Getting married with a punter

[Kanzaki]

Hello ladies,

After meeting so many great men doing escorting, I honestly think that I could possibly fall in love and marry one in this line of work rather than in my ciivy life. I am seriously considering this option if I had the occasion, as you get to know the person (intimacy), and also you meet more diverse people you wouldn't meet in your normal day life... so ladies...good or bad idea?
xxx

[Mirror]

Hello ladies,

After meeting so many great men doing escorting, I honestly think that I could possibly fall in love and marry one in this line of work rather than in my ciivy life. I am seriously considering this option if I had the occasion, as you get to know the person (intimacy), and also you meet more diverse people you wouldn't meet in your normal day life... so ladies...good or bad idea?
xxx

Depends on the person you get involved with! I don't think you can generalise.

[Jessiegirl]

Yeah I agree and in the same situation.

[seraphine]

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[Kendall]

There is ladies on here who have ended up happily with an ex client, personally I find paying for sex a repugnant trait in a potentional partner (hypocrite I know) I would expect monogamy as flawed a concept it is but it depends on what you want in a relationship

[Rosesugar]

Happy to see them as clients but certainly don't want to marry any of them.
They serve a purpose for me  as I do to them

[VoluptuousCurves]

Interestingly I met a new client yesterday who definitely had the potential to be upgraded to casual boyfriend status. He booked 2hrs and I usually want to claw my face off by the end of that long of a booking, but I was really chilled and just enjoying the conversation.

But I've already got a child and I definitely don't want a husband or live in partner. I think guys who are genuinely okay with you continuing sex work whilst in a relationship are few and far between. They definitely exist, but they are not the norm.

[Dolls]

Happy to see them as clients but certainly don't want to marry any of them.
They serve a purpose for me  as I do to them

+1

[Kanzaki]

What do you mean by 'great men'? What do you find great about them?

I have met many horrible people, very nasty boyfriend in the past. This escort life has give me a hope there isn?t only bad men out there, so I thought maybe it can be a good idea to date a client, or even settle down at some point, but everyone is different I suppose, worth asking what people think as I might ?dream? a little too much 

[sherbet_dab]

There is ladies on here who have ended up happily with an ex client, personally I find paying for sex a repugnant trait in a potentional partner (hypocrite I know) I would expect monogamy as flawed a concept it is but it depends on what you want in a relationship

Absolutely this.

I absolutely wouldn't get involved with anybody who I knew to be a punter. I've read enough on the punting forums about how a lot of men who visit escorts think of and treat their wives, and it repulses me. I expect monogamy, and likewise, I won't get into a relationship while I'm still an active escort, because I don't want to be with a bloke who's OK with me doing it. I know a lot of escorts do have partners and it works for them, but I couldn't cope with it I don't think. Especially not somebody I'd met in that scenario.

[seraphine]

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[martine21]

There is ladies on here who have ended up happily with an ex client, personally I find paying for sex a repugnant trait in a potentional partner (hypocrite I know) I would expect monogamy as flawed a concept it is but it depends on what you want in a relationship

100%. I don't even see clients as human really, they're just another cock to me. Don't get me wrong I give them a good time; I suck their cock, listen and nod at the appropriate moment, but the second they're out the door I've forgotten them.

I couldn't mentally see them as anything else than a punter.

Makes the me feel sick at thought of shagging one for free.

(Yes I'm jaded lol)

X

[Dolls]

Regardless of the hourly rate, the intimacy we offer is cheap.
Normally people would have to spend time, make some effort to build trust and connection. It's work.
'Intimacy' during the booking feels good, gives a high but it's not real.

In my view most of the punters who habitually pay for sex are men with various issues. Or are not very self-aware to put it mildly.
On top of this it's hard to assess someone's character based on an hour or so of sex, when they will tell you all you want to hear so that you will perform for them with enthusiasm.
What I found very precious when I started escorting was that men confided in me and I could see a side of them that they wouldn't normally share. It made me understand and appreciate them more. It was a great feeling. But it's just a small piece of the puzzle.

I wouldn't look for a partner among punters as the chances of finding someone decent are very very slim but also leaves you vulnerable for manipulation by freebie-hunters and the like.

There are truly good men out there and there is hope and happiness. It's unlikely to find it with a punter though.
At the moment I'm working on my own issues and I'm not interested in having a partner.
But one day, I believe, I will stop gravitating towards harmful relationships and will meet one of those good guys who will like me for who I really am

+1

[Kay]

Someone who's nice as a client might not necessarily make a good boyfriend - it's a completely different dynamic.

[Flame]

What do you mean by 'great men'? What do you find great about them?

+1

Someone who's nice as a client might not necessarily make a good boyfriend - it's a completely different dynamic.

+1

100%. I don't even see clients as human really, they're just another cock to me. Don't get me wrong I give them a good time; I suck their cock, listen and nod at the appropriate moment, but the second they're out the door I've forgotten them.

I couldn't mentally see them as anything else than a punter.

Makes the me feel sick at thought of shagging one for free.

(Yes I'm jaded lol)

X

+1

Happy to see them as clients but certainly don't want to marry any of them.
They serve a purpose for me  as I do to them

+1