I've worked as an escort for 5 years and with regular checkups I have honestly never caught anything, I've never had a cold sore in my life either thankfully, maybe I'm just lucky!

I do think doing this behind your partners back is the bigger problem and maybe why you're worrying a little more, so definitely have a good think over.

Wishing you well x

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Re: Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« Reply #6 on: 21 July 2017, 07:40:44 am »
Thank you all for your responses. I guess I am not afraid of STIs per se, but passing one to my partner if I contract one from escorting which would just be unfair and he would know I did something behind his back.
I need to think long and hard about my decision at this point...

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Re: Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« Reply #7 on: 21 July 2017, 09:16:12 am »
I started escorting about two months ago and I really enjoyed my short period from being a complete newbie, to learning about advertising, saafe forum, AW etc.

I've not yet achieved my potential here because I am completely horrified about contracting an STD, particularly, herpes. This has made me very paranoid and anxious, considering I am in a relationship with someone who doesn't know I am escorting.

I've never had an STD before or been with someone with visible symptoms so I wouldn't even know how to check for these on a client.

I now know its incredibly selfish to escort behind my partner's back, putting them at risk because I want to gain financially.

I feel terrible that I have to leave so soon. Escorting gave me something fun to do with my extra time and I was really pleased with the money I was getting without exerting myself too hard like I would if I had a regular job.

I don't know what to do at this point. It's pretty much leave escorting or my partner.
 :-\

Belongs we take precautions we will help protect ourselves. Many escort and have a partnersome they know others don't. Secrets about escorting kept away from dates in my short lived petiod made me very paranoid and was a mind fuck. I caved in eventally.

I stopped dating while escorting. But now I have got a bf who knows what I do and supports me. He knows about my leaving escort plans. We couldnt be happier together, moving that aside.

I too will notice the change but if it suits you then do it things will work out.  Leaving your bf to escort isn't worth it having love by my side makes things alot easier. You will struggle to date while escorting things are not a bunch of roses. Yeah the money is great is the only thing about getting sexual with every tom dick and harry.

There arevalot of cunts out there who will disrespectnot only you but all escorts. You will see haveva long hard think about this.

This decision could leave you regretting things.

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Re: Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« Reply #8 on: 21 July 2017, 09:40:57 am »
I think you should be fine as long as you offer only protected services and get yourself checked out regularly!

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Re: Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« Reply #9 on: 23 July 2017, 11:26:19 pm »
okay ladies, so I've decided to give escorting another chance and be more relaxed about it. I do offer protected services and will keep it that way.  Will see a client or two this week and if I am not able to ease my mind I will stop escorting. I've been really nervous and tense from the beginning, and like someone said, I'm sure the clients can feel this vibe.

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Re: Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« Reply #10 on: 24 July 2017, 01:34:47 pm »
okay ladies, so I've decided to give escorting another chance and be more relaxed about it. I do offer protected services and will keep it that way.  Will see a client or two this week and if I am not able to ease my mind I will stop escorting. I've been really nervous and tense from the beginning, and like someone said, I'm sure the clients can feel this vibe.

The best way escorting isn't glamourise as to why I am getting out ASAP. Got a few interviews lined up and a supportive man who will marry me. My mum approves of him. Fuck the fucking client ass wipe dick heads.

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Re: Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« Reply #11 on: 24 July 2017, 03:38:14 pm »
The best way escorting isn't glamourise as to why I am getting out ASAP. Got a few interviews lined up and a supportive man who will marry me. My mum approves of him. Fuck the fucking client ass wipe dick heads.

Good luck in your new life; sounds like you will be MUCH happier away from the fuckheads x

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Re: Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« Reply #12 on: 24 July 2017, 04:35:31 pm »
Good luck in your new life; sounds like you will be MUCH happier away from the fuckheads x

Thank you my bf is coming round tonight to help me prepare me for tomorrows interview. He said today that he can only Marry me when have stopped escorting. As some already know getting out has been a goal of mine. I had my wedding finger measured on Sunday with him. Even with a low paid job he has got a well paid job.

We're like teenagers in love it is great. It helps me a lot with support also he knows how to relax me especially during my anxious times.

I said about if low paid I couldn't afford the rent will need to move, as was going to go part time before phasing it out entirely. He then said sure that I can move in with him if so. He tells me he wants the best for my life.

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Re: Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« Reply #13 on: 24 July 2017, 07:10:12 pm »
okay ladies, so I've decided to give escorting another chance and be more relaxed about it. I do offer protected services and will keep it that way.  Will see a client or two this week and if I am not able to ease my mind I will stop escorting. I've been really nervous and tense from the beginning, and like someone said, I'm sure the clients can feel this vibe.

If you can cope with living with the webs of lies, then you would be fine, but it sounds as if you are feeling really bad about keeping your escorting secret.   What if he finds out?  Is he a type of guy, who would go completely apes**t?    Think about making plans in case he finds out and do something irrational.   

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Re: Thinking of quitting-Afraid of STDS
« Reply #14 on: 25 July 2017, 10:16:40 am »
I am one of those that cannot escort and be in a relationship so I chose the former.

I learnt the hard way and was honest with a partner much to my detriment. We had a wonderful relationship prior to my outing myself and as a result the relationship ended which I do not dwell on but the derogatory words never leave me and as I result I never again want to go down that road.

I hope the ladies in relationships all the luck. Work out what is best for you and keep your escorting life to yourself. What they don't know won't hurt you.