The Deaf Ones

[Gypsy]

My heart always sinks when an OAP contacts me. My general cut off age is 70, but I have seen people older depending on how young they sound.

Anyway, had a 69'er today and he says why the cut off point? I said it's just a general rule for mobility issues. I have quite steep stairs. Anyway, he was okay but a little precious. When upstairs he took out 2 hearing aids and then attempted to make conversation when facing away from me.

Need I say more?  Why do I have an age cut off point? I really do wonder.

That wasn't the worst though. He came all over my bed without warning. He did apologise, but if he said something sooner than it could have been prevented.

[Xkandpx]

Oi im not a oap have to hearing aids lol

[Gypsy]

Oi im not a oap have to hearing aids lol

Lol, it's not so much the deafness, but trying to make conversation without the hearing aids and then saying pardon after everything I said! He also asked personal questions and in general was a bit of a faffer!


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[amy]

Well I'd hoped that this one would die a natural death without comment but as ever we can rely on somebody to bump it.

I'm deaf and have a hearing aid which I don't wear, partly because it doesn't help much and mostly because a few goes with it taught me just how little I was missing. I lip read and have some hearing in one ear so I generally manage OK provided there isn't a lot of background noise or people all talking at once, but I can't hear people if they're looking away from me while they talk either - is there no way you could have gone and stood where he could see you to answer so he could hear you? And I don't really see what his age has to do with anything either - if you have steep stairs then why not just say so?

I used to feel self conscious and guilty about having to often ask people in shops or restaurants or providing some other service to repeat themselves when I couldn't understand them clearly the first or second time they said something. Now I hope it really fucking winds them up.

[foxylady]

Yep, sorry also calling out the deaf thing, as I am also a wearer of 2 hearing aids since 30. 

Still deaf so don't really take phone bookings, rely on texts mostly. 

Regardless of age, hearing aids are a pain in the ass for both the wearer and the other person they can't hear.

My age range is 30-60 now, as I don't particularly like doing older than that, although a couple have snuck in.  Two of us in a room not hearing would be too stressful 

[Gypsy]

Sorry - didn't mean to offend anyone. Funnily enough my first ever client was totally deaf but unlike my latest one he kept his hearing aids in for the whole booking. Didn't have an issue AT ALL with his deafness.

I guess my frustration came from the fact that he took both his out without any explanation, then proceeded to talk in a loud voice, despite knowing I have neighbours on both sides.

And no, I couldn't move in front of him so he could hear me better cos he wanted spanking.

I just thought his behaviour was generally inconsiderate and perhaps for an older man he should have known better. It also annoyed me how he kept pulling me closer to kiss me while I was trying to talk to him. Hate that!

[Guiltypleasure]

It's probably just the title that sounds a bit weird , because he sounds just a bit inconsiderate and an annoying booking.

I've had guys who have hearing difficulties and are unaware so they tend to shout which I find stressful ( due to the noise).

I explain and they drop their voices for about ten secs , but then I have other guys that just have massive Booming voices !

I save as loud voice.

I meet young guys who are a bit dopey too it's personality rather than age IMO 

[foxylady]

no offense taken 

The guy was really just a pain in his own butt! x

[amy]

The guy was really just a pain in his own butt! x

Exactly! It's nothing to do with age or disability - a twat is a twat

[Erotic Masseuse]

I have deaf clients, one the other day had me in stitches, he made the joke, oh you don't have to tell me twice, then said well actually you do. Its funny when I talk dirty to them because I have to repeat myself, then the sexiness goes straight out of the window bless em

[Guiltypleasure]

I have deaf clients, one the other day had me in stitches, he made the joke, oh you don't have to tell me twice, then said well actually you do. Its funny when I talk dirty to them because I have to repeat myself, then the sexiness goes straight out of the window bless em

Yep my boyfriend always misses the stuff I whisper in his ear and says 'pardon I missed that' I just say well I'm not shouting it , it's hardly the same ! He hasn't even got a hearing issue !
But it's obviously different to work and I am more real , rather than use 'work' phrases lol

[Mirror]

My other half wears hearing aids and is older than 69 (although still works and hasn't yet drawn any pension) yes it's a pain to live with but this last month  I've had horrendous issues with wax following a bad cold and now understand what it must be like living with partial hearing. It's very disconnecting and annoying.

I have quite a mixture of ages clients and a twat is a twat nothing to do with age. I did have a client who I found difficult because whenever we met which was outcall in a quiet hotel, he would constantly ask me to repeat myself. With time and my encouragement he did go have his ears syringe,  and seeing me helped him start looking after himself again. Yes he did fall into your OAP bracket, and he did have performance issues. He treated me decently, he was gentle and polite so I returned the respect by being patient and understanding.

Regards the steep stairs I've had much younger clients struggle, and some older much fitter than most. My OH manages the steep stairs in our home daily despite being a blue badge holder, and having a mangled foot (his disability).

Disability or not in my experience is very individual and not related to age.

[katrina]

I've had clients who have pretended to be deaf...A form of 'extra attention seeking' A few elderly guys have made out they can't follow my instructions on finding me but then when I've said something like 'fine, I'll just put the kettle on and make myself a coffee' Suddenly they listened....A regular client once gave me some insight into this annoying phenomena, why he said he kept saying "Eh?" just because he liked hearing my voice. 

[Gypsy]

I had a deaf client this morning who was very much nicer than the one I started this thread about!

[Mirror]

I've had clients who have pretended to be deaf...A form of 'extra attention seeking' A few elderly guys have made out they can't follow my instructions on finding me but then when I've said something like 'fine, I'll just put the kettle on and make myself a coffee' Suddenly they listened....A regular client once gave me some insight into this annoying phenomena, why he said he kept saying "Eh?" just because he liked hearing my voice. 

One client sounded fine on the phone, no hint of hearing problems. I advised I would send directions by text to a place where I could point out my door, asking "Is that ok?", "Yes" he replied. Just before his appointment time he phoned me from way down the road unable to hear me because of the traffic, told me he doesn't read texts. There then followed a lot of frustrating shouting, tooing and froing until eventually he found me. Once inside it was obvious he could hardly hear a word I said, he was also very discrete, and an incredibly heavy smoker - lungs crackled and wheezed with every breath, mouth and tongue thick with brown tobacco residue, facial hair unkempt and a very unsightly hernia. I'm used to hernias, see lots but never seen one like this - at first I thought he had a pillow stuffed into his jumper, when naked it looked like a baby about to burst out.

I was ok for the hour, but was unable to accept repeat bookings