Lots of sex reducing desire for going out getting it in personal life

[lou19]

Before i started escorting i was a big party girl i  was pretty much always out with friends meeting guys having the odd one night stands, had f- buddies from time to time , some become boyfriends etc.

Then as an escort, at first i could never orgasm with them unless i was attracted to them which was rare. Now these days im finding a lot of clients (like most of them? who last longer than 10 minutes) are giving me orgasms through penetrative sex. When theres moments of no eye contact even very old, or fat, ugly men i closes my eyes to think of someone i fancy is in me.

Now i get on average probably 2-3 clients per day, some days there wont be any while other days the most ive ever had was 6. Theres times when im sick and tired of penis's, but being able to regularly orgasm with them now helps a little to make up for it.

Since last christmas, ive only been out for  no more than a few nights, i just dont have any desire for meeting new people as i get it a lot from escorting especially overnighters. Sometimes its like im having more fun with regular clients than i do with people in my personal life. The only thing i really miss is the love of a boyfriend, but then some regular clients are so lovely to me and treat me like a princess its amazing.

And the sad thing is, though i feel a little guilty about it, everytime my friends ask me if i want to go out with them i bring up some lying excuse that i cant go.

What are your thoughts?

[Yorkshire Rose]

I like having sex as me, I dont fake it with clients and some can really make me orgasm (lots can't - no stamina!!) but I think that as much as I enjoy the sex with clients and don't hold back its still not the same as someone who knows my real name and that i'm doing it for the connection and relationship with someone I have chosen rather than someone who has chosen me from my photos where my face is blurred.

I think though if you are doing so much work sometimes you just cant be bothered, if I have seen 3 clients in one day the only thing i want to do is have a bath, watch tv and relax not get it on....although sometimes I do.

At the end of the day if you are getting satisfied sexually I dont think your body and mind cares where it is coming from and it stops the desire.

[naughtyjas]

I understand what you mean.  I'm the same.  Going out on the pull with my friends just seems like a real hassle when all I have to do is switch my phone on and someone will be along in a minute.

And when I do go out, I just want to catch up with my friends, have a little drink and a dance.  No pulling.  I've figured it out and it's because I resent giving it away for free.  It's gonna take a very, very special man to get me to open my legs for free and I ain't met him yet! 

I think being sexually satisfied makes me really fussy.  And working has made me realise that some blokes who I have fancied like crazy when I've opened the door have been real let downs and rubbish at sex and other clients who I haven't fancied in the slightest have been the most generous and amazing.  Kind of turned my world view inside out. 

I do sometimes think I'm missing out, but it soon passes.

Jas x

[Anika Mae]

Why would you feel bad about not wanting one night stands if you're satisfied with work sex? I can understand if you feel that work is holding you back from finding a boyfriend and you regret that, since you should get things from a boyfriend that you can't get from punters. One night stands don't seem to offer anything that you couldn't get while being paid though, and you also run the risk of having crap sex for free.

Is the lack of socialising with your friends a problem for you? If so, you should be trying to spend time with them in ways that don't involve getting drunk and pulling (it's perfectly normal to get less interested in that as you get older). If they're not interested in even meeting for coffee or dinner then it's time to expand your social circle.

[Lucylou22]

If you don't feel like going out and doing that anymore then there's nothing wrong in that and if your friends are real friends then they will do other things with you.

I am a real nana these days but I see friends a lot - going out for lunches, dinners and quiet drinks. Years ago I would go out and HAVE to find someone to sleep with before I went home. Really not sure what that was all about but I suspect it was more of a self esteem thing as I never enjoyed the sex. Just do what you want to do - there is no need to feel guilty.