thanks for all the fantastic replies, must say you all summed up what i was thinking! its like an ongoing, real life episode of black mirror, i remember one client told me he felt that ordering an escort was easier than ordering a pizza... and a similar process at that! in a weird way i find it comforting that doctors surgeries and gyms have the same problem, that its not just me or escorts that get messed around. doing this job has made me so sympathetic to others, and i never cancel appointments, i pay on time, and it makes me think about what goes on behind closed doors in businesses. i think as you say we are very low priority to these guys, and as i am low volume i find it difficult to replace a booking that has cancelled short notice, especially if it was booked in advance and i turned away other guys. i also think that it doesn't matter how many precautions you have, i have high rates, low volume, and stringent vetting and still these things happen.
everything is about convenience and they want it now! not in half an hour, not in half a day but now! its when regulars of 3 or 4 years transform from loyal and super reliable to slinking away and failing to even inform you that they cannot make the booking and avoiding all contact that really winds me up, the guys that have spent thousands on me on overnights in the past and heaps of man hours talking, and then they still do that! it shows me that we really do not know them at all, and they generally do not give a hoot!