New client gave me the willies, should I see him again?

[foxylady]

Ladies,

My extreme reluctance to see new people or get into some sort of work routine, means I've turned down people repeatedly and barely worked again.  To apologise to one guy who I let down yesterday, and have repeatedly put off, I offered him ?10 off my ?100 30 min charge, so as he said he would book an hour he got ?20 off. 

Arrived on time, just from work and he asked for a shower, all fine.  We paid me and we had a bit of chit chat whilst he dried himself and all was fine, got down to business.  As it was an hour booking he wanted to draw out proceedings, that was fine, he was clearly a 'once is enough' type guy.

The thing that weirded me out was, whenever I looked at him during foreplay/sex, he looked at me with 'dead eyes', they just didn't connect at all.  I've only ever seen that with people that have really lost it, like they aren't 'them' anymore. 

Combined with the above, he slapped my fanny a few times, (I don't mind that) but then gently ran one hand around my throat, he might have covered my mouth with his hand after that (but I can't remember absolutely).I am up for a bit of kink, but I no longer advertise that or list anything except vanilla, I mean really vanilla   

The kinky stuff doesn't bother me by itself, it was the eye thing that unnerved me, everytime I looked at his eyes during sex, I thought I may have a problem.  Except on ejaculation obviously!    Am I being paranoid, he may have just had a weird concentration thing going on when he's 'having it off', but I didn't like the unease it gave me.

He was fine at the end of it, seemed to have enjoyed himself and the sex wasn't bad.  He said he would definitely see me again.  (I take that with a pinch of salt til I do.)

Ok, so please ladies, do your stuff..........I am guessing many of you will say 'go with your gut', honestly I barely make any money and he was very persistent in seeing me.  (But then psychopaths probably are)

I would love to know whether any of you have experienced a similar look and are still here!

Thank you xxx

[MsLadyV87]

hum that really is a hard one. I think personally it all comes down to how it makes you feel and if your comfortable and spending time with someone like that. We are all different and work differently with different kinds of people. Sounded like overall he meant no harm but if you feel something doesnt seem right, then its ok. Ive had a couple like that. For meeting people like that, a one off is fine but I choose not to see them again.

I saw one guy and he had a serious problem with his eyes!! cant describe it but got on my nerves as couldnt decide if he was on something, partially blind (not a problem of course if this was the case) or he was just plain weird. I chose not to see him again. So comes down to how you feel

[Rosie13]

You?ve answered your own question, he gave you the willies, don?t see him.

[Guiltypleasure]

Please take this in the nicest way possible ( it's really meant that way) but you sound really terrified, if your refusing all those bookings and had been putting him off for ages etc .

Is there anyway your feelings might of rubbed of on him , everyone picks up vibes from everyone else all the time .

I can usually tell if someone's nervous or in a bad mood in everyday life through non- verbal communication ie body language .

Perhaps he picked up on your nervousness and it escalated his .

It's always a risky job , we can only try and minimilise it as much as possible but we still have to take a chance .

Sometimes it's best to throw yourself in so you don't have too much time to overthink but still be aware and if you don't like someone's tone of voice or their manner don't see them , no question .

But if it's becoming everyone who calls maybe you need a break, recharge and rethink ,

Hugs from an over thinker too .

[foxylady]

I know the inner voice says 'don't', but it may be because I have (in my personal life, a very long time ago) been on the 'receiving end' of the actions of a guy whose eyes went like that.

It would be turning down very good money though, and he may well be ok, but i guess it's not worth it.

Not sure what I would say to him though if he asks to see me again......"your eyes go scary when you are fucking"...lols x

[Rosie13]

If you?re turning down bookings, is it worth having a look at your profile to see if there?s anything you could change there?

I had a horrible experience in a D/s booking and reverted purely to GFE and over the last year or two I?ve built up my services to include kink which I?m now fully comfortable and confident with. Do what you are comfortable with and what you know will bring you in money. I love a fair amount of kink privately but in my work life, I need to feel really on top of my game to offer it. Strip your services back until you gain some confidence.

I stand by my original comment though, don?t see him. X

[foxylady]

GuiltyPleasure, thank you.  I'm never nervous and confident at what I do (the reluctance to see people is i'm really worried about the neighbours and new tenancy, plus I need to give myself a good kick up the ass and get on with it!)

