Getting married with a punter

[neutralC]

I have met many horrible people, very nasty boyfriend in the past. This escort life has give me a hope there isn?t only bad men out there, so I thought maybe it can be a good idea to date a client, or even settle down at some point, but everyone is different I suppose, worth asking what people think as I might ?dream? a little too much 

I don't think they were horrible in first month/hours when you met them? Meaning how could you know person in such a short time?

[Jessiegirl]

I was in a really bad abusive relationship before and not seen anyone since. Since I started this job I've met so many lovely guys and one in particular I have become close to.
He feels more like a friend and we text each other all the time and always there if I need someone.
I think in time our relationship will change especially once I leave the industry and can see us together. Maybe marriage could happen in the future as he is totally in love with me and I'm getting there too.

[ana30]

If we're saying that all people who buy sex are unsuitable romantic partners regardless of the situation which led to them wanting to do so are we also saying the same about people who sell it, or is the rank hypocrisy alive and kicking as ever?

"I sell sex and I'm good but he buys sex so he's bad".

The rank hypocrisy is still quite alive and kicking I'm afraid 

[foxylady]

Hmmm.........interesting thread.

I always thought I would prefer a man that doesn't punt, but I've started to change my view of things to be honest.  I think (some) men who punt are more enlightened and would possibly make better partners than non-punters but then that is a massive generalization too.

I guess now (although I am definitely not looking) I have really lovely clients and although I haven't met anyone that I feel that way about (as in wanting a relationship with) I can see the possibility of it happening more and more, because there are so many different reasons guys see wg's.

I have a lot more respect for guys who pay than the ones that want free sex from dating sites, I find that really distasteful to be honest.

Also, as a romantic (and I love a love story) I find it incredibly heartwarming that ladies have met their other half's and married them, from meeting them as a wg/client relationship.

We are all different so there is no definitive answer.

Although utmost respect to ladies who have stumbled across someone in this way that has become marriage material, not being naive here, but gotta give kudos to a man that can accept this as purely 'work' that shows strength of character and confidence.

[Dolls]

Hmmm.........interesting thread.

I always thought I would prefer a man that doesn't punt, but I've started to change my view of things to be honest.  I think (some) men who punt are more enlightened and would possibly make better partners than non-punters but then that is a massive generalization too.

I guess now (although I am definitely not looking) I have really lovely clients and although I haven't met anyone that I feel that way about (as in wanting a relationship with) I can see the possibility of it happening more and more, because there are so many different reasons guys see wg's.

I have a lot more respect for guys who pay than the ones that want free sex from dating sites, I find that really distasteful to be honest.

Also, as a romantic (and I love a love story) I find it incredibly heartwarming that ladies have met their other half's and married them, from meeting them as a wg/client relationship.

We are all different so there is no definitive answer.

Although utmost respect to ladies who have stumbled across someone in this way that has become marriage material, not being naive here, but gotta give kudos to a man that can accept this as purely 'work' that shows strength of character and confidence.

+1
Imo if a client wants to take it further with a wg, there is something in it for him (emotional/physical satisfaction etc) and the same applies to wg. Its something to figure out on your own and compute in your mind and go for it if you think its worth it.

[MelissaS]

I have a lot more respect for guys who pay than the ones that want free sex from dating sites, I find that really distasteful to be honest.

I feel really strongly about this! This and just generally messing poor girls around because they purely just want sex and can't bring themselves to be honest about it because they know most girls won't want just that!

It totally amazes me how people have such horrible and negative views towards punters simply because they punt. (After all, this is your job and without punters you'd be out of a job) I think it's a lot more respectful for them to pay for it than to use people and drop them like shit.

And I'll add that I don't condone cheating under any circumstances, but surely it's better for these men who are in unhappy or sexless relationships/marriages or whatever, to pay for an arrangement rather than getting into a full blown emotional affair with someone??

Just my thoughts x

[MelissaS]

I will also add that I too have been in some awful relationships with horrible men and doing this job has shown me that there are actually some really nice men out there.

[Meetingdiversity]

I guess not all find clients bf material,  they pay that is all just like not all clients see escorts as gf material. It works both ways.

I would rarther have a guy who doesn't pay for sex than the latter.

Don't know really what is attractive about a male whore.

I am in a relationship with my goals they will be more loyal to me. I bet if you conducted a survey most clients don't have respect for us.

They be nice or they will get no sex which is grand with me As a transaction.

Have a great evening.

[Guiltypleasure]

Yes and although we don't know them properly , usually you don't if it's a dating site , I've met loads of guys and not old ones I might ad .

who are just dipping their feet back in the water so to speak .

Some have been bereaved /divorced and not ready to date properly so it's a simple solution to a natural need for physical and ( if it's offered ) emotional support.

Quite a few girls have married clients and are very happy.

I dated a guy for five years , not a punter but understood for me it's just work nothing else , just be careful because with all due respect you sound vulnerable and someone will smell it a mile off

Don't take offence it's meant nicely , but I do believe it's possible to meet a good guy

[Dolls]

I feel really strongly about this! This and just generally messing poor girls around because they purely just want sex and can't bring themselves to be honest about it because they know most girls won't want just that!

It totally amazes me how people have such horrible and negative views towards punters simply because they punt. (After all, this is your job and without punters you'd be out of a job) I think it's a lot more respectful for them to pay for it than to use people and drop them like shit.

And I'll add that I don't condone cheating under any circumstances, but surely it's better for these men who are in unhappy or sexless relationships/marriages or whatever, to pay for an arrangement rather than getting into a full blown emotional affair with someone??

Just my thoughts x

Totally agree, its better to pay for sex than prey for sex. In an ideal world, how nice it would be to have single and respectful clients who pay, get service, leave/repeat.

[Wailing Banshee]

I don't think I'd want a relationship with one of those regular punters who sees a girl a week, hangs about on forums and writes long wank fodder reviews. I think it is a hobby many of those types would find hard to give up and I think I'd be concerned about being some sort of trophy whore.

However, the kind of chap who sees escorts once in a while or only sees escorts when single can be as good or as bad as every other man out there and they can't be generalised. I know women who have been very happy for years with ex clients and I have heard horror stories of clients becoming partners and it all going terribly wrong.

The tricky part is negotiating a paid relationship into a romance- Do they just want free sex, but equally if you keep demanding money for time together he might think you only care about his . Then there is the danger of losing a perfectly nice regular client if things go tits up.

I wouldn't go there again, even if I didn't have Mr Wailing Banshee!

[bedazzled45]

i met my bf doing this and been six years now ,but must admit if we argue he does bring it up sometimes which isnt nice at all but the arrangement we have is good for me now not sure about in the future though x

[Justine]

i met my bf doing this and been six years now ,but must admit if we argue he does bring it up sometimes which isnt nice at all but the arrangement we have is good for me now not sure about in the future though x

In what way does he bring it up if you do not mind the question? Doesn't sound very encouraging to me, so he is ok with your job until you have a tiff and then he makes negative comments?

[bedazzled45]

yeah justine he does makes nasty comments when hes had a drink , tbh the situation suits me at the minute otherwise he would be gone and thats the truth i dont drive he does so takes me to bookings etc i no its not good but for now am ok with it x

[Jessiegirl]

It must be hard for a partner to cope if you are having sex with other guys. I couldn't deal with it if I was in their shoes. I have a high sex drive and really enjoy sex with a lot of my clients. My fave client is probably the only one I would consider dating but i know he wouldn't be able to deal with me enjoying myself with other men. He's a sensitive guy.
Maybe when I leave the industry I would give it a go with him.