Advice

[Alex6705]

What makes you think he wouldn't accept it?

Just the way he acts if i mentions another man. He seems not quite the jealous type but 'you're mine' sort of thing. I don't think he would be able to understand that work & real life aren't anywhere near the same. Also, we're both early 20's, he's only ever had one long term gf & doesn't seem to have slept around much or experimented. I just don't think he will understand & accept it

[ana30]

Just the way he acts if i mentions another man. He seems not quite the jealous type but 'you're mine' sort of thing. I don't think he would be able to understand that work & real life aren't anywhere near the same. Also, we're both early 20's, he's only ever had one long term gf & doesn't seem to have slept around much or experimented. I just don't think he will understand & accept it

You need to tip your foot in the water, mention in some random conversation that "you found out a old friend from school is a high flying escort in London and her boyfriend is ok with it" act surprised about it,  listen carefully to his response. That will tell you all you need to know. One he tells you change the conversation subject so you don't draw too much atention to yourself.

[Alex6705]

You need to tip your foot in the water, mention in some random conversation that "you found out a old friend from school is a high flying escort in London and her boyfriend is ok with it" act surprised about it,  listen carefully to his response. That will tell you all you need to know. One he tells you change the conversation subject so you don't draw too much atention to yourself.

That's a good idea thankyou. Oh god i feel nervous just doing that lol!

[ParisB]

I would probably tell him that your sick of your job and your going to try webcaming instead or something along those lines
This way Your testing his attitude and reaction to the adult industry
 
If he kicks up fuss then you have dodged a bullet because if he won't accept you webcaming he sure as hell won't accept you sucking a guys cock

[sweetmilf]

If he's old fashioned, never bother mentioning it as you would be risking outing yourself via him. Just end it or change a job if you like him that much.  You're young, you have far more options than some of us, oldies.    xxx

[lady69]

So, i've recently started dating this guy it's been like 3 months. When we first started speaking i told him i work in an office doing admin, i never thought that i'd like him as much as i do. I never really thought the lie of working in an office would be an issue


So the other day my guy asks what i'm upto tomorrow & i say work. He says 'where?' I said 'what do you mean where my work?' I shit myself. He's never really taken interest or asked me about my work until now so alarm bells went off in my head. I was thinking omg he must know he knows! So i googled random admin jobs to prepare. He then said 'You just never talk about work & never seem to to go' I told my friend & she said it probably is bang on that i never speak about work but i just find it easier to not make up lies about me working in an office id rather just not speak about it all. I never thought he would get onto this



So now, i'm thinking i'm gonna have to tell him something. He seems like a pretty open minded person an we've spoke about swinging & what not randomly. So i've come up with the cover story is that i do webcam. It doesn't seem as 'bad' or frowned upon in a mans eyes to escorting.


The other thing is people in my area know what i do, because years ago i got outed on facebook 😞So i'm just thinking if i throw in the webcam story now. If in the future someone happens to tell him that in an escort i will have already explained that it was a rumour.


I just need some advice cos i feel really bad lying but i don't want to lose him at the same time. I've dramatically reduced how much i've been working because my head just isn't in it at the momen & im currently training in beauty & nails. So hopefully i really won't be working & it won't all be lies

Thanks for reading i'm just stuck, i'm planning to sit down an have a chat with him on Sunday so any advice would be appreciated

X

I usually say I work in office admin too but  as a Temp. Meaning I hop from one business organisation to the other at any given time. In the hopes that, I will not be tied to a particular work place.

[Taylor]

Hi Alex,

trouble with saying webcam, is that he would want to see the site etc.. guys are nosey..

[GothGirl]

You could use the webcam story, but what if he asks to see your 'page' or what not ?

I'm avoiding dating all together at the moment as can't deal with the stress of hiding this. Very few men would accept it & will eventually hold it against you IMO. X

[Alex6705]

Hi Alex,

trouble with saying webcam, is that he would want to see the site etc.. guys are nosey..

I thought about this & haven't told him anything yet. I was going to sunday night but i just felt like he would ask loads of questions. So i'm just gonna lie for now about working in the office & carry on doing my beauty stuff. Hopefully when i'm all qualified i can just say i've left my office job