It was the eye thing that unnerved me, but he may well have fed off that a bit (the eye thing is scaring her, I will do it more, cue villainous laughter) x

[ana30]

Never mind about us, do YOU want to see him again?

 

[Guiltypleasure]

GuiltyPleasure, thank you.  I'm never nervous and confident at what I do (the reluctance to see people is i'm really worried about the neighbours and new tenancy, plus I need to give myself a good kick up the ass and get on with it!)

It was the eye thing that unnerved me, but he may well have fed off that a bit (the eye thing is scaring her, I will do it more, cue villainous laughter) x

Ah now I get it (M&M add) !

Bloody hell you should read my posts from when I had my work flat and a mega nosey neighbour right from the get go ....OMG I was in a state , completely different ball game , neighbour downstairs , in all day , even told me could here me when I had an upset tummy and used the loo , she was up all night listening ( I don't work nights) all day every day she was in , she put a note under the door saying she could hear everything in capitals blah blah.

She told me she was trying to sell , I bought really expensive rugs etc , then I lost the plot put music on full blast ( I'd been creeping about like a mouse) shouted

"Wanna hear some noise do you ? Well this is going on all day everyday from 9-11pm and I'm going out , I've checked with council and there's fuck all you can do  , I've put a complaint in about you and opened a dispute so good luck with your sale because nobody's going to touch your property now your in dispute"lord even shouted for her to keep an eye on her cat because it shits in everyons gardens !!

I knocked with the note and she was my age and quite Bolshy to start with but once I've lost it that's it !

Told her she could have kids screaming all night , people rowing etc and that I'm quiet and keep myself to myself , she packed it in then, mind you I did add I know some people who want this flat then you'll be sorry !  ( not recommending behaving like a nutter like me)

She was fine after that but all I mean is I was totally totally paranoid and a nervous wreck it really affected me and I got the jitters bad when anyone came in the building plus I made them uncomfortable too I'm sure

Guys even commented on my 'nervyness'

Not me at all , got some good advice on here and I felt fine after a few months , try not to worry , maybe try and do a few days away and come back fresh and keep low key a bit until you feel better x

[Guiltypleasure]

Oh I did explain on the phone I had to be careful of the noise to guys calling , just so they knew in advance .

[Guiltypleasure]

GuiltyPleasure, thank you.  I'm never nervous and confident at what I do (the reluctance to see people is i'm really worried about the neighbours and new tenancy, plus I need to give myself a good kick up the ass and get on with it!)

It was the eye thing that unnerved me, but he may well have fed off that a bit (the eye thing is scaring her, I will do it more, cue villainous laughter) x

Ha ha I call em shark eyes , I had one who never said a word and didn't kiss either , a young guy I asked if he wanted something else and he said no , he'd paid and left after the action but then I looked and I'd left a syringe out ( ha that I use for a little lube) calpol one think I freaked him out .

He looked like a young Peter Sutcliffe when the beards first came back in fashion !!! Lmfao

[Kay]

You?ve answered your own question, he gave you the willies, don?t see him.

+1

[Gypsy]

Ooo, I had someone like this during the summer! Exactly what you describe with the eyes. He just kept staring blankly at me! He showed no emotion, no facial expressions. Just kept staring. Thing is he didn't do anything else like you've had with slapping and the throat thing.

Just kept staring and moving his head from side to side! 

Anyway, in my case I have seen my guy several times since. He doesn't stare quite as much now but his saving grace is he is submissive and affectionate. Wouldn't see him again if he was dominant!

[Guiltypleasure]

Ooo, I had someone like this during the summer! Exactly what you describe with the eyes. He just kept staring blankly at me! He showed no emotion, no facial expressions. Just kept staring. Thing is he didn't do anything else like you've had with slapping and the throat thing.

Just kept staring and moving his head from side to side! 

Anyway, in my case I have seen my guy several times since. He doesn't stare quite as much now but his saving grace is he is submissive and affectionate. Wouldn't see him again if he was dominant!

Lol yep freaky isn't it !

[VoluptuousCurves]

OP are you in South Yorkshire? I've seen a guy like this, he even held my head still and directed me to look into his eyes. He also tried to put his hand on my throat but I told him to stop. I chatted with him after the booking and he was perfectly okay, explained he had a fetish for breath play and if he came back would I be willing to do that... I was like LOL NO BRO.